I just wanna share this with people (if you read all this thanks)
I’m honestly more conservative though I consider myself more so independent but I know by many in the sub I would be considered very conservative so I really hope it’s OK. I’m posting in this sub Reddit, but I really wanna share something. I’m a Christian - Lutheran. And I’m a woman too. The thing is I feel like my romantic desires are very different from many Christian women that I’d consider devout the wide consider myself devout too. I almost think a lot of Christian women might judge me or see my standards as low, but these desires are very dear and precious to me and and this is the type of guy that I can see myself truly loving and recently has been talking to and getting to no one like that and I’ve had a lot of fun with him – we aren’t officially dating, but of seeing each other.
Here it goes: I wanna be with a guy that’s a Christian for sure – someone that fears God and wants to follow him, but not one that many women would disguise as godly or a spiritual leader. I want a guy who I think many Christian women would actually considered to be lukewarm and I know that might sound bad to some people, but I just feel like I’ll be less judged to you and I really appreciate that. Like for example, the guy that I’m getting to know smokes and vapes and I just feel like one of my good Christian friends would act like I shouldn’t get to know him at all, as well as the fact that in the past, he’s been involved in something that some considered to be a dangerous sin and I do too, but I’ve prayed about it and it seems like he’s open to hearing my perspective and understands that I’m coming from and nobody’s perfect. I like the fact that I can enjoy an inappropriate joke or having a beer or two with him and send funny memes and yet that he’s respectful of my boundaries and my waiting for marriage. I guess I would describe my dream guy as somebody that believes in Jesus as his savior, but isn’t overly religious or spiritual and can still let loose and have fun and the one that simply knows he’s a sinner and goes to Christ for mercy and doesn’t try to lead me. Pray with me and push the Bible on me all the time, but it’s still open to theological discussions and praying for me or even an occasional Bible study, but can have a drink with me and just be goofy with me. I honestly rather be with a guy that has a big potty mouth and smokes and trust in Christ than a super religious guy who keeps asking me how much I’ve read the Bible, acts like any amount of alcohol is sinful, and feels he has to be my spiritual leader. These desires must mean a lot to me because I get emotional lol. If you’ve read this far, I really appreciate it.