Do u talk with Ur partners about everything including family stuff ?
I used to talk to my partner about everything every childhood trauma issues I have with my family until recently we had a fight because of his mother.
Basically hi invited me to a concert and then invited his mother without telling me in advance 7atni 9odem amr elwe9e3 le jour j because he knows I like to keep a certain distance of a common belief Eli el 9orb barcha ya3ml mechekel I have nth against her I just like to keep it that way I know she does not like me because I am not the classic type of woman she loves i am a photog I dont have a job that is reputable like doctor prof etc I just don't fit in that classic box she has and I have no problem with it
But that day she said some hurtful stuff basically 7agretni I did not respond but the next day i met with him and blamed him for putting me in that situation going against my will and not protecting me from these types of situations I did not blame him because of how his mother acts I blamed him because he knows his mother and did not avoid this situation
He apologised genuinely and confirmed that it was his fault and he did talk to his mother even though I asked him not to
I am grateful for that but I lately noticed that whether I talk about sth happening with my mother he falls into comparison and goes a bit harsh when talking about her
He started also to "glorify" his mother way of upbringing out of nowhere? Like she was and still is perfect in how she deals with him and his sister even though it is not true she is very invasive and very authoritarian very bossy, I keep these observations to myself off course but when he used to complain about her I would just tell him that yes this behaviour sounds a bit authoritarian try to do this with her it worked with me talk to her etc
Now I dont care about all of this my only problem is I feel I lost my friend in whom I can confide in and talk to about everything he used to be the person I talk to without fearing I will be judged or looked at in anyway
This is very difficult for me to handle I fought with my mother yesterday and she was mean and I am dying wanting to talk to him about it but I cant !!! Should we talk about this issue or partners just don't share these type of shit ?