AIO that I’m sick of my mom treating her Parkinson’s disease with alcohol while shitting on medicinal weed?
I know it’s ultimately her choice, but god damn, man. My whole childhood suffered because of her alcoholism, so maybe that’s why I’m so bothered. It’s just so hypocritical.
She has made so many judgemental comments about people who smoke weed and directly towards me when I regularly smoked, as if her drinking was somehow better than me and I was a junkie lol.
She was diagnosed about a year ago. Another thing she fought me on but that’s a different story. I showed her this video a couple weeks ago and she seemed open to it. (We live in NY so no issues). Instead she refuses to take her medication they prescribed to her, because they make her feel “weird”— but she won’t give it some time or talk to doc about changing. Instead she gets the only relief of “not shaking so much” through alcohol. It’s almost like it’s just an excuse at this point.
Can’t help someone who can’t help themselves. I know I can’t change her mind. Maybe I should post this in the boomers being fools forum.. because this is foolish. I’m overreacting by not accepting that I can’t change her mind but this is my mother and I’m watching her deteriorate because of her stubborness. AIO?
ETA-
She’s been diagnosed with Parkinson’s. And it was a 2-3 year long battle of being tested for it all. She sees a neurologist. Shes done it all. She’s not an alcoholic like that. It’s crazy that people are commenting and assuming my mom is a total drunk and I’ve self diagnosed her as having disease… here’s a simple picture for you
I’m 33
When I was a kid
She was a drinker
When I became an adult
She got sober
Two years ago, she was diagnosed with Parkinson’s
She has slowly started drinking again to cope and sees that drinking calms her symptoms
I’m not here pretending to be a doctor.. she’s been diagnosed. She is not on the alcoholic level of shaking without booze. Maybe 2x a week she will drink at night to have a relief from the shaking.
Why would I get on here diagnosing someone with a disease when I’m not a doctor? Some of you are straight dorks looking for a problem just fill your self righteous voids. Move on.
Edit 2:
Thanks for all the feedback. I’m not an ignorant asshole, I posted this because I want other perspectives on the situation and I appreciate the comments that opened my eyes.
I can see how one snippet of our conversation can paint a totally different picture between my mom and me.
I’ve accepted my mom’s disease, the weed thing is not a huge topic between us. Like I posted in other responses, the last time it was discussed was Christmas when I gifted her gummies that she refused to take and returned to me lol. Case closed.
The text convo occurred because I’m actually at her house spending the night . We had dinner, my son mowed her lawn and she always asks us to spend the night so we did. We were watching a show and a medical weed commercial came on so it brought up the topic again. The convo was quickly cut off because my son needed me. I continued it via text while I was laying down with him lol. My swearing may come off as aggressive but it’s not like that, that’s just how we are (New Yorkers? lol) I just was hanging with her again with no topic of weed being discussed. We were discussing Euphoria lol.. this convo is nothing that either of us is gonna stress over. It wasn’t an argument between either of us.
It’s all good! I love my mom. I’m spending way more time with her than I have in years. I also go to therapy and have worked through a lot.
I’m open to everyone’s views, but do it in a way where you’re not a dick? I’m a hurt person, navigating a lot, seeking advice on Reddit, bc obviously my life sucks. It pays nothing to be kind, and until you’re in my shoes.. you don’t know til you know.. and I hope you never know how this feels.