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Mine is still showing my original offer amount so I’m not sure if it is still going to be lowered??? I have been slacking contacting one stop lol. I see the email about refunds being expected next week which is why I’m confused as to why the offer hasn’t changed

I know the BBB messed up financial aid for part time students. Has anyone with this issue gotten their updated amount yet showing on their account? Mine still shows my initial award even though I know it will probably lower.

Hi all! I am curious on everyone’s experience who has done EMDR or even ART? I am considering trying one but am undecided on which. Has anyone tried both therapy methods before? Can anyone share their experience? I have a lot of repressed memories and questions so I can curious if either has made people remember things they have pushed down. I am also somewhat scared of what I may realize or remember if I do especially with EMDR. Has anyone ever regretted it?

I have been in therapy since the beginning of the year and have just now started addressing and discussing my childhood. Recently it has really been hitting me hard after remembering a lot of things that I have repressed. I used to be angry about it but now it’s more of a deep sadness and I keep crying uncontrollably. I have always ignored and avoided these memories and feelings so it all feels like so much right now. Has anyone experienced this before?

I’m in my mid to late twenties so it is kind of shocking how much this is affecting me. I am also having such confusing feelings because my dad has changed so much and we are super close but he was so angry and scary as a child. I forgot about how terrifying he used to be and honestly feel detached from my childhood self. I feel like I view her as a completely different person and almost feel that way toward my dad. As if childhood me and my childhood dad were different people than they are today. It is so weird to describe and understand. I also don’t have a relationship with my mother (my choice) because she was not great and mostly absent. I only ever really think about or talk about my mom being awful bc she was in my teen years but my dad had changed at that point. It is so weird that for so long I have only ever thought about how bad my mom was as a child and not my dad. I feel like I am grieving the fact that I never felt fully loved, nurtured, or safe. I honestly don’t even know how to process all of this. I am also realizing the fact that I have an anxious avoidant attachment with almost everyone is probably because of my childhood. Does anyone have any input or advise on how to process this? Or any validation on if this is normal to feel like I’m grieving the childhood I wish I had. I work with children now so it’s hard realizing I never got or felt the love and care that I know children deserve.

TLDR: Has anyone ever grieved their childhood before? How did you heal and what helped you to cope?

What’s the genuine reason behind the drastically different dates? Is it just based on personality? I know Melanie and Kayda had fun and still had amazing dates but I felt bad for them when Aniya was telling them about her date. And she got such a beautiful and sacred momento to keep (the book) so I feel bad the other girls didn’t get anything similar. What’s the deal w this???

Hi all!! I am currently getting my BA in child psychology and minoring in drawing, painting, and printmaking. I am wanting to pursue my masters in art therapy because I have been dreaming to go into art therapy ever since I was a teen. However, I used to be set on working with adolescents. After working with toddlers for 6 years now I have realized that is my passion. Does anyone have any experience doing art therapy with toddlers? I know it is fairly niche so I wanted to know if anyone practices solely on early childhood age? Do we think this is sustainable and something I can pursue?

First time poster. This is a vent post as well as a cry for help.

My very close friend (think take you to the ER, spend Christmas together friends) offered to nanny for my toddler on her days off. She could use the money and I could use the peace of mind. It’s been a dream for the last 2+ years. Everything has been great, we already considered her a part of our family and have felt at such ease with her helping raise such a cool little human. About 1.5yrs ago I started paying her through a pay service that would take out the taxes for me. She could submit a time card and get paid for her hours worked. We continued the agreed-upon hourly wage and the only thing that changed was how she got paid. I loved it and honestly I set it and thought Nanny would let me know if there were any issues (normal expectation for our relationship). I always meant to draw up a contract but never got around to it (my fault, I am not a savvy business person).

My husband and I have been trying to save up for a surrogate for our second child (my pregnancy was horrible and I can’t do it again). It felt like no matter what we cut, our savings were going down, instead of up. Something didn’t make sense. I went over everything (so I thought) and just assumed I was overspending in other areas. But then I saw two payments go through to Nanny that were the exact same. That couldn’t be right, bc I worked different amounts of hours during those two pay periods. Huh?

I started looking back. Apparently I set “estimated hours” in the beginning, and if Nanny didn’t submit a time card, it paid her the estimated hours automatically. Problem is, the estimated hours were often way more than she actually worked, most of the time it was almost twice what she should have been paid. She hasn’t submitted a time card in over a year and the system has been automatically paying her approximately double. This includes during a multi-month medical leave from work where she wasn’t actually working for us at all. She hasn’t said a word.

I texted her asking to come over so we could go over paystubs, then immediately turned off autopay. She said she’d call in the next few days. She only called after her check didn’t hit her bank account. I couldn’t answer at the time, but have asked via text to talk in person. I’ve heard nothing from her. At this point, I stopped adding shifts on our shared calendar so she won’t be watching my child in the future (which has also left us scrambling for childcare). I know she knows. She also called in sick to our shared company on the days we would have worked together.

I’m heartbroken. The money is significant. And the loss of it is definitely my fault, I feel like an idiot. But mostly I’m so very sad about my friend and feeling betrayed, especially for so long. I had so much love and trust in her. My child keeps asking about his friend and when he’s going to see her again. She’s seemed weird and distant recently, but she’s been having mental health issues so I assumed it was because of that. I feel like my friendship is over in a flash, when really it was gone over a year ago.

I don’t know what to do or how to approach things. Any advice is appreciated. I can’t reach out to other friends because we are in a close friend group and I want to protect everyone’s privacy while we figure this out. Not asking for legal advice, just good old fashioned advice. A few details have been changed or are vague to protect privacy.

Was this ever addressed? What the actual fuck? I am watching season 3 episode 12 where they are going to Mexico and Kristen is upset in the airport bc fans were taking pictures while she was changing Kaia’s diaper. This is actually insane and so violating. I hope they were stopped and forced to delete those pictures. I don’t listen to any podcasts so not sure if this was already addressed but this made me so angry for Kristen. No mother or child deserves to be violated like that

Was this ever addressed? What the actual fuck? I am watching season 3 episode 12 where they are going to Mexico and Kristen is upset in the airport bc fans were taking pictures while she was changing Kaia’s diaper. This is actually insane and so violating. I hope they were stopped and forced to delete those pictures. I don’t listen to any podcasts so not sure if this was already addressed but this made me so angry for Kristen. No mother or child deserves to be violated like that

I’m on season two (watching for the first time so no spoilers please!) where Jax is in rehab and after Jesse made the claim that Michelle sleeps w a billionaire for money. She didn’t want Jesse to stay at the house he rented in Santa Barbara and in her confessional interview said she didn’t want him there bc he is worse than Jax. Am I the only one who finds this DIABOLICAL. Like what the actual f! Granted Jesse sucks but there is no comparison. I cannot believe she would say that about someone who is clearly in an abusive relationship. As someone who was in an abusive relationship this was extremely triggering for me. I know we don’t know what went on behind closed doors between Michelle and Jesse but it’s the fact that she’s downplaying Brittany’s experience that makes me mad

Edit- y’all have helped me look deeper and realize she didn’t truly mean it she just didn’t word it well. They are both awful men but my point was that she shouldn’t have downplayed Brittany’s experience just bc she was going through a bad experience herself. I never said Jesse is a saint LORD lol

I just needed to rant about how annoying Angelica is. Her need for male attention and validation is insane and honestly sad. Clearly someone who can’t function without being center of attention. Like why the hell would she mention the penis pump to LVP who in their right mind thinks that’s appropriate or even relevant??

I am a first time watcher of VPR but have known about scandoval and waited for the day to finally get to this point in the show. I feel like I’ve reached my right of passage🤣 20 minutes into the reunion and James is trying to fight, this is pure TV gold

Is there any other tea anyone remembers from this time? I just recently watched the tmz video of Raquel in the hoodie outside the nail place. What other things do you all remember going around then that wasn’t filmed on the show?

None of my friends watch VPR so I need someone to discuss this with LOL. Also I’m so conflicted on how I feel about Ally after seeing her on perfect match first. She kind of annoyed me on perfect match…. May be an unpopular opinion

Does anyone have any experience w Atlantic dentistry in bartram? What was your opinion? Good or bad??

I haven’t been to the dentist in a few years bc of $ and it scares me. I am hoping to find a good dentist that will help me feel more comfortable. It seems like this one is covered by my insurance and has some good reviews online

Any other recommendations for dentists that accept Florida blue dental insurance?

I am feeling so conflicted on if I stay w my current nanny family or not. I am honestly miserable just bc things have added up to make me frustrated (mostly pay related) and we have different styles/philosophies when it comes to raising kids. (I am more child led, Montessori, play based. They are almost completely opposite) I am wanting to leave and find a new position and have already started putting feelers out there.
BUT
My issue is I am in school and they are willing to work w my school schedule in the fall. (However I limited my classes to accommodate their schedule) regardless I am going to have to take more in person classes in the spring (beginning 2027) and will have to either do part time w them or leave anyway. Idk my schedule for spring classes yet. So my issue is do I just suck it up and suffer since they are going to work w my schedule???
MB is also due w second around then so worried it’ll be too big of a transition for NK if I leave and they have a new baby.

So a few weeks ago I discussed w DB wanting to switch to mileage reimbursement bc he originally asked me why I started using the gas card more. (Started using it maybe 2x a month versus only once a month before, bc it felt awkward and I would just use my own money for gas) I brought up the IRS rate and he said it seemed too expensive and felt it should be cheaper since I have a little car. He said they would discuss it and try to figure out something fair that covers wear and tear and gas. So today he finally came to me with a decision and honestly I am beyond frustrated. He said the IRS rate wasn’t realistic and was too expensive and he thinks it’s more of a corporate thing, I disagreed and told him it’s industry standard. I kept giving him info but he countered with saying they’d do a budget of $40 a month (barely even covers gas, if that). Said I could use MB car if anything but honestly I’m just not comfortable with it, plus she is always going and doing things like appointments, nails, etc, so realistically how would that work?? Plus wouldn’t I need to be on their insurance then? And wouldn’t that be MORE expensive?? I’m honestly frustrated bc I’m already at a lower rate with them. After a year they gave me a FORTY cent raise and they thought that was good. After I brought it up given my experience and normal nanny raises that this didn’t seem fair they rounded it to a whole dollar so now I’m at $21/hour 🥴 yet still can’t get paid my worth in gas either. (Given my experience and education this rate is already low for me, and was making $25 w last fam- before gaining my degree)

Honestly several things have built up and I just feel frustrated and burnt out after so long of not making my worth and working for WFH parents. I kind of jsut need validation that I’m not crazy and this is indeed not fair. Even though I know it’s not after extensive research. I think I may just stop taking NK anywhere and accept the fact we’ll be miserable