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Sharing this here for more visibility for people who might be in the Vancouver area, or are friends with those who are. Really sickening, and sad. Please be extra careful when going for meetups.

So I have been in an M-M relationship with my boyfriend for a few months now, and one of the things I've been struggling with is the different sizes down there and it's causing some insecurities. For reference, his is a little over 2x the length of mine (I'm a bit over 5 inches). It just feels awkward sometimes after I do all this stuff to his and make a mess of everything and am like able to hold it and all that, and then mine comes out and it's a lot less than his.

He says he loves it and he definitely does make me feel extremely good, it's just not something I've ever navigated before!

I’ve lived in an apartment building since going back to school last year. It’s a pretty big building, but it’s also pretty old--I think it must have been built before whatever technology was invented to stop sounds from going through the walls.

There’s a gay couple that lives in the apartment above me. At least I think they’re a couple; they might just be banging on the reg, tbh…

One of them is named “Daddy.” He has a super loud voice. If Daddy has never done theater, then he missed his calling, because his voice can travel like nothing else. If I have my window open at the same time he does, or if I’m in the bathroom (which has a vent on the ceiling that is pretty much a speaker box to the upstairs apartment), then I can hear just about every word that he says. I can sometimes hear him telling “Puppy” to come here, or give him a kiss, or bring him a pillow, etc. And Daddy always says thank you.

Puppy has a low, airy voice, and I can never really make out what he is saying the way I can with Daddy. (Although, I did hear Puppy gasp Daddy’s name loudly on one occasion….)

I’m honestly not trying to spy on their lives, but there’s only so much I can do when Daddy’s voice comes booming down from above. I could put my fingers in my ears and say “la la la,” but that’s pretty pointless at this point--I already know Daddy and Puppy’s whole dynamic. And honestly, I kind of love having a healthy gay relationship flourishing above my head. It’s not like I’m sitting there perving with my ear against the ceiling, listening to them have sex (which they must do pretty quietly, btw--I barely ever hear it). I’m just passively overhearing them live their happy, healthy lives.

I think Daddy must live in the apartment alone. I only hear Puppy on the weekends. During the week, I can sometimes hear Daddy talking on the phone. He sounds very professional and confident. He might be a boss somewhere.

Last weekend, I was brushing my teeth in the bathroom, when I suddenly heard Daddy’s voice yell “ARGHH!!!” from above. I stopped and stared at the vent.

Then I heard Daddy yell “What the fuck Puppy?!?!”

There was silence. I stood there, perfectly still.

Then Daddy yelled, “How long has this booger been hanging out of my nose??”

I heard Puppy mutter something.

“Has this booger been hanging out of my nose the whole time???” Daddy inquired.

Puppy muttered again. Then I heard Daddy loudly going off on Puppy, telling him he was disgusting for getting banged by a guy with a booger hanging out of his nose. This must have been the funniest thing that Puppy ever heard, because he started laughing uncontrollably. I finished brushing my teeth and left the bathroom, and then later I heard some muffled rough-housing.

I think Daddy has gotten over the whole booger incident, because today I heard him patiently teaching Puppy how to slide a pizza from a cutting board onto a pizza stone. The whole thing made Puppy very anxious, and Daddy had to finish the job himself.

I’m moving out in a couple of weeks (there’s something seriously wrong with my plumbing, and the building owner recently offered to let me move to another one of his buildings down the street).

I’m going to miss Daddy and Puppy. I hope everything goes well for them. Maybe I’ll bake them a farewell cake or something…

i very rarely hook up with guys, but when i do, i tend to want to go way further with them and i’m much more comfortable being their “slut”, even if it’s just for a one night stand. i’m also really slutty with guys online, that’s basically where i feel the most comfortable showing that side of me. with girls tho, i find it way easier to actually feel and show that i’m into them irl, whereas with guys i struggle way more to show that side of me
how do i get more comfortable with that side of myself and actually let myself be someone’s “slut” irl?

I know this is like the 1000000th post out there, but I just wanted to vent/get advice for a minute.

Its been a good time since I've been actively trying to find my self a boyfriend. Since I turned 18, and still didn't find any action. Its been making me feel like I'm not good enough/pretty enough/out there enough. I'm trying to improve my self, my looks and try and be more open about my self, but it hasn't really yielded any results...

I've been in a situation like this before, and have had advice of course. Advice such as ''be more open'', ''go out and visit social spaces like clubs'' and ''join the LGBTQ club in school or smth''. I've really been trying to follow up on this advice, but after going out and clubbing/barring/whatever for the 20th time, I start to wonder again.

It doesn't help that pretty much all my friends are dating right now and that that kinda leaves me behind. ''No I cant tonight, im with my gf'' ''Hmm maybe some other time, Im staying over at gf'' ''Nah can't play tonight, gf is staying over''. Having to watch all my friends make-out and cuddle during parties also starts to get annoying and make me feel lonely. Hearing them boast about how fun of a night they had with their awesome girlfriends just makes me feel sad.

I took interest in a guy at my college, and I tried starting a convo and seeing if he ever wanted to do anything together, or do something with a group from school. Trying to talk to him was difficult since he always just dissapeared before i got the chance, flat out didn't react or said he didnt have time. All I wanted was a conversation.

As insecure as I am, its probably not my looks. I have gotten compliments from a lot of people, gay or not gay. Compliments about my style and my face or hair and stuff. I have had attention from girls before, but y'know, not really my thing.

So what do i do now? I followed last time's advice but it didn't really do anything. I know I'm ''only just 18'' and that there is ''plenty of time''. I still would like at least SOME action before the age of 19. Even if its just a simple kiss or cuddle.

(This is just a little venting since i really have no one to talk to about this, praying someone here knows what to do)

If you haven't heard of it. The frontman of Beartooth released their latest album Pure Ecstasy recently.

He recently came out as gay publicly and has had large upheavals in his personal life. The new album is about that.

If you like a blend of harder music and some integrated pop style you should give it a shot. Not only because it is a coming out album but also because it is a banger.

Just simping for one of my favorite bands .

Hello all- I am at a lose on the dating game. I am 46 and have never dated, I spent to many years dating my job. I am getting to a point were finding connection is more important the chasing the corporate game. I have tried all the apps, I am not a fan of bars.

Sending a cry for help.

-lonely in providence