Hi All,
We are travelling with a toddler (Son) to Singapore, KL & Langkawi.
Any suggestions around vegetarian food, shopping, cash needed would be helpful
P.S: Son is hyper active & full of tantrums, & this is his first international trip. We’re slightly anxious 🫣
Got into a huge fight today with in laws. I am woman over 30 with a toddler. I work in a startup company that requires me to be in office all 5 days. Staying in Bangalore requires both husband & wife to work cannot survive on one’s income alone. Hence we a hired a cook couple of months ago. Living with inlaws gets tiring when they complain over every small thing. This cook isnt proficient but dies a decent job. Not a great roti maker hence in the last few days the nagging by in laws had increased. “She doesnt make edible chapatis, she doesnt cook it well some are burnt” & they have been very very rude to her. Direct accused her saying “because of your rotis we have had food poisoning” so after days of nagging & complaining today she calls me & quits.
Just for a background my in laws have always been a complaint box you hire the greatest chef they will still have a negative point, you get Ambani’s maid they will still find her unfit, you book a 5star hotel for stay they will still have problems & fight with hotel staff. So everywhere they go its always a mess & 90% its my FIL. Its my MIL who tactically feeds & FIL who excutes it
NOW- The whole point of hiring the cook was that I cannot be in the kitchen & hence she was my replacement & I honestly care about my MIL coz she’s nearing 70 & I wouldn’t wanna burden her. If I don’t cook she will stand in kitchen the whole day. So after a lot of searching I found this cook who was pure vegetarian which isn’t easy. When I said this to my in laws my FIL says “why do you keep saying you did you did? What is the big deal about you hiring a cook it’s a just an app & you get her how difficult is it?” I fucking lost my cool & told him that “when I have taken the trouble I will take credit for it” The midst of my office work when the work was peak I juggled & ensured to find a cook in 2 days coz my MIL was struggling. My FIL only came to me saying she isn’t able to cook & I could also see it so didn’t delay & prioritised it. Yet he has the audacity to say what is the big deal.
Also in the last decade I have never raised my voice at them but today I lost it coz there have been several issues between me & them & I never ever uttered a word coz I don’t want to be rude. There have been cases where I was accused of manipulating my husband, they said I didnt do enough housework, they would get angry if I wanted to spend a special day with my husband alone they always started the fight & I would patch it up losing all my self esteem. BUT TODAY I STOOD UP FOR MYSELF. Coz enough is enough man!
I agree I raised my voice I agree I was rude but iguess it’s just coming from all the years that went by where I suffered in silence.
Was I wrong today? Coz they have shut themselves from me & my husband coz he supported me. (He has been my support & strength. Knows what his parents are hence supported me throughout ❤️)
But what next? The house environment is very awkward. I can sense the tension