How do I cope when someone I love is seeing someone else? We work together
Not sure how to cope. Some context, we slept together early last year, he told me he loved me then and some months later during a difficult conversation.
I didn't know how to deal with someone loving me so earnestly and took a ton of time to process my feelings. Figured out I'm in love with him at the end of last year, but every time I've gone to talk to him about it, I found out he was dating someone.
I don't want to be that person to bring up feeling when he's trying to build something. We are also pretty private regarding our dating life with each other, so its hard to know.
He hasn't made this girl public yet, but found out through some behavioral changes and observations.
We've been incredibly close the last 5 years. He's my best friend. Since we slept together it's been so hard wile I'm trying to figure out how I feel, trying to understand boundaries and expectations. We rarely ever talk about it directly, but indirectly all the time.
I've been okay since I figured out I love him, but haven't been able to tell him. Now I'm feeling like I will forever regret not diving right in when he told me last year.
Seems like he's also trying to put up some boundaries between us. It hurts. I don't know how or if I even have the right to talk to him about it. I'm the one who didn't respond. He put it all out there and I just went blank.
I'm so scared I'll never have a chance to say how I feel and I'm so sad seeing him everyday knowing this. I love my work. I helped build this. I also feel terrible being here everyday.
How do I cope?