r/gaybros

I know this sounds harsh, but I don't trust Grindr these days, it's impossible.

Every time I open the app it is the same experience, blank profiles, fake looking accounts, guys asking for pics instantly, conversations going nowhere, random ghosting or someone acting interested for 5 minutes and then disappearing completely.

After a while it honestly makes the whole app feel exhausting and unsafe instead of social.

And the crazy thing is, I don’t even think most people on there are bad. I think the apps themselves have created a culture where nobody trusts anybody any more because there is no accountability, and there is almost no real moderation.

I have also tried apps like Sniffiest and honestly it felt more disconnected and transactional somehow.

What I actually think gay dating apps need right now:

improved moderation, improved verification/authenticity systems, community accountability features that promote respectful interaction, not endless swiping

Because everything just feels low-effort and disposable right now.

I wonder if any of the other guys here are experiencing this too, or if I'm just burnt out on the apps.

Been working on a fork of open-grind — a free, open source Grindr client for Android. No tracking, no ads, just the app.

Just released v0.1.1 with:

- Background notifications when you get a message

- Share photos directly from your Grindr profile in chat

- Upload photos from your camera/gallery to chat

- Fixed a crash on image messages from deleted/expired photos

APK is a direct download, no Play Store needed:

https://git.dominusaxis.com/dominus/open-grind/releases/download/v0.1.1/GrindX-v0.1.1.apk

Source code: https://git.dominusaxis.com/dominus/open-grind

Looking for feedback on what's broken or missing. Not trying to monetize it, just want it to be actually usable.

So I’m a chef and manager at a restaurant, we just opened a few months ago and we were doing some hiring for summer.

A couple weeks ago I get a message on Grindr from this guy I know around town , we’ve hooked up a couple times over the years but don’t really know eachother other than work interactions (both I the service industry) and running into eachother around town.

Well we’ve been flirting a bit then he asked me about how we were hiring. He’s good server so I told him if he was interested to come talk to me at the restaurant. He did, we hired him, and when I did we talked about keeping work stuff separate from personal. Anyway he worked a couple shifts with where I trained him, and would send a flirty text or after the shift or what not. Well Sunday after my shift he texts and wants to get together and his words ‘get nakeed’

We meet up and have a quick hook up , swap oral and fuck before he’s gotta go do something that night and we leave it with a see you at work on wends.

Well today’s wendsday and this morning I send a text “Hey J- will you bring in your id and social security so I can get a copy to payroll”

I get this response several hours later “ Hey man. Feeling pretty anxious about what’s going on surprisingly. I’m unsure if it’s good for me to be blending complex dynamics. Having some pretty bad anxiety “

My response “Ok no worries- can keep things professional , work related”

Him several hours later, 30 min before hes supposed to be there “i don’t think I’ll be able to make it in “ and stops responding

Seriously wtf. Then I had to call my boss and go over the whole thing and explain why the new guy I had been talking up isn’t going to show up this weekend and show her Grindr messages and texts to explain the situation and what happened. All this on a Holliday weekend

I hate men. lol the sex was not good enough for this stress

I came here for advice cos I always come here. My bf got back from active service abroad he did like quick training and went straight to the front to fight. I went to uni and he went to war, fml. Anyway, he’s back and everything is fine but since he’s been back he’s been distant, he’s sweet as ever, kind, loving, but he parties constantly or just does nothing, like I’ve caught him sitting in his car with his dog. Any military bros tell me what likely to be up and how to talk to him about it? He’s, evasive.

Thought I’d share an article I just came across.

So I am big in the chub chaser scene (me being the chaser and my boyfriend being the chub). When I go to events, everyone is very physically friendly—belly rubs, back pats, hugs, cheek kisses. As someone in a mostly monogamous relationship, my boyfriend has said he doesn't care if I engage with others that way as long as it doesn't get sexual. I have mentioned this to a few of my gay friends (and straights), and many said that they could never.

And of course, I love seeing a Twinkie chaser flirting with him. IDK, I know he comes home to me, so why would I care?

Your thoughts?