u/Unhappy_Breath_6586

I (18F) have a bf (18M) that I’ve been dating for four months. Our relationship is currently going as smooth as it ever could be, and he is genuinely one of the kindest and sweetest people I’ve ever come into contact with in my entire life, and I love him so very very very much. However, as does everyone, he isn’t perfect, and has some flaws, one of which kinda gives me an ick and is the main subject of today’s narrative.

Ever since we started dating, we text or call almost every single day for at least 15 min (call) or one text, a habit I decided to establish to make time for our relationship. He replies to my text messages, and picks up my calls whenever I call or text him, and we end up having a good conversation, something I find very glad and appreciative of him for. However, I’ve noticed a trend over the days. You see, all those conversations are mainly initiated by me. I make all the calls, and I am the one to send him texts, whether it be good morning, good night, or just anything in general. It almost felt like I had to remind him that he had a girlfriend. 

Taking this into account, I decided to try something. Instead of putting in the effort to text or call, I just didn’t. And I decided to see what happened. Guess what I got in return? No calls. Nor texts. It’s been five days since that. 

At this point, I don’t know what to feel. Well, I do feel a little hurt that he doesn’t seem like he wants to put in the effort to check in on me. But at the same time, I do feel like our relationship kind of works like that, me doing all the calls, and he responds at the time because he thinks that’s the time to not call him, especially since we both have strict parents and have to be careful of when to call. 

So, would I be overreacting if I reacted like this?

In the Raisin in The Sun by Lorraine Hansberry, The Younger family's rejection of Mr. Linder's diplomatic yet racially prejudiced pleas for the Younger family to move out of their white neighboorhood in echcange for his offer to secure the Younger family more financial gain depicts the importance of continiously maintaining one's pride and dignity

Mama's down payment for the house brings pride and dignity for the entire Younger family at the prospect for a better economical and social situation, depsite the racial prejudice it could bring for them. As Mama announces that she put the down payment on the house, she speicfically announces it to her grandson, Travis, telling him with a proud and conifdent tone that they recieved a house, expecting the surrounding family mebers, Ruth and Walter, Mama's daugher in law and son, to perk their ears up at this conversation. This turning to Travis is meant to syumoblize Mama's elation at a secured future, as Travis represents the furture generations of the Younger family, highlighting the strong familial value the Youngers associate with the house. However, at the discussion at where the house is located, Mama says it is located in a white nighbrohood, to Ruth's dismay. However, Ruth seems to quickly, exclaiming escstacially and exictedly her happiness for leaving her cureent house bhing. Ruth's elation at the loss of her current house suggests that despite the conomcing dangers she sees that she has to face as aBlack woman in ahwit neighboohrod, hse seems oblivious and ingorant to that, hihglihgint her only care on the straight facts that she recieved a house, and furtermore, expresses elation at the fact that they are going to get a new hosuse that is economically better than their inital one, underscroing her attribution of the house to a better economic and social life. Her straight focus on the facts that there was a house and the associated betterment of her life she seems relieved with the said house highlights the Younger's overall association of the house with the pride and dignity.

However, when Mr. Linder arrives to display his pleas at the Younger family leaving the house, the Younger family rejects him. When Mr.Lindner arrives to the house, he seems to be intially not getting to hte point that he want s the Younger family to move out in exchange for monteray gain, beating around the bush abotu what he really wants to say, highlithing his diplomacy. However, This inital hestiataiton reflects Mr. Lindners' akcnoledgment that the Youngers would not be willing to move so easily due to hsi understadning of the Ameircan dream, involving the typical American middle class family that owned a beuatiful house with a nice garden and front yard, something that the Youngers wanted to acheive. However, despite his udnerstandin og fthat, Mr. Linder, being racially prejudiced and hesitant to accept a black family due to possibnility of lynchings, outright poses the problem to them, much to the Younger family's dismay. The Younger Family, in repsonse to this, ignores him, and furthemore, kicks him out of their house for proposing this, highlughtiing their strong familial and prideful attachment to the house that they do not want to let go of. Additionally, after Linder leaves, they begin to mock him for his words of diplomacy that mask a racial prejudice, highlghintg their unfazement at Mr. Lindner's words, and further highlightiing their pride int themselves that they have established because the gaining of the house, which is associated with their dignity. Furthermore, diepsite falling into fiancaincla troubles, and at the brink of accepting the money Mr. Linder would give them, they still sidestep him and go forward with movinging into the house, houhglitgn the strong pride and dingity that they carreid themselves with after getting the house