u/UniversityGeneral332

Assalamoalikum warahmatullahu wabarakatuhu.

I have been married for around two years and we were having a good life together. My wife is nice and she loves me and hasn't ever denied intimacy without a reason. She cooks sometimes and takes care of me in general.

I am a surgeon so I often arrive home late from hospital during to emergency cases and I always try to inform her when I am late. But some days ago I got an emergency case at the last moment of a RTA and I couldn't inform her that night.

As I reached home she was angry at me and began shouting. I tried to apologize politely but she didn't stop. In anger she told me she is leaving to her parents house and I genuinely tried to stop her and apologized non-stop but she didn't listen. She booked the taxi and she had already booked an aircraft ticket with her fathers help and she was about to leave when I stopped her. I begged. I had tears. I literally folded my hands not to leave but she left and I called her till days and message her but she didn't reply. And the worst part is that our maid saw everything.

At the 10th day, she answered still with angry tone as I tried to talk but still she talked harshly. I love her and truly care but when she talked like that I stayed silent almost weeping. But as she noticed me silent she realized and finally asked how I was after days with a warm tone and that was when I couldn't control. I literally sobbed but didn't let her know I was crying because I see no point in explaining my life to a person who doesn't care.

I love my wife and I sometimes even cook for her although we have a maid. I have never raised my voice even if I was wrong but it seems she doesn't notice my efforts. I always make her feel safe and loved but whenever she gets angry she treats me like a stranger.

I truly don't know what to do. I am totally depressed because she do loves me, allows intimacy, cares for me when things are normal but she turns toxic and doesn't care or notice me when she gets angry. Maybe what I do is not enough or I don't deserve her.

I am in great depression please help me

Assalamoalikum warahmatullahu wabarakatuhu.

I have been married for around two years and we were having a good life together. My wife is nice and she loves me and hasn't ever denied intimacy without a reason. She cooks sometimes and takes care of me in general.

I am a surgeon so I often arrive home late from hospital during to emergency cases and I always try to inform her when I am late. But some days ago I got an emergency case at the last moment of a RTA and I couldn't inform her that night.

As I reached home she was angry at me and began shouting. I tried to apologize politely but she didn't stop. In anger she told me she is leaving to her parents house and I genuinely tried to stop her and apologized non-stop but she didn't listen. She booked the taxi and she had already booked an aircraft ticket with her fathers help and she was about to leave when I stopped her. I begged. I had tears. I literally folded my hands not to leave but she left and I called her till days and message her but she didn't reply. And the worst part is that our maid saw everything.

At the 10th day, she answered still with angry tone but as I tried to talk but still she talked harshly. I love her and truly care but when she talked like that I stayed silent almost weeping. But as she noticed me silent she realized and finally asked how I was after days with a warm tone and that was when I couldn't control. I literally sobbed but didn't let her know I was crying because I see no point in explaining my life to a person who doesn't care.

I love my wife and I sometimes even cook for her although we have a maid. I have never raised my voice evn if I was wrong but it seems she doesn't notice my efforts. I always make her feel safe and loved but whenever she gets angry she treats me like a stranger.

I truly don't know what to do. I am totally depressed because she do loves me, allows intimacy, cares for me when things are normal but she turns toxic and doesn't care or notice me when she gets angry. Maybe what I do is not enough or I don't deserve her.

I am in great depression please help me

Edit: For those saying it might be accumulated anger or lack of love I would like to say, Everyday when I wake up I stare at her with love praise her and then whenever she cooks something I praise her. In our house, I give complete attention to her. In fact when I arrive home back from work, I first hug her and whisper I love you. I never force intimacy and never refuse to buy anything for her. In fact, despite we have a maid, at weekends while she is sleeping I prepare breakfast wake her up and feed her with my own hands. I literally do everything I can not to show her but because I love her. And still if she is angry she could have told me.