u/Typical_Freedom_2918

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Abusive mum who searches through my things

I live with both my parents but my mum is extremely over bearing and toxic. Before i turned 18 i had been kicked out of the house multiple times and had been verbally and physically abused on multiple occasions by my mother. I come from a south asian background so this kind of behaviour is deemed as normal in my culture, so im not able to talk about this with any of my family members. Recently, i turned 18 and i got a job, so little by little I have been saving money to be able to move out without telling them.

My mum goes through my room and my phone nearly everyday, with my phone having a location tracker and a lock, so that she is able to lock my phone from anywhere even though i am over the age of 18. This is interfering with my plans of moving out as if she has any knowledge of me wanting to move out, there is a high chance that she will get extremely violent and it just isnt safe for me. So as a result, i purchased a burner phone and keep it hidden from her.

The problem with this, is that because she goes through my room regularly i find it hard to keep it in a place where she cant find. For example, i kept the charger hidden under my bed once and she found it, another time i put it inside inside my pillow case and she was still able to find it somehow. So my question is, where will i be able to hide the phone and the charger? I keep the phone on me at all times because otherwise i feel really panicked and paranoid that she will search through my room and find it. So the only thing i keep hidden is the charger, which im unsure of where to hide. I considered leaving the charger at a trusted friends house, but recently since ive started uni, ive been needing to use the phone more often to study with, and so keeping the charger in a seperate house to mine isnt ideal. Thank you to anyone who has taken the time to read this and I appreciate and welcome any advice.

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u/Typical_Freedom_2918 — 11 days ago