sleeping with ex
We broke up with my boyfriend almost a year ago, and honestly, this has been one of the hardest years of my life. I loved him very deeply, and I still do. He was the one who didn’t want to get back together.
The confusing part is that throughout this entire year, we’ve continued seeing each other and having sex. Usually it’s about once or twice a month. And honestly, the sex between us is the best and most passionate sex I’ve ever had, which probably makes this whole situation even harder for me.
Neither of us has had another partner — at least I haven’t. I can’t really speak for him..
I’ve asked him what this means and what exactly we’re doing, but he can’t really give me an answer. He’s not someone who talks openly about his feelings and tends to keep everything to himself. At the same time, he’s always the one who reaches out and invites me over to have sex.
And every time it happens, my feelings come back and it really difficult to move on.
What do you guys think — is seeing an ex once or twice a month like this ever actually healthy or normal for both people? Or are we just keeping each other stuck and avoiding the reality of the breakup?
I’d really appreciate hearing from people who’ve been in a similar situation, especially if you eventually managed to get out of this kind of cycle.