u/TryingToBreath45

I'm realising that a lot of the neurodivergent people that I am unable to be around are people who have a very black and white and inflexible and self centred (i'm not meaning that in a negative way solely as a descriptor) understanding and approach to requests, demands, limits, boundaries, intent and impact and relational outcomes.

Those who i absolutely gel with are ones with a justice centred, outward looking, grounded, flexible, curious and exploratory, approach, with a solid respect and understanding of limits and boundaries as i understand them - definitely for others, and often for themselves as well.

I'm really curious to understand other neurodivergent people's understanding of these terms. As it might help me to be more able to meet the neurodivergent people, that currently I just can't, in a more open way.

As now I just refuse to engage - which isnt a problem for me as I have lots of friends and social opportunities.

I wonder at whether there could be a way that both camps might be able to feel more easy with the other if we share our different understandings etc of these things. As it seems to me these are things that are often key in undermining people being able to speak and collaborate to come to a place of ease with each other?

edit: consent i think is also deeply important in this dialogue as well.

Anyone use those flours and got heads up for recipes? They're SO expensive 😱 and I wanna try them out with good recipes that are properly factored for them so I don't mess up!

Things in particular:

Bread Flour:

Bread rolls, similar to Scottish morning rolls.

Pitta Bread

Brioche rolls

Croissants (ok this is pie in the sky i never tried to make croissants when I baked before GF but 🤣)

Sweet flour:

Chocolate Brownies

Lemon drizzle cake

Cookies that are chewy in middle with crispness on bottom

Crepes

Fillo pastry/rough puff pastry / short crust pastry (dunno which of the two flours would be better)

Today, was feeling quiet and chilled dealing with some heavy stuff but letting it do its thing so its healthily being here, with me, being ok that its hard.

And headed into a small local bakery expecting to come in, pick up items, pay, go.

And the owner was there and was being really kind and stuff and I just ....... couldnt. Not in a sad, or anxious, or anything realky way, just in a - my brain is disconnecting and i'm confused, but I'll keep trying.

And when i left i realised that super social capable me is grand when I know to expect social stuff. Click, slot, clunk - hello world.

And if i'm in a good place and nothing going on, and what wasnt supposed to be social suddebly is its a bit scrabble, ug, ohh, ok click, slot, clunk.

But when I've got a lot taking up my emotional space, I just......can't. Its like I didn't even know that I wasnt wearing my mask. I literally was like i'd woken up and was a bit dazed.

Its made me realise just how quickly and subconsciously I grab that mask, adjust and click, slot, clunk....

And just how much energy it takes on the daily to keep it in place.....

That in order of priority:

Dairy and Gluten Free

Taste good

Mix without graininess

Have as few additives as possible

No added sugar

I'm menopausal, started strength training, dairy and gluten free (not sure yet whether dairy is lactose or milk protein issues so need to completely cut all dairy out) and needing to find something.

I make my protein powder up in oat milk with frozen berries.

I tried Biotona Veggie Protein 100% raw powder which has rice, pea, hemp. Unflavoured. Unsweetened. And the taste comes through plus its gritty.

I wanted unflavoured and unsweetened (I loved unflavoured unsweetened isopure whey when could have it) but right now I'll just take tastes good - so natural flavourings and mixes well.

Any suggestions as so many options out there.