u/Unique_Assist6442

In December of last year I found out I was being cheated on and it was the hardest thing to heal from.
I tried moving on by dating an old friend I hadn’t talked to in a long time and then we went on a trip to Hawaii together where I met his extended family. I decided not to continue things because he ended up becoming abusive. I saw him post with a girl for July 4th so I went to her page and she had posts with him from 2024 to now. I contacted her to ask if they were together when we went to Hawaii and she said yes. She didn’t believe me, but I did all I could by giving her all the information and proof I had that he took me to Hawaii with him and that we were starting a relationship together. She stops replying and I receive texts and calls from him saying I was lying and I need to stop harassing and stalking people before he goes to the police.

I just hate the feeling of being the girl someone cheated with like I had absolutely no idea he was in a relationship. Being cheated on and then being cheated with is such a terrible feeling, I feel so guilty and I’m not even the one that cheated. I don’t know her, but I also feel she deserves so much better. After being cheated on I didn’t think I could move on and find love again, but I have and it’s amazing.

It also has affected my trust issues because I didn’t think he was that type of person to not only cheat but take a whole other girl on vacation while in a relationship.

I was so excited to be a mom. I was ready to move into a house and buy a bigger car and now there’s no need anymore. I went to get a free ultrasound because I wanted every chance to see the baby and unfortunately I was measuring almost two weeks behind and there was no longer a heartbeat. This was my first pregnancy and I really wish if this was going to happen it could’ve just lasted at least a little longer. I’m still in shock so my mind hasn’t fully recognized what has happened. I’m so sad and just keep looking at ultrasound pictures. It’s also sad because I don’t have any support. My family makes it seem normal with most of them saying it’s happened to them too. The father has went completely no contact since I told him, saying he couldn’t support me because he needed to get back to living his life. He doesn’t even know I will have to get surgery (D&C) and he doesn’t care. He didn’t want the baby in the first place. I just don’t know how to recover from this. I wish I could try again for a rainbow baby but obviously that’s not in the cards for me anytime soon.

I did a sneak-peak test at 7 weeks and found out the baby was a girl. I’m just so sad because I was supposed to be her mom and now I will never get to meet her. I was so excited, not only to be a mom, but her mom. I wrote to her every day and now I will never get to read those letters to her. I don’t know how I’m supposed to get rid of everything I already bought her. I was so happy and it was ripped away from me. I have my D&C scheduled in two days and all I can think is I’m going to wake up and my baby will be gone. Instead of using my insurance deductible to bring my baby home, it will be going towards surgery. I can’t even think about what I will do to prepare mentally for when her due date comes or that she was supposed to meet family on Christmas.