u/No-Caregiver-822

Forget relationships , forget everything and focus on one topic that will get brought out almost after a while which is marriage , personally speaking I dislike marriage , heck I could live with the one I love without marrying her and before we get ahead of ourselves no it's not irresponsibility, it's the damn rubbish culture, since I was a kid I never liked this whole Tunisian tradition thing but anyways back to where I left it , marriage seems to be a breaking point for many men as of lately , I'm not against providing or anything before some angry folks jump out at me , it's just the demands outweighs the benefits and the true purpose of marriage , it's almost nearly impossible to have everything out at the same time from a car to a house to gold to gifts to a vacation to whatever she demands , mostly it's the family which to a certain point I don't even get , am I marrying the family or her ?

This whole cultural nonsense and this whole euphoric dream needs to die , I dunno about anyone but personally speaking, I only like genuineness and the sense of staying with the one you cherish your whole life not by following the norms or the materialistic route , but by following your desire to build and protect and stay with her or him forever

I'm honestly so torn and fed up lol like I enjoy talking and communicating as long as she matches my interests and even if not , I still keep the conversation going. Unfortunately that can't be said about the others , some genuinely suck during talking from vague responses , to low efforts , to responses after hours or days , to keep repeating the same words over and over again , and then we wonder why every relationship fails lmao

This ain't even a one or two persons problem , it's literally in every person I connect with , somehow it became even worse when everything became materialistic and with the introduction of social medias fantasies.

I said what I said , everyone should do the bare minimum for talking , and if you're not interested since the first discussion, just be mature and say that it's been nice but it's not gonna work or whatever your heart tells you , but obviously everyone likes playing childish games and psychological mind games nowadays lol

Whether it's esprit , Tek up , iteam , sesame and so many others , they all suck regarding their study and work program , they don't even accept anyone and just waste your time , I had a call from another university regarding their apprenticeship program that told me all our partners have seized the hiring for that lol esprit is the same , nobody cares anymore to train you and let you work SMH

what a damn 💩 hole we're living in!

I'm only drawn to a specific kind which is like the gothic type with dark aesthetics , anything else Idc about it no matter how good it seems like , I only like things dark and I only like rough and extreme situations lmao it's just part of excitement and experience , this whole vanilla dating or marriage scene doesn't even excite me 🤷🏽‍♂️

but enough about me , what do you love about your potential partner as in their type ?

Formation acceleré 6 mois hakeka medhebiya , mey9ala9ch il rythm wela cours du matin/soir , ilmohim acceleré!

So far I've only heard good things about it , even despite being against going to private universities, but as far as I've heard they offer actual paid certifications in AI / networking and cybersecurity fields along with some global internships and many internships with their help , is it worth integrating into ? I'm not even interested in esprit i feel it's worse tbh

People are doing their best to handle everything in this dating scene in today's generation and honestly it's as useless as it gets , low efforts have been the norm for ages now , social media made it even worse , add to that commitment issues , unhealed trauma , child's play and narcissism , unsatisfaction , quick boredom smfh

What the heck is this scene all about after all ? Trying to navigate it is like trying to find one piece (pun intended) , it's draining and doesn't produce anything useful or worth working for or even committing for

I'll get a lot of hate for saying this BUT idfc : women need to do better honestly, it's not even about me , it's the whole state I'm seeing , nobody is satisfied with anything and nobody is doing anything to fix this whole nonsense , I said what I said and I know damn well some guys will try to play the hero title but guess what ? Nobody cares it's all a sht game

There is nothing to do , it's always the same day , the same week , the same circle if you even have one. The entire country is on the verge of civil war at this point , from its corrupted regime and government to its never ending internal problems to its weak economy to its outdated technological breakthrough. Add in equation the amount of solitude you have to bear most of the time , chilling reading or going out alone , just to sit there unsure about your whole future with no clear vision , add to that the amount of hypocrisy greed pride and every other sin you can think of is spread like a virus around every neighborhood, add to that no relationships no genuine feelings no contact no respect left.

What tf is this state we are in , in this country ? What tf can you even do if every card is stacked against you smh ?

Job searching should be a full-time job by itself , everyday for a whole year or so of unemployment, you wake up consulting every single job listing site and app , only to be met by either an "unfortunately" mail or the typical non responsive ghosted reply , it's so ridiculous and mentally draining , there aren't even that many jobs to begin with in the tech field lol

How the heck could I even land a damn job ? Even call centers are useless , they give you a call and you go pass a test only to be once again GHOSTED!

At this rate only nepotism can save me or others drowning in this madness

A huge chunk of people struggling to settle down aren't struggling because they can't find someone but because they never dealt with what happened to them before. The trust issues from an ex who lied, the coldness from a parent who never said "I'm proud of you," the anxiety from being cheated on once and now assuming everyone will do it again , none of that gets processed , It just gets carried. And then it gets handed straight to the next person who didn't do anything wrong except show up lol

That's the first half of the problem though the second half is the second someone stops playing games and says "I like you, I'm not here to waste your time, let's actually build something" people run. Someone finally shows up direct and serious, and instead of relief, it triggers panic. Suddenly they're "not ready" or they "need space" or they just go quiet. The same person who complains about situationships suddenly can't handle the opposite of a situationship.

And that's the contradiction nobody wants to admit is that everyone says they want commitment, but commitment requires being met with the same intensity you're asking for, and most people aren't actually prepared for that. It's easier to want marriage in theory than to sit with someone who's actually ready for it in practice. Healing isn't a prerequisite most people meet before dating , most of us are doing it in real time, messily and that's normal. But there's a difference between working on yourself while you're with someone and never starting the work at all, then blaming every partner for "triggering" you lol

If you want something real, it's not going to feel like your past. It's going to feel unfamiliar. That discomfort isn't always a red flag , sometimes it's just the first time someone's actually treating you right.

I have been searching for a job for nearly a year now , in everywhere from apps and sites and locals and there is none caring to hire , like what am I even supposed to do at this rate ? Sent over 400+ applications to various companies , including IT companies even though I'm not an IT graduate but my field of study was electronics and electrical engineering lol if I knew passion alone wouldn't have got me nowhere , I would have gone the nursing route since the beginning smh

Can someone guide me ? Or better if you know someone looking for someone , just DM me anytime you want , I hate being stuck like this

You start looking for any job , you send as many as you can , recruiters picks up your resume and calls you for an interview , you go and you get there on time and do the usual interview thing , only to be either met with two outcome:

1. "we'll call you back" and they never do

2. "we'll call you for a second interview" and then when you finish it , they just never give you a follow up or anything and the thing that pisses you off is that they reupload the same job a few days after finishing with you 🤦🏽‍♂️

This is just two common interactions when dealing with jobs 💀 and there are many others that either pisses you off or make you wanna quit this whole thing together and the thing is it will never get better

Alright hear me out , everyone has preferences , and I'm attracted to someone that listens , talk a lot , makes time for you and be there for you whenever you both need each others out , but there is some problems regarding my other preferences in which I can't even find anyone to check them no matter where I look in this country , maybe it's never meant for me in this country lol but here they are :

1. doesn't want to have any kids (I'm sorry I've been never interested in having any and I don't even want to at all)

2. have high libido BUT values cuddling and daily unwinding more and almost daily

3. High Emotional Self-Regulation (eventually each one of us will open up about his darkest past or moments , and honestly most women lose interest so fast , there is none that are willing to stay and process negative emotions)

4. Daily Communication (While many text daily, finding someone whose quality and frequency of communication matches yours has been futile for me , some text a lot but sometimes disappear as they never existed and then come back after a long time , make it more sense!)

And finally : emotionally mature , this is by far the most rare preference to ever find , having the ability to understand, manage, and express your emotions in a healthy, constructive way without being toxic or immature is almost so hard to come by...

I'll say it straight because I'm not here to waste time dressing it up :

I'm not big on games , I go in straightforward, I communicate openly and honestly from the start, I don't do the whole guessing/testing thing , I just say what I mean and expect the same back.

And what I keep running into instead is : low effort and emotional distance , emotional detachment, zero real communication. And it's not a one-off , this has happened enough times that I'm genuinely losing patience with the whole process , not even once or twice , this is a pattern at this point, to the point where it's making me question whether it's even worth putting real effort into meeting someone anymore.

Maybe it's the dating culture right now, maybe it's specific to certain circles here , I don't know. But I'm at the point where I'd rather not bother than keep hitting this same wall , every damn time

I'll say it straight because I'm not here to waste time dressing it up :

I'm not big on games , I go in straightforward, I communicate openly and honestly from the start, I don't do the whole guessing/testing thing , I just say what I mean and expect the same back.

And what I keep running into instead is : low effort and emotional distance , emotional detachment, zero real communication. And it's not a one-off , this has happened enough times that I'm genuinely losing patience with the whole process , not even once or twice , this is a pattern at this point, to the point where it's making me question whether it's even worth putting real effort into meeting someone anymore.

Maybe it's the dating culture right now, maybe it's specific to certain circles here , I don't know. But I'm at the point where I'd rather not bother than keep hitting this same wall , every damn time

If every damn field is always saturated or not looked after or seen at all , then how do you expect people to work , open houses and have a simple living ? This is just a crisis on top of another which is economical recession, what's even the point of investing your time if you will be unemployed afterwards, it doesn't make any sense

The whole electronics field in this country is a joke and a laughing stock , people are building advanced chipsets with advanced lithography machines and techniques and pouring trillions into the AI chipset races and we're just stuck reassembling cables ? Where the heck is edge ai , industrial AI , neuromorphic computing, silicon photonics, advanced semiconductor packaging (3D-IC), and wide-bandgap power electronics ??

The whole country is only IT IT IT lmfao no wonder we are in such a catastrophic economy

Looking at how everything is set up in this country , unless you have extremely good network and be among the 1% wealthy , your success rate is so limited , so if everyone is facing the same problem , what's the best ROI plan to do as of right now ?

Personally speaking, the more you study you more you waste your time in this country, unless you have a guaranteed way out then I can understand sacrificing your time , and if you don't the most logical best ROI is start a business and lay out the entire plan for the future , that's just my take in this , engineering was the way out but it's unfortunately so oversaturated , the only field that has a high success rate is healthcare , everything else is suffering