u/Top-Performer-1088

So I have had a problem with jealousy in the past because I have had problems with previous partners either crossing boundaries with exes. When my bf and I had started dating we both agreed to no contact with anyone we had dated or had a fling with in the past. He has blown up on me alot for this in the beginning with accusations which had affected our relationship and lied when I asked multiple times about him having exes on social media or keep in contact with them. I had asked him if he had kept anything from an ex and he had reassured me many times he hadn’t. He had started to earn my trust back when I found a hoodie that had his exes initial on it. When I first confronted him about it he lied and then later tried to justify his lie by saying they were friends when she gave it to him when they were friends so it was a lie. I was really hurt by it so I exploded and cussed him out which he did as well and we almost broke up with him. I’m not sure if I’m being dramatic but it felt disrespectful that he was wearing another girls initials around me all the time. It makes me feel like he’s lied about other things in the relationship and downplayed his attachment. He offered to get rid of the hoodie but I feel like alot of the trust is broken.

So I had stated this boundary many times that I do not want any sort of relationship with previous exes or for him to stay in contact with them. I have had a lot of issues in the past with my previous relationship getting back together with their exes or not speaking about them in a respectful way. A few months ago my bf really broke my trust with keeping his exes on his social media when he repeatedly told me he hadn’t. He’s also really sentimental and I asked him if he kept anything from a past ex many times and he always said no. Yesterday I was doing his laundry and I saw a hoodie he always wore with his exs initial on it. I confronted him about it and he initially lied and said I assume the worst and then later I admitted it was from her. His logic was that they were friends before so it wasn’t from an ex or a lie. I’m extremely upset about this. We got into a huge fight where things escalated and I cussed him out and we almost broke up. I’m pretty hurt by it. He said he would get rid of it but makes me feel like I overreacted.

**TL;DR; : I found a hoodie with my bf exes initials on it after asking him multiple times and him saying no**.