r/FTMMen

I pass fully, besides my genitals. I’m trying to think of situations that cis men wouldn’t even think twice about, but trans men are on edge in. For example, a lot of flights connect through the UAE, so if I travel internationally I will have to find other countries to connect through, because if something goes wrong going through security, I could be in serious danger. Any other situations you guys can think of?

There are plenty of trans men who pass and pass well. And maybe im just not looking hard enough or something. Passing isnt what im getting at here though, i already pass quite well which im grateful for. Really, what i want out of posting this is to be proven wrong somehow. Any time I get very dysphoric, like I have been recently, I try to go and find other trans men who look like how I want to look, to give myself hope that my ideals are actually achievable. Specifically having a dimorphically masculine face as a trans man. But I can never find any, even when looking at trans man models or something, and it tears me to pieces.

I never see any trans men with the body type id like to have, even the clavicles of the best looking gymrat trans men are always too short and offputting compared to cis men, it makes me not want to even try if thats what ill look like. i never see any trans men whos faces are as masculine as i want to be, and whenever i see posts that are meant to be hopeful or showing that it *is* possible, I just feel worse, because its always someone who is either just old, balding, or has a big beard, and their facial structure when isolated is still very feminine when compared to cis men. I dont want to have to compensate for the forced feminization of my face with other features.

really eats me alive thinking ill never be *equally* as masculine looking, as a masculine cis man, and that at best ill be masculine *for a trans guy*. People tell me not to compare myself to cis people, but I simply cant, not when I know that this is the best I can hope for and that I still wont be satisfied. I know most cis people have some mix of masculine and feminine features, but I know for a fact that if I had been born correctly I *wouldn't*, and that gap between what I *should've* looked like and what im actually capable of reaching with hrt is what kills me. Im at the crossroads of just repressing over this discrepancy. In a way I hope I am the only one who feels this way but it would be nice to relate to another person if I werent.

I'm finally dead set on learning to do my own T injections (been on T for almost 3 years now). I've faced barriers because most of the medical professionals I've been to outright discouraged it and those that didn't couldn't advise on proper dosage/type of T and syringe. Hopefully the endo I'm going to can guide me properly.

One thing that I don't understand is why it's advised to inject T slowly over 1 minute. In addition, some of the providers I've been to follow this guideline and some don't (with the same T type and dose). What I noticed is that the slower it's injected the more it hurts.

I don’t know why it happened but these past few days I thought I was sick cause my throat hurt a bit (like if I had been screaming). Ive been on T for 3 years. My voice was already in the men’s range. Now its getting into the baritone, if it stays like that! I am very surprised 😳 did anyone else experience such a change so late into their journey?

I feel extreme dysphoria around the idea of pregnancy or ever becoming pregnant despite having the reproductive system that I do.

Yet it feels nearly impossible to avoid all of the people (usually cis people) always making this immediate, automatic association between trans men and pregnancy. If they want to depict a male character as trans, they always have to do it by either making him pregnant or making some comment about his ability to get pregnant. It's extremely triggering for me and as someone who also is not remotely interested in the type of sex that would even lead to me becoming pregnant, it's just bad all around.

Obviously there are some trans men who want to be pregnant or do not have any dysphoria around pregnancy. I think it's fine for other guys to want that of course and I respect it but I just wish it wasn't the default way cis people thought of us as a group considering it feels like most of us are not interested in ever being pregnant and a lot of us still have dysphoria around the subject. There's currently very little consideration or respect towards those of us who struggle with pregnancy dysphoria.

Not to mention the fact that it's also usually treated as a joke or viewed through a fetishistic lens where the ability to become pregnant = being a submissive bottom by default, which is....just weird and bioessentialist to assume. (It's not bad to be a sub and/or bottom of course but implying that having a uterus means you Have to be a sub bottom by default is deeply bioessentialist and transphobic.)

What sucks is that online it feels like frequently I'm the only trans guy who has this feeling towards pregnancy and feels sick of trans male characters always being depicted as pregnant or wanting to become pregnant or having people joke about them becoming pregnant. I hate that it's become a default like all of the other fetishistic stereotypes about us. I hate that nobody takes me seriously when I talk about how it's transphobic to assume that all of us want to be pregnant or don't have pregnancy dysphoria. I'm just tired.

Saw a reel the other day by a non binary person talking about they're struggles. Then suddenly brought trans men into it saying " the world sees people like me AND TRANSMEN as pathetic women and we are a joke to everyone and we achieve nothing and are so alone and no one will ever see us as anything more than tiny ugly women, I hate that the world sees us that way". I was so appalled.

The comments were all filled with ppl agreeing and like am I going insane???!!!! This person was a non binary androgenous person not a trans man not on HRT or anything but brought us in and kicked us down I think it's so disgusting and cruel and is that not literally like low-key hate criming us? Cos the only ppl I hear saying that stuff about transmen on the internet is " woke ppl" I've seen so many " dear transmen you aren't just weak traumatized women but are actually sooo pretty and someone will love you 🥺" with comments from young native trans guys saying " omg finally someone loves us thanks queen"

That's bullying and teen transmascs eat that up for breakfast not realising they're being made fun of and it's so cruel and I feel so deeply angered by this cos the world does not think that of us most ppl are chill or don't care. Please go out and live omg .

I've been on T gel for roughly 9 years now and my facial hair is still patchy and slow growing. My hormones are in male range, montitored every 3-6 months and am happy with all other aspects of masculinisation I've got during this time.

I'm considering minoxidyl for a slight receding hairline in recent months but I've read you shouldn't use it on your face?

Does anyone have suggestions for suitable products? It's mainly for my moustache and cheek areas to help fill in. My father and brother didnt/don't have issues with full beard growth so don't suspect genetics are letting me down.