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As a gay man this saddens me but as a biologist I feel somewhat vindicated in what I’ve been saying all along, prophylactic use of antibiotics has led to rapid resistance. Fortunately it still works very well for chlamydia and syphilis, close to 90% reduction for both but gonorrhea has rapidly developed resistance to tetracycline antibiotics to the point where it’s apparently having little effect on preventing gonorrhea infection where DoxyPEP is widely used.

So watch out boys, you might not be as protected as you think, though it was only ever mildly effective against gonorrhea, something like 55%. But at least it seems to be more effective against chlamydia and syphilis than originally thought.

From the article:

US research also suggests that increases in tetracycline-resistant gonorrhea strains may be linked to rising use of doxyPEP. A 2025 study by researchers at the University of Washington found that, among gonorrhea isolates collected at a sexual health clinic in Seattle, where the strategy was implemented in June 2023, the prevalence of tetracycline-resistance genes rose from 27% in 2017 to 70% by the middle of 2024. 

In a July 2025 letter to the New England Journal of Medicine, researchers reported that the presence of the tetM gene, which confers high-level tetracycline resistance, in US gonorrhea samples rose from less than 10% in 2020 to 30% in the first quarter of 2024. The highest prevalence of gonorrhea isolates carrying tetM genes was found in the Pacific Northwest.

Im a gay guy and honestly I struggle a lot with my body image, especially with summer in full swing. 

All the guys with rock hard abs, muscles the size of watermelons, its just made a lot of my insecurities worse. 

But the crazy thing is, I know I’m actually quite cute. Im in my 20s, I have really nice curls, thick lashes, dark goatee, red lips, I’m from Ireland so I have those kind of Irish monolids that make my eyes kind of faintly almond shaped. I have a thicc butt and I’m really into history, I love swimming, running, love dancing, I love just hopping on the train and going somewhere new. But despite this I feel so disgusted with myself because after nearly 2 years of the gym and ups and downs, I still have this protruding gut and slightly puffy chest. Like I’m about to go to Spain for a solo holiday and I’m nearly dreading it because as soon as im in a gay nightclub its me surrounded by 200 twig spanish guys with abs and huge biceps and low slinky outfits and I just have this bulging stomach. Im not overweight, im just pudgy with a muffin top, yet in the gay world its comparable to feeling like a whale. 

If any of you guys have seen the substance, in a way, I honestly really kinda connect with the movie because you have this woman who, yeah shes middle aged and an older woman, but by all accounts isnt bad looking, yet her self loathing utterly consumes her in a world that prioritises an extremely narrow idea of perfection. 

I also want to say that I’m completely aware that this may come off as privileged, as I’m in a much better position than other people in regards to my weight, my looks etc. I’m very grateful to be able to run, skip, jump, laugh, to not be in a hospital bed or be suffering from drug addiction, but I just can’t help but feel like I’m not good enough. 

Also the fact that generally gay nightclubs are filled with the creme de la creme of whippet thin snatched guys because of fishbowl theory / petrol station theory on how its a self fulfilling prophecy that a space that has a certain clientele will attract likewise clientele while those that arent generally stay away. 

There is no real purpose to this post, I just wanted to get this off my chest and if anyone else is experiencing anything similar 

I hate it here . I alerday sleep in boxers so at this point im just gonna chill in my bed with no clothes on . This is why I prefer winter to summer.

I literally just had the worse “hookup” of my life and I don’t have anyone to talk about it so I’ll do it here. It just happened right now and I’m still shaking. I was supposed to meet up with this guy and he just wanted to give head, I wanted more but I ultimately settled for that since that’s all he was willing to do. He told me he usually just wants to see the vibe before meeting again and doing more. I give him my address, he was supposed to park at the back of the house. I was ready for him so I just go outside and wait at the patio, I see him coming and I’m just stirring at his car as he’s turning. He’s at the back of my house to park, I’m waiting for him to text and he literally blocks me and drives off infront of me. I’m so shocked idk what emotion I’m feeling right now. This killed off my mood to do anything, just stuck in bed now

My cope 🥲: first of all he wasted his fuel not me(but also it was 10mins so ig he could afford that). I’m 21, I’m no Henry Cavill but I know I’m attractive and I always get compliments about my physique, I’ve had several guys I’ve blocked in this area make new profiles just to hook up with me. People always text me for more after hookups. My profile doesn’t lie about my stats and I look like my pics. I’ve hooked up with way hotter guys, even the dumb ones who precise they only want “good-looking” men or are “picky”. This man was 38 years old, he was good looking and I was into him but I bent my knee because I just wanted a quick nut but this is so disappointing. Did I look scary ? I mean the sun set and I was fixing him and he definitely noticed me, I’m just wondering what did I do for him to be willing to throw his time away and do that ? But also this is why I’m scared of getting old and not have a partner, because what pushes you to be pushing 40 yo and still act like this ? I’m scared to have to navigate things like that when I’m older. I was so emotionally stunned I literally wanted to go knock at his car or flip him off, he literally stopped at the red light and I was even considering running up to him and doing it, it was like a second chance to really do it. I never ever do this but I made a second profile just to let him know I saw him and that’s “super cool” which ofc he blocked. I have so much anger I wanted to like plaster his face as a thief or something but I know this would be stupid so I’m scratching that off. I never wait for people at the patio but I had nothing to do, the first time I do it this happens LMAO. This isn’t my first block either, I always just move on but this is one is awfully particular. And I guess and I am an ego maniac to add all these as a “cope”, I sound just as superficial but bear with me I’m a product of this environment.

I don’t even feel ugly or anything similar right now, I’m just stunned. I deleted the app and now I’m just scared ??? I heard this happened to a guy on TikTok before but he was literally laughing about it and here I am hurt. I am very scared of ever meeting anyone right now and idk how to cope, sex is usually my cope

So I honestly have no one to talk to. I’m not even out to anyone and my family has homophobia. So anyway I’ve always dated women. And just don’t find many guys attractive at all. But was curious and slightly attracted to some guys. . And years ago did have a few curious hook ups with only a few guy. But they were just quick and just nerve racking weird. Quick jack off and blow job then bye bye never heard from again.

But I met a guy a week ago that we just started texting and actually went to dinner and then back to his place. And we did kiss a lot and fooled around actually taking turns pleasing each other. Felt more intimate than with any other guy.
Hate to say though we have a big age gap. I’m 50 and he’s in his 20s and just incredibly really good looking and incredible skinny body. I’m just bald with a beard and out of shape dad body.
Idk. So confused. Never felt this way towards a guy. I was so nervous and probably creeped him out telling him how hot he is. So anyway just not sure if It was just yet another hookup. With more intimacy. He said nothing about seeing each other again or getting together. Plus that age gap is quite the difference. Think a good learning experience and knowing I’m more gay than I thought.