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My friend sent me a message last night out of the blue saying he thinks about ending it a lot. I tried to talk to him on the phone but he didn't want to. I tried to see if I could come pick him up. He didn't want to go anywhere. I tried to just go to him and be there for him but he wanted to be alone. I kept messaging him trying to get him to open up but he keeps saying he is fine. He didn't send that message to me for no reason. Something's hurting and I want to be there for him but he won't let me in? How can I help? I don't know what to do and I'm extremely worried

I 27M and my ex fiance 26f were together for 5 years, engaged for 2 years. 4 months ago, we separated.

We separated because she started to feel unseen. I was doing things that would walk right over her. She would tell me and I would pretend it never happened. I don't know how I didn't see it. She got tired of trying and gave up which I don't blame her. I know, I fucked up. I hurt someone who meant more than anything in the whole world to me. I hurt someone I cared deeply about. Someone who I never meant to hurt. That's not an excuse for my actions either. I'm not saying it's all my fault but it's pretty close. I shut down and pushed her out.

I truly believe she's my person. She was there for me when both of my parents passed away and I was there when her aunt's and grandparents passed away. I realize all the things that I have done wrong, I have worked on those things and I am working on other things as well. I truly believe I am a better person. I spent a lot of time running away from problems and I started facing them all head on. I truly believe I have changed for the better.

I have been going to therapy to help me understand myself. I have thought back on our relationship, things that I did. Things she was telling me that I brushed off, decision's I've made and I don't even recognize that person anymore. I was so scared of losing her that I sacrificed whatever it took to keep her which only pushed her away. I want us to work. I want to go through life with her. It's her or no one for me. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out but at the least I can try.

If you are going to tell me to just move on, please don't comment. You don't know me, you don't know her and you don't know how our relationship was. I want advice on how I would go about reaching out to her. Is it too soon? How would one go about it? Has anyone had a similar experience where it worked out? Where do I go from here.