u/Throwawayffxg1972

This started happening the past year in a few modestly sized subreddits (mostly the more comedy/meme focused ones) so it’s not like it’s everywhere. People just spam yuri with no punchline or anything interesting other than “LOOK!!! LESBIANS!!!”. And any mention of “this doesn’t fit the subreddit”, “where’s the funny?”, or “can you at least put a nsfw tag on this” gets you downvoted into oblivion.

I don’t have problem with yuri, I just hate seeing it spammed everywhere with no NSFW tag in subreddits where it isn’t really supposed to be. I’ve blocked most of the accounts that’s spam post it everywhere, but it’s still a gamble scrolling through the comment section.

I know that scrolling through Reddit in public is always a gamble no matter how hard you try. But it would nice if people tagged what is effectively soft core porn with an NSFW tag at the very least.

I’m not hating on college, the concept of it, or any “it’s woke” type bullshit. I just don’t like how everyone keeps telling to keep going to school when I literally just can’t afford it.

For the past 2.5 years I’ve been going to community college (because I don’t want to pay $3000 for an English class). I’ve been taking classes there, mostly Gen-Eds, but a few classes do relate directly to the degree I’m going for. I wanted to get an engineering degree, but there is only 1 college within driving distance that offers engineering degrees.

The main problem I have is that I’m completely on my own financially. My parents refuse to help me and I’m not poor enough that I qualify for financial aid, so have to pay all my school expense out of my own pocket. I also live alone, as my parents refuse to let me move back in, so I have a full set of adult bills. But I make enough money that I can afford to live and have a decent amount left over.

I’ve been able to afford community college just fine, the local one is about $120 per credit hour on average (base cost+books+fees), it’s well within my budget and I’ve been taking about 9 credit hours per semester. But now I only have one semester left until I need to start taking university classes, but I just can’t afford those classes.

I’m not going to into details about the math of how I can’t afford it. Because every time I do, I get 20 people who go “nuh uh”, or they tell me to get student loans. I refuse to get student loans, not out of some philosophy or moral reason… I just don’t want to take on debt that will infinitely accumulate interest and can’t be forgiven, especially when paying it off relies on you getting a job that pays more (which isn’t a 100% guarantee).

It doesn’t matter if I’m talking to family, friends, or even asking people on the internet, if I make any mention of dropping out, the entire conversation pivots to that and I can’t go back to what we were originally talking about.

A few weeks ago I made a post asking for advice on a good career to pivot too. I just said that I had to drop out of college because I couldn’t afford it, I even mentioned that I’d be open to go again only if I got a better paying job that paid enough for me to afford it. Out of 98 comments, only 3 actually gave me advice to what I was looking for, the other 95 was people going apeshit about me dropping out.

I understand that a college education can be worth it, but I just literally don’t have the money to pay for it. And it sucks because every time I say that, people always try to “help” by bringing up all the financial aid stuff, but I’ve already looked into them, and I just don’t qualify.

(And please don’t try to “help” me, I’ve had that conversation so many times, that it just feels like I’m being made fun of for being poor, instead of someone actually trying to help.)

I made a post in another subreddit a while ago (2 weeks) about moving out, I provided the general location (state and city) and when I had to move out and why, but not too many other details. I did mention that I would prefer to get a roommate for economic reasons, but I hadn’t found one yet, so I was preparing to move out by myself as a “worst case scenario”.

Today someone left a comment (not a PM) on the post saying they were in the same city and needed to move out at roughly the same time I had too. I checked their profile and it’s completely blank, so I have no idea about what type of person this is (and I can’t tell at a glance if they are a scammer or not).

I’m not particularly worried about the danger/safety aspect of potentially meeting this person irl for a “vibe check”, I’m mostly worried about if they are trying to do a scam.

Worst case scenario they are trying to pull a scam, and once I realize that, then I’ll just block them and move on with my life with the only real loss being wasted time. Or this person is genuinely trying to find a roommate, and that could solve that problem. Should I respond to them or ignore them?

TL;DR Should I contact this unknown person about being roommates?

Edit: I’m not using Reddit to try and find roommates, the original post was about what to look out for when renting a room compared to renting an apartment.