u/TransManNY

Wasn't sure what flair to use or how to title this post. I'm going to start this off by saying I'm a trans man. I came out a very long time ago and have been on testosterone for a very long time. I've been binding when out of my house for about 20 years and it's been okay.

I'm somebody who struggles with recognizing feelings and taking care of myself. This shows up in not really knowing how I'm feeling. It shows up in struggling with relationships. And I generally don't know what I want or need when it comes to big emotional topics.

Recently I've been asked by my therapist more questions about surgery. I've never had a surgery of any kind including oral surgery. One thing I've been struggling with and I'm searching for opinions and personal experiences is surgery. I'm slowly learning that a hysto or fallopian tube removal would be good for my mental health. I've been thinking about my body and I'm not sure what I want when it comes to transition related surgery outside of some kind of permanent pregnancy prevention.

For those who have had top surgery, how did you know it was what you wanted/needed?

I run about 3x a week and usually use an old stretched out binder. I'm hoping to find a better option that can be hidden under a running singlet and skin toned. My chest doesn't have a ton of volume but I do have extra skin. I'm also very hairy. Any suggestions on what might be a good/better option?

Happy Pride Month everybody, I know a lot of people have been disappointed with the NYRR shirts this year. The pride run singlets are a highlight of the year for me. What do you all feel about this year's design?

A while back I ran into a situation where I was at a gay bar, somebody I wasn't familiar with was kinda talking down towards me and called me "boy." It really bothered me, and made me feel a little dysphoria. In a similar situation but very different I have a lot of close friends that are feminine gay men (mostly PoC). They call each other "girl" all the time. When they call me "girl" I feel accepted. In one situation a friend of mine said "girl" when referring to me then switched and said "boy" which made me feel uncomfortable and dysphoric.

Anybody else in a similar boat?

My situation may be different from yours. I came out like 20 years ago, been on T for a very long time, and I'm deeply accepted in the bear community.