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By girls were born last week at 36w+1. I was expecting them to be very sleepy being preterm, I’m just curious how long it usually takes for them to start to wake up a bit?

I’m mainly curious because of breastfeeding. Right now we do up to 10min at the breast as practice because they are so sleepy they can’t really do much, and then I’m pumping and we are bottle feeding. Right now they latch ok and suckle 2-3 times then stop, so I have to re-latch them to start it again. They usually only last 5min of this before they are so sleepy they stop opening their mouth. I’m really hoping to avoid a bottle preference, but until they wake up more I don’t think we will make much progress with breastfeeding.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s been nice having the quiet time between feeds because I know that once they are more aware things will become more difficult. I’m just worried about the breastfeeding.

Our girls are here! We had a completely healthy and uneventful pregnancy and the most amazing vaginal birth. For those who are worried seeing so many scary stories, know that many people do have uncomplicated pregnancies and births, it’s just not as common to read them online. I know I felt anxious seeing all the complications being discussed. It’s more common for people to reach out for support and connection when there is uncertainty and fear, so I completely understand.

And know that a vaginal birth can be an option (depending on your own personal circumstances and medical team abilities of course). My story is below for anyone interested:

My OB was amazing and completely trusted me. We went in for an induction at 36 weeks and learned that my body was already starting things because my cervix was soft. In my singleton birth I had a bad experience with pitocin and epidural that lead to a brutal forceps delivery, so I did a lot more research this time and knew what I wanted to try for and that I’d have to advocate. I was given the option to break my water and see if it gets things started. I was told if there’s no progress after 2h they would start pitocin. At the 2h mark I was feeling crampy so I asked for more time. My OB agreed to keep checking in every 2h to let my body do its thing, he was in no rush. My contractions did start to pick up. The plan was to do a light/walking epidural around 6cm to get my body as far along as possible before the epidural in case it stalled things out. I wanted the light/walking one (the lowest dose possible, relatively new where I’m from) because I wanted to still feel my body’s queues and be able to walk around to keep things moving. The walking epidural was amazing because I could still feel the pressure of the contractions but the sharp pain was gone, allowing me to trust my body and follow it. Luckily my body kept up the progress and a few hours later I was at 10cm! I actually felt baby A’s head just starting to come out. My OB was funny because he was so unconcerned and suggested I refrain from pushing until the NICU team got there if I could 😂 luckily I wasn’t having uncontrollable urges to push so we just sat and waited a few minutes with baby A crowning. I then pushed for 5-6 minutes and got her out. My OB felt around to see what Baby B was doing. She had flipped breech so he grabbed her foot and pulled her out with me pushing. Not going to lie, that was not the most comfortable thing to experience, but it wasn’t painful per se with the epidural. I pushed for a total of 10 minutes and only had a tiny tear that I can’t even feel now.

It was such a beautiful delivery and I am so blessed to have had an OB who trusted me and didn’t push interventions. I asked him to let me know what the options are and the risks/benefits every time so I could make an informed decision and he respected my choices with no pressure or judgement. It was truly amazing. If at any point me or the babies were in distress, I would have considered interventions, but we were lucky enough to not need to go that route.

To anyone who reads this, I wish you the best whether you are pregnant, or your babies have arrived ❤️

Hi everyone, I just got my EV9 Wind in April and I’m researching winter tires. Getting 255/60R19 113V XL winter tires are very expensive and there’s very little selection.

Has anyone gone with another size that has worked for winter tires?

I’m in lower mainland in BC Canada, so not expecting crazy amounts of snow, but I have children and prefer to be safe in the event we do get snow and/or ice.

We are expecting twins in September and we have a daughter who will be 3.5. She does to daycare full time, and we try to have her there by 8am each day so my husband and I can work (it’s just a 2min drive away).

I’ll be on maternity leave for a year, and we are planning on doing shifts for overnights for the first while. My husband will have 7 weeks off and then will be back at work. We are struggling to figure out what a schedule for overnight looks like when we have to get a toddler ready and to daycare in the mornings.

Can folks in similar situations share your experiences? We will have more flexibility for the first 7 weeks while my husband is not working, but when he goes back to work I can’t wrap my head around how that might look. He works from home and normally needs to start around 8, 8:30 at the latest.

I’m 23 weeks with mo/di girls. We have a 3yo daughter already and she seems incapable of self play and needs us to engage with her at all hours. While my husband is cooking I have to keep her entertained, if we encourage her to play on her own she refuses. Right now is the easy part (even though I’m exhausted), I have no idea how we are going to handle this once the babies come. Any suggestions on encouraging independent play for the oldest? I’d like to start practicing now before they come.

I’m 22 weeks with mo/di girls and they are both moving around SO MUCH! They aren’t even that big yet and it’s starting to get uncomfortable. They will both go on kicking sprees at the same time and my abdomen will respond by hardening up and it’s so uncomfortable. They also feel like they are doing summersaults and it makes my stomach feel like I’m on a roller coaster. Usually I love that feeling but it’s getting a bit much and makes me start to feel slightly motion sick! I’m worried what the next 14 weeks will be like if they are this active. I’m assuming there’s not much I can do about this other than just grin and bear it…

Hi all, I have a 2026 Wind (from Canada). I needed the bench seat so had to go with the wind, but still need to put a Thule on top and considering a storage trailer. We do a lot of camping, I have a 3yo and twins on the way! I’m struggling to find cross bars that attached to the frame for the EV9. Has anyone found anything that works well without damaging the car? Also, I’d need a tow hitch installed (I’ll probably have Kia do it?) and wouldn’t mind recommendations for a trailer for camping gear. I’m in Canada, so things available in Canada are preferred. Thanks!

I have recently moved my TFSA and RRSP from a Financial Advisor to Wealthsimple. I hated paying 1% to someone when we are just doing the "set it and forget it" strategy, and the portfolio she had me in was doing terribly and I couldn't stand it. I have put all of my long term savings in XEQT and I don't plan to touch it for 20+ years unless something really terrible happens. I have withheld $20k for now and I'm trying to decide what to do. It is essentially our emergency fund for things that come up with the house, our vacation savings, etc. I hate the idea of it sitting there doing nothing. Is there something I can put it in that is lower risk than XEQT but still still allow it to do something while it sits? I of course will be doing my own research before making a decision, just hoping to hear what people's thoughts are.

Hi all, I’m in the process of moving my banking and investments to WS. I will do a self-managed TFSA and RRSP. I’m moving $64K in TFSA and $12K in RRSP. I plan to max out my TFSA room before contributing to RRSP unless I need to reduce owed taxes.

I’m planning on putting most into XEQT, but just wanted to get ideas. RRSP is obviously a very long term investment, don’t plan on touching it for 25 years. The TFSA is also supposed to be for retirement savings, but it is also our emergency saving for random stuff that comes up in life or house.

I keep hearing that XEQT is best for 10+ years investing. I’m planning to put the bulk of my TFSA into that, but then is there something better to put our “emergency fund” into? We also have random savings for things like travel that we’d like to keep invested, but would need to pull out as needed. Maybe I can keep $15k invested in something else for these things?

Also, is XEQT the best place for long term investment for RRSP?

I know getting advice from the internet can be interesting haha and I will research any ideas given. Just want to see what others are doing.

With my singleton pregnancy I got bursitis in my hips and it made sleeping on my side so painful. Nothing I tried at the time helped. I’m 16w with twins and so far no hip pain, but I’m expecting it to show up at some point. Did anyone with hip pain find a solution to relieve the pressure in bed? Unfortunately a lot of the pillows sit exactly where a pregnancy pillow sits for my belly, so trying to navigate that…

What was everyone favourite pregnancy pillow that gave good belly and back support and didn’t have scratchy Velcro? I tried a couple different ones with my first and ended up with one I liked but it didn’t have super great belly support (I didn’t really need it since I didn’t get very big with her). I’m only 16w with twins and already feel like I need the belly support. I’m in Canada, so ideally something available here!

Anyone else super annoyed by the hyper active proximity sensors? It’s screams at me like I’m imminently about to hit something when I have so much space. I feel like it’s going to be the boy who cried wolf where I start ignoring the warning and eventually will hit something. They are also so loud! I’ve turned it down as low as it can go. I’m pregnant and fear it will wake a sleeping baby, so I may have to silence it…anyone know if they can be recalibrated or something? I have the 2026 Wind from Canada.