r/I_DONT_LIKE

This just happened to my friend. He applied for an apartment and the landlord ran his credit score, saw a low number, and rejected him on the spot. The landlord never even met him. My friend hasn't missed rent once in his adult life, but that didn't matter, because as far as the landlord was concerned, the score already said everything about what kind of tenant he'd be.

And that's what pisses me off. Judging a whole person off one stat is lazy:

• Credit score too low? Not a good tenant. Pass.
• Your age on a dating app? Still single at that age, something must be wrong with you. Pass.
• Changed jobs a bunch of times? You must be difficult to work with. Pass.

People read that one thing and feel like they've got you figured out. Who you actually are? They don't care. The stat looks bad, so you're bad. Door's closed 🙅🚪

Look, I know people have to screen somehow. But "I need a quick way to sort through applicants" and "this score tells me what kind of person you are" are two different things. One is just being busy. The other is deciding one piece of information equals a whole human being, and half the time the person judging doesn't even know what that score actually measures.

Can someone honestly explain to me how this is okay?

Because I really don't get it. What gets me the most is when a moment is or was clearly a moment where that kid felt proud of himself / herself for being clever. They thought they pulled one over on their parents. And instead of just getting caught or whatever the situation was, they got filmed and put in front of millions of people. That has to mess with how the child sees himself/herself

What bothers me even more is how many interactions between parents and kids now happen through a phone screen. The parent isn't even fully present in the moment. They're framing it for an audience. So the kid learns that their feelings aren't really the point. The content is the point. That's a huge shift and I don't think people are paying enough attention to it.

Kids already go through that phase where they think everyone is watching them. But when it's actually true because their parents broadcast their lowest moments to the world, that anxiety stops being imaginary and becomes real. That has to have some negative effects on their behaviour and how they view life and their parents.

At some point this became the rule. You point out the thing everyone can already see, and now you're the problem. Ask in a meeting why the plan doesn't add up, and apparently the meeting was fine until you opened your mouth.

Nobody announced this. Nobody said whoever brings it up has to carry the awkwardness from now on. But everyone acts like it's true. So you start padding everything. Sorry, quick thing. Might just be me. Half the effort goes into wrapping the question so nobody flinches.

And I get it. Not every dinner needs to turn into a hearing. Sometimes letting a thing go is kind, and the person saying "let's just move on" is usually tired, not evil.

But now that's the answer to everything. Nothing gets fixed. The one who said it out loud gets handled instead. And later the same thing blows up anyway, bigger, at the worst time, and everyone acts shocked.

Living wage? "but thatll cause inflation"

Affordable Housing? "The market requires us to raise rent"

Universal Healthcare? "The markets will increase the cost of drugs!!!!"

The markets are controlled and manipulated by the People who make these excuses. They choose to increase these costs. Capitalism sucks.

As a horror fan, given that I’m a loser, I often go to Reddit for recommendations for horror movies, and they always low key seem to highlight that Reddit doesn’t really like horror movies in and of themselves.

What I’ve gathered from reading their recommendations is that they don’t like jump scares, or paranormal stuff, or religious stuff or stuff that have scenes in which one is just anticipating when the monster will appear. Imagine that, horror without any scary stuff pretty much.

And they love fucking movies which are like, supernatural coming of age or supernatural dramas about depression. They want the horror to come from basically being childless in your middle age, or financial scarcity or some other thing. And look in as left wing as it gets, but there are these “horror” movies that have come out lately that just aren’t really horror.

Sinners, get out, redrooms, even MADS that are just nice adventure movies with a paranormal subject matter or jut thrillers.

Like I don’t even think making a good horror movie prevents you from handling grief and desolation well mind you, look at midsommar, hereditary, vvitch, babadook, embrace of the serpent to an extent. But stuff needs to be scary. Reddit will say stuff like “oh, finding out your best friend has been having an affair with your partner is the scariest bit about the movie” or “the scariest bit was when the character found themselves homeless” like that’s not scary, that’s depressing, but depression isn’t fear in and of itself.

And you just know that they suggest movies of said ilk because they’re itching to reply to you when you asked them what they find scary “oh I’m not of the common rabble like you, what scares me is climate change and social housing” like it’s so desperately woke. Like this is a story about a demon dude, give me a break.

The phrase changes a little each time, but it always seems to end up in the same place.

You should've started earlier.

You should've saved more.

You should've invested better.

It's advice almost everyone has heard, and some of it is genuinely useful. But after hearing it enough times, it starts to sound like retirement is treated as a personal report card more than a shared economic reality.

The strange part is that the world keeps becoming harder to predict while the responsibility keeps becoming more individual.

Markets change. Prices rise. People live longer. Jobs become less predictable. None of those things happen because one person made bad choices, yet the conversation somehow loops back to the same question of what that person should have done differently.

It's a pattern I've noticed in a lot of areas, not just retirement. Whenever a problem becomes big enough that nobody can completely control it, the advice often gets smaller and more personal.

Instead of asking why so many people are struggling with the same thing, we ask thousands of individuals why they didn't prepare better.

Whenever a company announces a change that makes people's lives harder, the explanation somehow arrives already polished.

It's about collaboration. It's about culture. It's about being more connected. Sometimes those reasons are probably genuine. Work isn't the same everywhere, and some teams really do function better together. What I don't like is how the explanation almost always stops there.

The people expected to adjust are usually the ones with the least visibility into everything else influencing the decision. There could be financial pressure, management priorities, long term commitments, local incentives, or something employees will never be part of discussing. We don't really know. We just get the version that's meant to make the change feel reasonable.

After a while, it starts to feel like the official reason isn't always the whole reason. That's the part I struggle with more than whether a particular policy is right or wrong. If I'm expected to reorganize my daily life around a decision, I'd rather hear that the situation is complicated than be handed the cleanest possible explanation.

Maybe there really is no single reason. Most big decisions probably aren't that simple. I just don't like how often the people carrying the consequences are also the people told the least.

Firstly, I am a woman. I just got called a pick me because I was pointing out how ridiculous it is to generalize and say “all men are blind and lazy.” I get downvoted anytime I point out that if the genders were reversed, the sky would be on fire. And frankly, rightfully so! It’s ridiculous to claim something about all women. It’s sexist. Imagine saying something like “women are nags.” Unacceptable. Why do we accept it when it’s pointed at men?

I’ll counter misandry by saying “how hard is it to add the word ‘some’?” Downvoted.

What the actual hell. It’s so rude and insane. Why are people ok with this?? There is ZERO excuse to generalize and say cruel things about men as a whole gender, just as there’s zero excuse to do the same with women.

Is it so impossible for these people to fathom there are good men out there? Are people truly that discriminatory, biased, and sexist? If yes, we’re fucked. I’m ashamed that women, who have faced sexism forEVER, don’t see the problem with delivering the same back to men, instead choosing to be so closed minded and vengeful.

when you are doing using the toilet please check to make sure you did not leave something behind

You find a job you know you could do. Customer success, marketing, project management, something pretty ordinary. Then you get to the requirements and there it is: Bachelor's degree required.

If you don't have one, that's usually where it ends. Doesn't really matter how much experience you have or who's willing to recommend you because you never get far enough for any of that to matter.

People keep saying college is optional, but it stops feeling like much of a choice when so many jobs put that line between you and the application. Sometimes it feels like that one requirement is doing a lot more sorting than anyone wants to admit.

The heat this summer, some families bought ACs and then wouldn't let anyone in the house use them. Like, idk how to say this. It's just kinda backwards. You spent real money on it, and then it just sits there.

"Save it for when it really matters." Ok, so when's that? You bought it because you needed it. That's literally when it matters, right?

I knew people did this, didn't know it was actually a thing with a name. Looked it up. Apparently it's called a "specialness spiral." Google it if you want.

Honestly if you buy something you're supposed to use it. If you can't get yourself to use it, then what did you buy the AC for? (Swap AC for whatever thing you're saving, same question)

A girl at my work, mid-twenties, told me she hasn't been on a real date in over a year. Not because she doesn't want to. The numbers just don't work.

She said an average night out where you actually go somewhere is around two hundred bucks once you count getting there, drinks, dinner, and the grooming and outfit thing beforehand. Two hundred dollars for a date that might be a total waste of time with someone you'll never see again. She has rent, student loans, and a job that pays okay but not great. She just stopped.

And there's a whole thing online now called solo-maxxing. Stay home, focus on yourself, you don't need a relationship, embrace your independence. It's everywhere. I'm sure some people really do prefer that. But I also wonder how many people got priced out of dating first, and only later started calling it a lifestyle.

We tell people their twenties are the time to meet people and figure out who you want to be with. At the same time, meeting someone has quietly turned into something you have to budget for.

So I (a male) posted about getting touched by weirdos taking advantage of how packed the subway can be, and while I was expecting the “lucky” comments from other weird dudes, what I wasn’t expecting was the “what were you wearing” and “shouldn‘t have been out that late” from only girls. At first I’m thinking they’re being serious, so I’m responding calling them disgusting. Then I get comments explaining, “this is what men do to women so we’re just returning the favor”. Like one, men AND women victim blame women. It’s not just us. Even if it was, how is shitting on a male victim retribution? i haven’t victim blamed anyone. You’re just picking on someone vulnerable and you’re doing it in the most disrespectful and disgusting way. like I get the sentiment, but can you do that differently, somewhere and sometime else? Anyway I’m pretty asf. You wanna be a rape apologist with your face, name and school on your account? Cool I’ll send it to your college and workplace. Atleast be smart enough to use an alt like all the “lucky” weirdos do.

As a parent, that is quite literally none of your business especially if your child is an adult. Like, as an adult woman, I do not want my parents to even think about me having sex. It just makes me so uncomfy and it feels kind of disrespectful and even objectifying in a way. I’m in my early 20s and I recently moved out on my own after living with my parents and prior to this I’ve never dated anyone. It’s not that I wasn’t allowed to, it’s that my parents are nosy asf and they would have been all up in my business and made things super awkward. Like I felt like I was starring in a nature documentary about young people and my boomer parents were watching on the edge of their seats to see what would happen and commentate on it so I didn’t give them much content. But I recently started seeing someone and I told my mom about it over the phone last week, and now this week she randomly said something about how I shouldn’t have sex especially because I’m not on birth control and I told her I’m not having sex, and that even if I was it’s none of her business. But yeah I just feel like that’s a boundary that parents shouldn’t cross.

Try walking around any American city and needing a bathroom. There basically aren't any. You end up in a Starbucks or a McDonald's or some cafe pretending you might buy something.

In Paris there's public toilets on the street. Same in Tokyo. Same in most cities I've been to overseas. Here it's just, go into a business and hope they don't card you at the door.

Apparently we used to have them. There were pay toilets in a lot of cities decades ago. Then there was a whole movement to get rid of pay toilets, on the theory that the government would just build free ones. The government did not build free ones. So we ended up with basically no public toilets at all, and now if you need to go, you're begging a private business.

It's worst for people delivering food, parents with little kids, older people, anyone with a medical thing. Basically the people who most need a bathroom quickly have the hardest time finding one.

Why is this so hard here when everywhere else in the world figured it out.

Seriously, it’s a hot as the Devil’s nutsack out there, and you think it’ll be fine to endure hours of sun and thermal abuse? Do you not sweat or feel pain?!

They're soft but so loud at the same time which for some reason confuses my brain but no matter how low I set my volume they're still too loud for what they are. Also they seem grossly over exaggerated. Even worse if it's a video that's on a time lapse and the noises just seem so much more jarring. Trying to watch a video of different art techniques on the same picture and my ears hurt from the sounds that apparently everyone else loves. I would turn my sound off but for some reason a soundless video also bothers me. There's a correct amount of sound. (On an added note, a single photo or a text post does not need music)

Also I think the whole whispering thing is really dumb. I get the appeal of talking softly but you can talk softly without breathy whispering right into the microphone. And the noises on the dedicated ASMR videos are just not appealing over video format. I enjoy zipping and unzipping things, running my fingers over things and what not. But that's because I get the physical sensation and input with the sound. The noises by themselves just don't translate the same way.

Instantly asking for help before even making an attempt themselves.

Learning a term like Executive Dysfunction and using it as an excuse rather than an informative term that can help them understand themselves and find solutions - or at least try

So my health insurance premium went up this year. I called to ask why. And then they said it was because of the new GLP-1 drugs like Ozempic and Wegovy getting so expensive.

Everyone on my plan ended up paying more, even if they never touched those drugs.

At the same time, people who actually want them keep getting told their insurance won't cover them for weight loss anymore. So they either pay out of pocket or go without. Okay, so I'm paying more. They're paying more too.

The drug companies charge what they charge. The insurance companies raise the premiums. Somewhere in between, everyone in the middle ends up paying more.