u/Torandax

Hey, I’m just another random Redditor looking to connect with someone.

Me:
Central time zone
Work first shift and cannot reliably chat during day hours. Some days are less busy but in general pretty busy so mostly after 5pm my time.
I am an early to bed early to rise.

I was a club kid in the 90s, my town had a teenage dance club so I did that from 16-18. Started working at Long John Silvers in high school and wasn’t sure what to do when I graduated so I worked closing shift and then hit the gay club. They had the best music and also no one cared if you couldn’t dance. It was a great time for a bi girl. Had lots of fun with that but went to college after 4 years of just messing around. Was active with gay rights, domestic violence causes, BDSM community for a while.

Got married, had kid (still at home for a little longer), got divorced, life went on. Had a career in research for 22 years. Transitioned to a hospital lab doing genetics work a year ago. Love it.

I like to go to the gym. It’s good stress relief. I’m also trying to keep my body looking okay as I lose weight. I’m down 25 and have 40 to go. I failed glp-1s, did you know they don’t work for 12% of people? So just CICO.

I binge watch tv and movies. Like scifi, rom-com, action the most, hate horror. For music I like pop, r&b, hip hop. I still buy music and don’t have any streaming music besides the radio station.

I drive a sensible car. I dress casual when not in scrubs. I rarely wear make up. I’ve kind of given up on finding someone to end up with so I’m just kinda bored and want to have a friend I can talk about my day with. Maybe watch movies with. We can talk about whatever. I am not looking for a JO partner, please do not respond if that’s your goal.

You:
Single, I feel weird about texting with married men, it’s a boundary, please respect that.

Available for texting here or discord during the evening (maybe a little during the workday). Think it might be fun to make a friend and want to get to know someone. Can hold a conversation. Think we might have similar interest or values. Hopefully close to my age, not a hard limit but if you’re too young I don’t know what we’d have in common.

I would hope that we are all whole people who are just looking for a partner to enhance our lives not complete them. When I see anything along these lines I immediately think they are looking for a mother: someone to cook and clean for them,or a bookkeeper, etc. I don’t think people understand that it doesn’t read as a romantic thing for some people (like me).

Another thing I see listed is that they are sarcastic. That’s not a good flex. In my experience that is just them telling you they are an a-hole. Often mean spirited “jokes” and then making fun of people who don’t like to be treated poorly.

What else should people not be saying and why do you interpret it as a bad thing?

Edit: this is for things any gender says that isn’t received the way it is intended