r/TunisiaRelationships

1- be patient : he ll do it eventually he s just busy/going through a lot rn

2- accept him with all his flaws: be so incredibely in love ut doesnt matter if he s broken, if he can but wont be there for u

3- trust ppl: be so stupid and trust him with ur heart, share ur wounds in hope he protects u from the cruelty u ve been thtough

4- believe he s just ur sweet boy and he would never do that to u (yes he would)

5- put effort, love letters, gifts, compliments, time , mental capacity in the relationship and be happy when recieving only words , and promises

6-THE GOOD TIMES ARE SO GOOD LIE: when u actually r together u re having so much fun it s like a movie with all the giggles and races and dances and cute stuff it makes u so completely in move u forget all the times he wasnt there and make excuses

7- never ask for literally anything in return

8-raise ur manchild by telling him he s perfect when he feels insecure, telling him things will get easier when life gets hard ….

9-ignore ur gut feeling that he s not supporting u enough
10- ignore when a girl’ s name is brought up as a classmate/friend mire than once
11- believe ennou laabd heka ykhaf rabbi welli ykhaf rabbi ma yejrahch laabed
12-believe u re so lucky u found ur soulmate share about ur family issues and the literal years it took u to heal just for him to be the last straw and break ur heart to pieces

13- when u find out everything, you still cant face him cz u didnt learn to hate people and u cant believe someone who looked like a literal angel face will skip under ur « trust no one survival mode »radar

Got a lot more part two? For now i ll just stare at the ceiling , looks a lil too appealing

EDIT : NSIT AHAM WAHDA : feel sorry for him cz he has been cheated in in the past and be a good person to show him not all girls are like that and that it s not his fault and he deserves love 💕

I see a lot of couples are living together now

What u think ?

Musakana — I keep seeing people defend relationships without marriage as “freedom,” but I honestly don't understand the logic.

If one partner explicitly wants a relationship without marriage or commitment, doesn't that at least raise a red flag?

Marriage isn't just a romantic label. It's a legal framework that creates rights, responsibilities, financial obligations, inheritance rules, and protections for both partners.

So why spend years arguing that society needs laws to protect partners—especially women—and then deliberately avoid the framework that creates those protections, and call avoiding it freedom?

I think there are actually two different situations here.

1. If we're talking about a religious marriage

If you're Muslim, you can't simply redefine marriage according to your personal preferences.

In Islam, a Muslim cannot validly marry an atheist, whether the Muslim is male or female. The separate ruling concerning a Muslim man marrying a woman from the People of the Book is a different matter—an atheist isn't People of the Book.

And simply doing a civil marriage doesn't change the Islamic ruling. A civil registration can document a marriage, but it doesn't automatically make an otherwise invalid Islamic marriage valid.

So from the Islamic perspective, if the marriage requirements aren't met, you can't just say “I have a different point of view on what Islam says.”

Religion is naql—we receive and follow what Allah and His Messenger ﷺ legislated. We don't invent our own rules and then call them another interpretation of Islam.

So I don't need to explain that Musakana is out of the question else its زنا

2. If we're talking about atheist + atheist (since we've already established that Muslim + atheist isn't a valid Islamic marriage)

Then obviously the religious framework isn't relevant.

But I'd still ask: why does one partner specifically want to avoid marriage?

If someone knows that marriage creates legal responsibilities and protections, but deliberately convinces their partner to stay outside that framework, shouldn't you at least ask who benefits from that arrangement?

Maybe the person understands the rules perfectly well and is simply smart enough to realize that avoiding marriage protects himself from obligations while leaving the other partner with fewer protections.

And if his worldview is that this life is all there is—no divine judgment, no afterlife, no ultimate accountability—then why wouldn't maximizing present freedom and comfort sometimes take priority over long-term obligations, family responsibility, or legacy?

I'm not saying every atheist thinks this way.

I'm asking a simpler question:

If someone is actively trying to keep the relationship outside the framework that creates obligations and protections, why shouldn't that be considered a red flag?

At some point, “freedom” shouldn't automatically mean avoiding every framework that creates responsibilities while still expecting society to protect you from the consequences.

Honestly, I need to vent a bit. Dating here lately feels like an endless cycle of high expectations, performative small talk, and awkward coffee dates that feel more like job interviews than real connections. You invest time and effort only to realize neither of you is on the same page.

​im a white male and at 28, I’ve honestly hit a wall with the serious relationship auditions for now. Sometimes you just crave simple, upfront, low-stakes human connection—meeting up for a drink or coffee, seeing if there's actual physical attraction, and just enjoying making out and having a good time without overcomplicating things or pretending we're planning a wedding.

​Anyone else feeling completely burned out by the local dating scene and wishing people were more chill and direct about casual intimacy? DMs are open if you relate.

Asslema ness lkol nchlh tkounou b5yr

after my break up (almost a year) I noticed that my neighbor (my friend's sister and she is my sister's friend) too was trying to hit on me no matter the occasion

I am an extrovert and I make jokes with her sometimes but not that far

Recently she was extremely different (tatyich ydin,tsalem bel bous ,wela 7ata nabda 9a3ed tji ba7dheya w ta7ki 3la 7ajet mte3 couples) she also stole my hoodie and not talking about her flirts everywhere

I started feeling uncomfortable and annoyed

Ken n9oul l5ouha taw yeklouha b tri7a (s3ab darhom)

W man7ebch n9oul l o5ty taw ma3adch ya7kiew

What should I do??

A: someone who loves everything you love, you basically share the same interests but they are hard to communicate with and can be toxic sometimes

B: someone who you don't have anything in common with, they are very different from you but they are very easy to communicate with and emotionally mature.

After a relationship of 5yrs, I find it so difficult to like and get attracted to someone new.

I talked to few guys that seemed interesting at first, but after a small conversation I lost interest.

It's like every small detail they say that I don't like i immediately loose my attraction.

I admit some of them were super nice and fun to talk to.

We shared similar interests so we had stuff to talk about. idk how to describe it but I am not able to keep talking to any guy.

Do you guys think it's normal?

I've moved on and I don't have feelings to my ex anymore.

It's just me not being able to like anyone.

edit : The breakup was 1 year ago, for people saying I need time I think it's enough time.

علاش كيف تهتم بالطفلة تبعثك وكيف تبعثها تجيك؟ راني تعقدت مش مرة تصيرلي مع كل طفلة نعرفها نحاول نكون باهي معاها ورجلة تردلي الباهي بالعكس؟؟

It's not a fetish , there's nothing wrong with me. I find different women beautiful across the spectrum but my personal preference is women who are more chunky. I'm just more inclined towards that sexually and I would love to be in a relationship with one. TB fair, I'm not attracted to every plus size woman: I'm attracted to those with a pretty face and a good shape/ fat distribution. When my friends and i sit at the local coffshop and talk about women, we all agree that X or Y is super hot. But my latest relationship with my ex ( we split up for an irrelevant reason) they almost made fun of me for it and one of them said he would never actually be in a relationship with one, he'd just be interested in her sexually.

I'm not sure why we as men do this. Why do we pressure each other into certain behavior and life choices that don't make much sense? I know what you're going to say, I am old enough and I should man up and choose what works for me but that isn't the question I'm asking. The question is: why do we do this? To ourselves and to each other? If we all love the curves why do we consider each other as a failure for not nailing someone who looks like a model? Why does it matter ? Why do we marry one thing and dream about another?

Bac w lonely w de5la fy 7it hedhy 7alty I need something special in my life I need to feel valued

i see a lot of people nowadays have this idea that they r so worthy of a relationship etc , and like its just other who do not appreciaate them etc so i wanna know do yall really believe in this?

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My boyfriend (27M) and I (24F) are in a long-distance relationship. He lives in France and I’m in Tunisia, so most of our communication is through phone calls and texting.

Lately, I’ve started feeling like our conversations are extremely repetitive and almost robotic. At this point I'm feeling they I'm talking to a bot .Most of the time, he asks things like:

- “How’s the weather?”

- “Did you eat?”

- “Did you get home?”

- “Did you arrive at uni?”

- “I miss you so much.”

- Then he sends me some random/cringey relationship reel 😂

And that’s basically it.

I know that asking about your partner’s day and checking that they’ve eaten or arrived safely can be caring, especially in an LDR. But I feel like we rarely have deeper or genuinely interesting conversations anymore. Sometimes I’m on the phone with him and internally thinking, what am I even supposed to say now? It almost feels like I’m talking to a chatbot that has a list of five questions programmed into it.

So I’m wondering: is this actually normal for couples, especially couples in long-distance relationships?

Do couples eventually just run out of things to talk about and mostly exchange daily updates + “I miss you” + reels? Or should there still be curiosity, deeper conversations, jokes, discussions about random topics, sharing ideas, etc.?

I’m not necessarily saying he doesn’t care about me. I’m trying to figure out whether my expectations for communication are unrealistic or whether this could indicate that we’re becoming emotionally disconnected.

I’d especially like to hear from people who have been in long-term LDRs. What does your normal communication actually look like?

I mean where a mahram is involved from the very beginning, with no private dating or getting to know each other one-on-one.

If you went through this, or intended to follow this approach, could you please share your experience?
How did it work in practice? How did you get to know the person, and did you find it difficult compared to more common approaches?

what do u guys do when u get bored of ur life and the routine and wanna spice stuff up a little

personally ive been really struggling with that lately, not talking with a lot of pple, having no motivation or energy whatseover...

Im talking so cruel it should be illegal, something diabolical

Like, not even have a sexual relationship, but just kiss in peace without being bothered, anywhere on the grand Tunis, even in a maison d'hôte or an Appartment if anyone has a contact.

3andi jara lyouma t3araft 3liha, fi faza tha7ak haw bech na7kiljom hhhh

3andi zeda jara o5ra fard etage, dima el 3ark wel machekel w klem zeyed, anded a7na mouch b3ad barcha, hasilow ya latif a5yab jar chofto fi 7yeti

3ad lyoum, ti taw barka la7keya saret, nesma3 fi 3ark w saben w sye7 3rafta el jara el 5ayba eli na7kilkom 3liha, hasilo halit el beb nesma3 chfafama wala la 3ala chnowa yet3arko, chouf ki t3ich wa7dek tfed y wali ay mawhou3 haka mta3 drama yejethbek, hasilo el 3ak mte3hom tefah barcha houma zouz bnet se3a mouch wa7da bark, ya sidi mara yet3arko 9atelha ena baba ki yo5rej yeshar yo5rej yeshar b f5ama w yhabet dabouza (9alet esm el dabouza come quoi haja 8alya) mouch ki bouk, wala marat yet3arko 3ala tfol, hasilo el mara hethi, halit el beb bech nesma3, w binetna ma kabtitech hata haja ama le7met bel gde, kahaw sakart el beb mte3i ena keka w el beb ydo9, zebi jeyin yet3arko ba7theya? haya mouch mochkel mar7be nhedhom zouz b tri7a, chkoun tla3, jarti el jdida, ma3andhech barcha meli 7awlet, w la 3omri choftha, hailow se2letni, bdit na7kilha 3lihom w 9oltelha raho normale w lezemha testenes w deja ma3roufin bel machekel, kahaw ensena tayba, 9oltelha etudianet 9atli ay e5er 3am, se2letni 9oltelha la mouch etudiant, ne5dem mel dar, kahaw hachmtni 9atli test7a9 ay haja 3che mekla mar7be bik, la79i9a hachmetni ama manich mel naw3 eli ya3ni yest8al wala, hasilow man7ebech ne5o mel 3bed, kahaw zedet chwaya w 3awdet da9et, se2letni 9atli t3achitchi, w fama 3che, ken t7eb njiblek, hasilo far9, ya sahbi far9

w rabi yorzo9na bel jien el behyin w yba3ad 3lina wled w bnet el 7ram

I used to talk to my partner about everything every childhood trauma issues I have with my family until recently we had a fight because of his mother.

Basically hi invited me to a concert and then invited his mother without telling me in advance 7atni 9odem amr elwe9e3 le jour j because he knows I like to keep a certain distance of a common belief Eli el 9orb barcha ya3ml mechekel I have nth against her I just like to keep it that way I know she does not like me because I am not the classic type of woman she loves i am a photog I dont have a job that is reputable like doctor prof etc I just don't fit in that classic box she has and I have no problem with it

But that day she said some hurtful stuff basically 7agretni I did not respond but the next day i met with him and blamed him for putting me in that situation going against my will and not protecting me from these types of situations I did not blame him because of how his mother acts I blamed him because he knows his mother and did not avoid this situation

He apologised genuinely and confirmed that it was his fault and he did talk to his mother even though I asked him not to

I am grateful for that but I lately noticed that whether I talk about sth happening with my mother he falls into comparison and goes a bit harsh when talking about her

He started also to "glorify" his mother way of upbringing out of nowhere? Like she was and still is perfect in how she deals with him and his sister even though it is not true she is very invasive and very authoritarian very bossy, I keep these observations to myself off course but when he used to complain about her I would just tell him that yes this behaviour sounds a bit authoritarian try to do this with her it worked with me talk to her etc

Now I dont care about all of this my only problem is I feel I lost my friend in whom I can confide in and talk to about everything he used to be the person I talk to without fearing I will be judged or looked at in anyway

This is very difficult for me to handle I fought with my mother yesterday and she was mean and I am dying wanting to talk to him about it but I cant !!! Should we talk about this issue or partners just don't share these type of shit ?

Hello, does anyone have an experience where he dated/married someone whose family is bad ? especially toxic parents.

I'm talking about something serious and not just dating for fun.

Would, for example toxic abusive parents of your partner, stop you from continuing with the relationship? especially that they won't mind their own business no matter what. In other words, would you consider a bad controlling family a red flag that you can't tolerate?

23M, I wish I could be the same person I was before.

I just can't be like my normal self anymore. For the last 3 years, I can't trust anyone, I don't have people that I love, I don't have people as friends, and I'm totally lonely. I don't remember when was the last time that I really expressed my feelings or wanted to talk to someone about how I feel.

I push people away when they get closer to me. I only feel safe when I'm alone. I don't have people that I don't want to lose. I don't have a person who is my close friend. I haven't felt love for a long time. Even though I tried a lot and got into relationships, I found myself every time with someone that I don't really love and don't feel safe with.

Btw, I'm not an introvert and I have a good social network, but they are just people I know, and no one is really my friend.