u/ThrowRAOtherwise-Tea

Hi, my fiancé wants me to be abit slimmer before the wedding day because of his preference to really skinny women. I lost 20lbs in the last 7 weeks due to extreme dieting and he wants me to lose another 10lbs . I am starting to think he does not truly love me and has other intentions with me. We haven’t had sex yet and he makes comments that he can’t wait to be able to throw me across the room
I’m 5’4 and my current weight is 128lbs so I’m not objectively big and my fiancé is around 6’2 and he is very skinny. As July is soon I’m feeling really pressured and find myself skipping more meals now which is impacting me at work I don’t want him to not be attracted to me on our wedding night

My 23f dad (60m) is very traditional and still engages with traditional punishment for disobedience. I live in the western world but my family is very close knit, leaving the culture would mean being estranged from everyone.
Since my mom moved & left my dad and me and my siblings alone my dad will make me cook dinner for him nearly every day, I do all the washing clothes in the house ( my brothers don’t do anything) I wash the dishes even after cooking and all the housework is on me. I don’t have a car so my dad buys the food shopping but everything else around the house I do.
I still have a curfew and he becomes aggressive and intimidates me if I’m not following the house rules, he also banned phone calls and music in the house. He also follows my location when I go out and calls my phone every hour I’m out. He’s tugged my hair which pulled a clump of my hair out and slapped my face for not washing dishes that weren’t mine. He also pulled me by my hair for saying hi dad instead of good morning dad

I still live with my dad as I can’t move out until I’m married. The reason I’m asking the question is because this is masked in my culture and normalised. I also normalised this too, but starting to feel like he knows it is wrong to treat me like a house maid. I feel like he is making me replace what my mom was doing for him.

Sorry if this sounds stupid/ovbious I don’t have anyone to talk to about this and really scared to. My gut tell me it’s wrong I just overthink a lot and will find a way to blame myself

I f23, have so much pressure on me from my dad all the time, he has 7 children 6 boys I am his only daughter and also youngest child.
I live with my dad and he gives me curfew till around 10pm. He constantly accuses me of giving myself up to men if I’m home past 10pm. He storms into my room, doesn’t respect my privacy, he wants me to quit my job because it’s night shifts even though I don’t have much money. He desperately wants me to get married and has found a man from his home country that I should marry and who is coming to see me next month to see if I’m suitable.

Every time I try to put my foot down he thinks I am disrespectful. He constantly speaks about my body and that I need to lose belly fat for men to like me and all the time will say my belly sticks out which is really hurtful. He finds me being on my period really disgusting I got in trouble for accidentally disposing my pad in the toilet bin he uses.
He doesn’t treat his sons like this, I really feel like he hates me but he won’t let me move out unless it is for marriage and he needs to approve of the man.
When I’ve tried to walk away from my dad he will grab my arm or tug my hair when telling me off. I have tried to leave the house but my oldest brother has the same characteristics as my dad and he doesn’t see a problem with this.

In the UK, I was looking at ways I can get a non molestation order against my dad, but I have extremely limited evidence as conversations and other abuse only happens in the house. I researched some of the things I need to show such as coercive control and I believe this is what I experience. My dad also wants to marry me to a man I don’t know and is adamant on this happening next month so the order is quite urgent.
Do I have a chance in getting an order I appreciate any advice.