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Throwaway for obvious reasons even though this is so specific. This feels stupid to even type out lmao but it’s been sitting in my head for a few days.

My (22M) girlfriend (19F) and I have been together for about 6 months. Everything has been good, like seriously no issues that I can think of. That’s why this is bothering me more than it probably should.

About a month ago I noticed she reposted an edit of Jacob Elordi on TikTok. Just one of those edits with clips of him, interviews, scenes from movies, whatever. No big deal.

Over the next couple weeks I noticed she had reposted a few more but these ones were mostly him shirtless, in boxers, etc. They were much more sexual and the women in the comments were saying pretty vulgar things with the gifs.

At first I didn’t think much of it. But later I really started thinking my girlfriend was infatuated with Jacob Elordi and it bugged me. So last week I asked jokingly if he was her celebrity crush and she shrugged saying, “I mean… he’s 6’5.” and laughed.

I laughed too in the moment but afterward I felt awkward. I kept thinking about how she answered that and what she really meant.

Obviously it’s not like I think she’s going to leave me for a celebrity or anything lol. It’s more like I started thinking about what she actually finds attractive in general. I look nothing like Jacob Elordi.

I’m 5’10, 5’11.5 with shoes on, so I’ve never really thought of myself as short or anything, but now I keep noticing height in random situations. Like when we’re out I see her noticing tall guys and I’m just kind of standing there overthinking it. It wasn’t something I cared about before the 6’5 comment but now I can’t lie I feel a little insecure.

So two days ago she reposted another edit of Jacob Elordi but this time I saw she had commented a gif of Sabrina Carpenter licking her lips and wrote “he is sooo 😩”

Right after I saw this I brought up the TikTok reposts and said it’s bothering me and she said I was being weird and it’s just social media. She said I’m being sensitive if I care about her reposts and comments and stuff.

I get that it’s just “TikTok humor” to comment things like that. And I don’t even really care if she has a celebrity crush, but I don’t like that all our friends and anyone who follows her can see her reposts and see her gushing over him. Her friends would definitely tell her I’m weird if they saw I reposted multiple videos of Sydney Sweeney and commented on them. So I can’t shake the feeling that this is a bit odd to do in a committed relationship.

Even though she’s not going to leave me for Jacob Elordi lol, I know it’s at least half true she finds him and men like him much more physically attractive than me, and I feel like she’s putting that in my face knowing I view her TikTok. I know she wouldn’t feel good if I reposted a Sydney Sweeney edit and when she asked if she’s my celebrity crush I said “I mean…she has D cups.” I would never do or say something like that to her.

I haven’t said anything since I brought up the reposts and comment because I don’t want to seem insecure or controlling, but I also feel like I can’t unsee it now.

I don’t know if I’m just overthinking or if I shouldn’t put up with this. Looking back I know she made me unlike a girl’s beach photos on instagram when we first started dating. I willingly did that and I feel like it’s not okay for her to repost videos of another man and leave thirsty comments if I can’t even like a girl’s swimsuit picture on insta. I get that he’s a celebrity but it seems excessive and I’m really turned off by this whole situation.

I genuinely really like her and everything outside of this has been good, which is why I feel stupid for even caring this much, but it’s gotten to the point where I’m second guessing how she actually sees me.

Has anyone else dealt with something like this or am I just completely out of touch? She’s only my second real girlfriend so I don’t know if this level of crushing on a celeb is normal or not.

Throwaway for obvious reasons even though this is so specific. This feels stupid to even type out lmao but it’s been sitting in my head for a few days.

My (22M) girlfriend (19F) and I have been together for about 6 months. Everything has been good, like seriously no issues that I can think of. That’s why this is bothering me more than it probably should.

About a month ago I noticed she reposted an edit of Jacob Elordi on TikTok. Just one of those edits with clips of him, interviews, scenes from movies, whatever. No big deal.

Over the next couple weeks I noticed she had reposted a few more but these ones were mostly him shirtless, in boxers, etc. They were much more sexual and the women in the comments were saying pretty vulgar things with the gifs.

At first I didn’t think much of it. But later I really started thinking my girlfriend was infatuated with Jacob Elordi and it bugged me. So last week I asked jokingly if he was her celebrity crush and she shrugged saying, “I mean… he’s 6’5.” and laughed.

I laughed too in the moment but afterward I felt awkward. I kept thinking about how she answered that and what she really meant.

Obviously it’s not like I think she’s going to leave me for a celebrity or anything lol. It’s more like I started thinking about what she actually finds attractive in general. I look nothing like Jacob Elordi.

I’m 5’10, 5’11.5 with shoes on, so I’ve never really thought of myself as short or anything, but now I keep noticing height in random situations. Like when we’re out I see her noticing tall guys and I’m just kind of standing there overthinking it. It wasn’t something I cared about before the 6’5 comment but now I can’t lie I feel a little insecure.

So two days ago she reposted another edit of Jacob Elordi but this time I saw she had commented a gif of Sabrina Carpenter licking her lips and wrote “he is sooo 😩”

Right after I saw this I brought up the TikTok reposts and said it’s bothering me and she said I was being weird and it’s just social media. She said I’m being sensitive if I care about her reposts and comments and stuff.

I get that it’s just “TikTok humor” to comment things like that. And I don’t even really care if she has a celebrity crush, but I don’t like that all our friends and anyone who follows her can see her reposts and see her gushing over him. Her friends would definitely tell her I’m weird if they saw I reposted multiple videos of Sydney Sweeney and commented on them. So I can’t shake the feeling that this is a bit odd to do in a committed relationship.

Even though she’s not going to leave me for Jacob Elordi lol, I know it’s at least half true she finds him and men like him much more physically attractive than me, and I feel like she’s putting that in my face knowing I view her TikTok. I know she wouldn’t feel good if I reposted a Sydney Sweeney edit and when she asked if she’s my celebrity crush I said “I mean…she has D cups.” I would never do or say something like that to her.

I haven’t said anything since I brought up the reposts and comment because I don’t want to seem insecure or controlling, but I also feel like I can’t unsee it now.

I don’t know if I’m just overthinking or if I shouldn’t put up with this. Looking back I know she made me unlike a girl’s beach photos on instagram when we first started dating. I willingly did that and I feel like it’s not okay for her to repost videos of another man and leave thirsty comments if I can’t even like a girl’s swimsuit picture on insta. I get that he’s a celebrity but it seems excessive and I’m really turned off by this whole situation.

I genuinely really like her and everything outside of this has been good, which is why I feel stupid for even caring this much, but it’s gotten to the point where I’m second guessing how she actually sees me.

Has anyone else dealt with something like this or am I just completely out of touch? She’s only my second real girlfriend so I don’t know if this level of crushing on a celeb is normal or not.