Is there hope after TFMR?
I (28F) and my husband (30M) just had a TFMR 3 days ago. We lost our baby girl to trisomy 18 at 14 weeks, after our baby's NT (8.1mm) and eFTS (positive) was flagged at her 12 week scan. An early anatomy scan in the days that followed revealed a heart defect, fluid in her lungs (fetal hydrops) and several physical anomalies, along with high risk NIPT for trisomy 18 which was confirmed with CVS. We are devastated. This was our first ever pregnancy, and it took us exactly 1 year of trying to conceive that pregnancy. We prepped our bodies for a year, took prenatals and all the supplements, ate the right foods, avoided alcohol / caffeine / smoking, exercised, I even did fertility accupuncture. No family history either on either side for genetic conditions. It feels like despite being young when the odds should have 'been in our favour' we did all the right things only to still end up with a traumatic outcome that was out of our control. Unfortunately I know noone else who went through this, so its hard for me to process how to move forward or even cope - being stuck between mourning the baby we just lost and enduring that pain and so badly wanting a family in the future and knowing that will only happen once we heal. We ultimately want to wait 2 cycles to mentally / physically heal and get back our genetic testing for me and my husband before ttc but I'm terrified. The doctors told us the likelihood of this happening again is extremely low and it was "just bad luck" but its completely changed my perception of pregnancy (the innocence truley is lost after an experiance like this). Is there light at the end of the tunnel? For those that did get their rainbow babies or experianced something similar - how long did it take and any tips to move forward in this process (anything in terms of healing, health recovery, things you did different etc)?