I am in my mid 20s and realized I am curious about starting theater. My German is alright but not close to good enough yet for this. Does anyone know of any clubs or places where this could be possible? Preferably in English.
Girlfriend met a guy at a club, danced with him somewhat intimately, got his number and then texted for 2-2.5 weeks. To some degree a normal conversation but with flirty elements throughout it and some messages being straight up flirting. They then went and got wine one day and she lied about what she was doing that day during that time. A crazy part of this is that it happened to be an old colleague who didn’t realise we were together, and told this story which matches hers. However, she kept all this from me for 1.5 months until i found out about it. Except for the intimate dancing, nothing physical happened and I am quite certain of this as the guy told the same story.
At the time, we were going through a rough patch but I am not sure it excuses this. She told me (the day after the dance) that she was having doubts about us on several points, one being whether she wants to experience being single due to her recently getting out of a 5-year relationship. This obviously hurt me but I was trying to be understanding.
She now claims that going for wine with this guy and everything made her realise that she wants me and that she does not want to be single. She has ghosted the guy but kept the conversation going for 1.5-2 weeks even after the wine but they never met again. She also had this same conversation about wanting to be single to me during this time, despite her saying it made her sure in us, so the story and her words do not really add up.
At the same time, while her timeline does not make sense. Once she did start ghosting the guy she has been the best girlfriend I have had for the past 3 weeks and things have been progressing a lot better than before the rough patch.
Massive arguments have ensued the past week after I found out and she claims she didn’t know she was doing anything wrong, that it was not a date in her eyes, and what not. She has apologized, said it was wrong, and promised not to let this happen again. She also seemed remorseful, but still claims she didn’t know it was wrong as ”it had never happened to her” and that she ”doesn’t know what it would feel like”. When I asked her what she would have felt if I did it she told me she had never considered it, which felt odd.
I am not sure what to do. We are young adults who were friends for a year before starting to date for about 6 months now. Can trust be rebuilt? I know she cheated on her ex boyfriend as well and admitted to going out dancing with other guys continuously throughout that relationship.
Appreciate advice.
Edit: I may her cheating on her ex was once and shamefully enough with me, which is how this started. Karma maybe. I felt terrible about this, she broke up immediately with the guy and seemed to not care.