u/UnknownUser5729

I’m actually struggling a lot with this right now. I haven’t slept and it’s now 5:37 I’m in my late 20s and was raised by a single autistic mom.

It’s been so hard my entire life believing that I should be the one having sympathy for her in this situation because she’s a single autistic mom but I’m starting to really understand that I don’t have to put my feelings in a box to make sure she’s comfortable.

I have no dad, and an autistic mom.
I’m so so so tired of walking on eggshells because I don’t want her to feel alone.

She’s said some really off the cuff things about how she thinks her mom views us, and I don’t agree with what she said, and wish she never said it around me but she has no filter.

She doesn’t think before she talks and she treats me like a friend instead of her only daughter and it’s actually really hurt me.

This is the tip of the iceberg with my grievances,
She maybe visited me 3 times in college over the course of 4 years, then when she sold the house my senior year of college I was basically told when to have my stuff out by. Not a single question where I would move to or an offer to move in with her.

I got over all of the college and college aftermath stuff in time but I am really so upset with her right now that everything is upsetting me.

Like I had a birthday recently and there were princess cupcakes and cheesecake and she said she wanted a character ring but there were only three and I told her “there are 4 kids here and she’s their favorite” at my birthday and she said “well that’s tough shit I bought the cupcakes” so I just said “well then” and walked out of the room.

Later she made a big deal in front of me showing her she gave a ring to my cousin. Fantastic, but it was like a double down, on my fucking birthday guys.

I really want to maintain a relationship with her but I’m in a lot of emotional pain and she doesn’t put in any work on her mental health, she just plays video games in her free time.

I can’t afford therapy, I can’t find any proper support groups in my area they’re all for fucking parents with autistic kids, WHAT ABOUT US.

So there’s this woman I’m close with who’s from Pittsburgh… I’m aware of her cheating on her husband with three different men.

I just can’t believe someone would cheat on someone who they have 4 children with.

She complains about him like she’s a mean girl and she’s just done with him. I feel really bad for this guy because it’s with a local bartender, their married neighbor, and a friend of her friend, these are all 3 separate like ongoing affairs. He’s oblivious.

I met the husband a few times and he really nice but she constantly talks about being bored with him and she’s constantly sexualizing her clients as well. It’s really appalling behavior and I don’t know what to do.