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I (22F) have been dating my bf (22M) for 6 months now.

I have recently noticed that he talks a lot to Chat GPT. For example, yesterday we were invited to a birthday party and after chatting a bit with my friends, I looked for him and found him alone on his phone typing into CHAT GPT.

This morning, he asked me if I’m bored and I replied “yes” since it’s a Sunday and I have nothing to do. He got offended that I’m bored even though I am with him and then he went silent and started typing on his phone. I asked him who he’s texting, he didn’t reply and I knew right away, it was CHAT GPT again.

I addressed it and he said it helps him regulate his emotions. I told him I find consulting with a robot is probably doing more harm than good. He admitted that he always consults Chat Gpt (his “bro” as he calls it) because it doesn’t critique him and just listens without responding. He says his “bro” is more patient than me and doesn’t react the way I do. Da fuq. So he doesn’t like real human interaction and conversation and prefers a lifeless thing to talk to???

Mind boggling.

For clarification. He is very insecure and also struggling with severe OCD. In the last two months I’ve had quite a few serious talks with him regarding how his insecurities are turning into controlling and manipulative behaviour because he always accuses me of being at fault for his insecurities and asks me for more and more validation while trying to restrict me from certain things.

I don’t mind giving him validation. But with uni, work, the gym, my dog and my hobbies having to give a grown man at least 10 times (no exaggeration, I started counting) validation a day is quite exhausting. It’s never enough for him. I have to reply to the question “Do you love me?”, “Do you like me?”, “Are you tired of me?”, “Are you okay?”, “Everything okay?”, “Are you bored of me?”, “Do you want to breakup?” etc etc soooo many times in just one day.

He refuses any medical assistance and insists on consulting his “bro” instead of a psychologist. I won’t push him to do something he’s not ready for, however consulting Chat Gpt seems so childish to me and so useless. How are you going to consult an emotionless machine and ask it for advice regarding your feelings and your relationship?

Anyway, I was about to get into a petty fight with him and have our CHAT GPTs fight with each other since he likes using his “bros” arguments but I thought Reddit might be a bit less childish. So here I am.

WIBTA if I broke up with him over that?

I (22F) have been dating my bf (22M) for 6 months now.

I have recently noticed that he talks a lot to Chat GPT. For example, yesterday we were invited to a birthday party and after chatting a bit with my friends, I looked for him and found him alone on his phone typing into CHAT GPT.

This morning, he asked me if I’m bored and I replied “yes” since it’s a Sunday and I have nothing to do. He got offended that I’m bored even though I am with him and then he went silent and started typing on his phone. I asked him who he’s texting, he didn’t reply and I knew right away, it was CHAT GPT again.

I addressed it and he said it helps him regulate his emotions. I told him I find consulting with a robot is probably doing more harm than good. He admitted that he always consults Chat Gpt (his “bro” as he calls it) because it doesn’t critique him and just listens without responding. He says his “bro” is more patient than me and doesn’t react the way I do. Da fuq. So he doesn’t like real human interaction and conversation and prefers a lifeless thing to talk to???

Mind boggling.

For clarification. He is very insecure and also struggling with severe OCD. In the last two months I’ve had quite a few serious talks with him regarding how his insecurities are turning into controlling and manipulative behaviour because he always accuses me of being at fault for his insecurities and asks me for more and more validation while trying to restrict me from certain things.

I don’t mind giving him validation. But with uni, work, the gym, my dog and my hobbies having to give a grown man at least 10 times (no exaggeration, I started counting) validation a day is quite exhausting. It’s never enough for him. I have to reply to the question “Do you love me?”, “Do you like me?”, “Are you tired of me?”, “Are you okay?”, “Everything okay?”, “Are you bored of me?”, “Do you want to breakup?” etc etc soooo many times in just one day.

He refuses any medical assistance and insists on consulting his “bro” instead of a psychologist. I won’t push him to do something he’s not ready for, however consulting Chat Gpt seems so childish to me and so useless. How are you going to consult an emotionless machine and ask it for advice regarding your feelings and your relationship?

Anyway, I was about to get into a petty fight with him and have our CHAT GPTs fight with each other since he likes using his “bros” arguments but I thought Reddit might be a bit less childish. So here I am.

WIBTA if I broke up with him over that?