u/ThrowRAsillylady

Me (F24) and my bf (M22) are going through a rough patch primarily regarding his relationship with his sister and I wanna end it but I don’t know if I’m being crazy and need to reevaluate myself.

Him and his sister used to make fun of me and gang up on me ALOT. To the point where I’d go nonverbal (I have autism) i put up with it so much to the point where I cried and I always felt crazy because I was told “it’s just jokes” or “that’s how it is growing up in a Hispanic household” or his sister would say “I don’t feel like I’m ganging up on you” but it was always at my expense and felt like constant ganging up on me. He ended up apologizing and said he acts that way to “fit in” he said he’d work on it.

Time went on and he resorted to rage baiting me in front of her instead of making fun of me. I expressed that I didn’t like that either. I don’t want him to be lovey dovey with me in front of her, I just wanted him to act normal the way he does with me one on one when she’s around.

He said he’d work on it again but they constantly gang up on me. We even had an issue where I’d tell him and his sister no and they’d both pressure me to do / say whatever they asked. I tried setting a boundary saying “I don’t like when you guys pressure me” and his sister said “she up nobody cares, move on” and my boyfriend laughed at me. They’ve both apologized but I feel like that shouldn’t even happen to begin with??

Yesterday it happened again with them ganging up on me and he said he’d felt like an asshole because he didn’t even realize he was doing it.

I know this is wrong to think but the whole time I was talking to him and his sister yesterday I couldn’t stop thinking “I can’t wait to get away and spend time with my friends”

Now whenever I speak to the both of them at the same time I go nonverbal because I’m too scared of being picked on.

I don’t know if I’m overreacting for wanting to end the relationship because I don’t have a close relationship with my brothers so sometimes his remarks about “this is how siblings are” “this is what a Hispanic household is like” gets to me. He’s also told me that I’m sensitive so I feel like maybe I’m just being too much.

Edit: thanks for the input, I was honestly scared to ask because i really did believe that I just didn’t know how to take a joke or understand a family dynamic. I felt like I was being brainwashed at times and it was working for the most part because I’d go to bed mad / upset with myself for not being normal enough to understand them or take a joke.