r/CheatersConfronted

You’re probably thinking I’m a real chicken shit for coming here to ask this, and you would be right. My dad is a chronic cheater and has had several marriages. He is currently married to the most horrid woman who has obviously married him for his money. She treats all of us like shit and I’ve just had it.

A few years ago, he made out with another woman at a wedding and continues to see her. All of us (his kids) know about it. I have thought about telling my stepmom directly, but the irreparable harm this would do to my dad and I’s relationship is not worth it. Plus, I just don’t feel very “girls girl” towards someone who has treated me so poorly.

I am looking for someone to text her that he’s cheated on her. Preferably a California number since that is where the wedding was. I want no ties back to me, hence why I’m asking on Reddit.

Save your negative comments. Just looking for anyone willing to do me this solid.

Just want to start off by saying please no comments about how the best revenge after a breakup is moving on and just living your best life. I already know this and 100% plan on doing that, after the revenge.

We've been dating for over 3 years and i've caught him cheating many times and i just had enough now. My mental health has worsened more and more every time i find out he did it again. Why did i stay with him so far? Because i genuinely have no one else and i know people always say it's better to be alone than someone bad but it's not the same for everyone, some can't do that easily. I'm detaching myself from him over time and that's what works for me best. We're long distance so I need good ideas that i could do over the phone ideally.

I discovered my on and off again boyfriend of 3 years has been sleeping with someone else the entire time. I would like to inform the other person of our relationship but don’t know what claim to make.

I don’t actually know who was being cheated on—me or her. I’m thinking she was. He and I started dating August 2023. In February 2024, he informed me he just had a child born in January 2024, and claimed he didn’t know about the pregnancy until then, and that he’d just done dna testing to confirm the child was his. For some dumb reason, I didn’t question this.

In July 2024 I went no contact due to lots of issues in general with the relationship.

In March 2026 I decided to answer one of his DMs (he reached out on LinkedIn, where he wasn’t blocked). He explained he was a changed man etc. We resumed dating.

In April 2026 he finally admitted he had a history with the baby’s mother. I again did not pry much but should have.

Any time his child or his mother came up he’d discuss how much he hated her and how she trapped him etc which I just didn’t really respond to bc I don’t believe in ppl trapping ppl with kids.

In June 2026, I found his baby’s mother’s social media, where she had a single photo pinned to the top of her profile of him (back facing the camera). He’s not in any other photos or anywhere else on her profile, which is public.

Anyway, one night my bf wasn’t answering his phone, which was odd. I looked up the baby’s mom’s address and went to it to see if his car was there and surely it was—at 11pm. It was still there at 1am.

When I confronted him about this, he said he was visiting his son there bc he hurt his foot and couldn’t take care of him on his own. He stated he took a pain killer and fell asleep. When I protested this as an acceptable story, he added that he was friends with her cousin, who was also there that night, so he wanted to hang.

That gave me the context for the whole three years, because I have more background knowledge of this cousin of the bm and his relationship with the cousin—they go way back, and have spent lots of time together, which means he’s spent lots of time with this baby’s mama. It put other inconsistencies and difficulties in our relationship from the first year into perspective.

So, at first I felt I was being cheated on. Now, I feel she was being cheated on, which makes me feel really shitty. Not guilty but like I’m trash. I don’t want to just be like, “look what your boyfriend did”, nor do I want to say “stop messing with my man” because I don’t want him anymore. But don’t think just letting him get off Scott freee is right.

So, what exactly do I say to her? I plan to send her an anonymous letter with photos, screenshots, call logs, etc without my face, name, or phone number so I don’t need to do any follow up or be harassed by her or anything.

If you live in Colorado this man I met on an app and he admitted to having a wife that was asleep in the next room while we were chatting he asked me if I was okay with the fact that he was talking to other women behind his wife's back he blocked me after I called him out.

I don't even know where to start with this. I've recently gotten out of a very abusive relationship. 3 years of physical, sexual, financial and mental abuse. He got arrested for assault, strangulation and uttering threats while I was pregnant, but I was stupid and pleaded with the crown to drop the charges because I was lonely and pregnant (family is out of province) The abuse stopped for a short bit, but then continued on. There's a lot of details to this story and I'd be willing to explain deeper to anyone who wants to hear it.

We have a son together, he's a year and a half now. The happiest boy and he's everything to me. I've had to get CPS involved multiple times due to my ex partners crazy behaviour, I've spent the past year looking for an escape. There's also 5 different police files. Recently, I had to kick him out of the house because he was high and drunk, smashing things, woke the baby up, started throwing things into the babies room, I couldn't tolerate him doing these things around our innocent baby. He tried to flip the blame on to me and say because I kicked him out, he doesn't owe me anything, so now I'm going to family court for full custody, child support and spousal support.

He lied and told me he went to his dads house, I recently found out that he ran off to this girls house and has been living with her and her kid. He's also been cheating on me with her since the baby was about 5 weeks old. I keep finding out more and more information and new things keep coming to light. He's admitted to it, and I also received a message from another girl in April 2025 from someone claiming that he was hooking up with this chick, but I didn't believe her because things didn't seem to be lining up at the time..looking back, they absolutely were. But, what the actual fuck? Some background history about this girl too..she's known for being a homewrecker. She's done the same thing to one of my friends with her baby daddy and has a history of going after taken men. She's also been posting threats towards me. She looks like she eats meth for breakfast, but thats besides the point. She has a 5 year old at home and just brings different men into her house, doesn't matter if they're abusers, addicts, it's apparent that she's desperate.

My ex constantly accused me of cheating on him. I wasn't allowed to do anything. I had to quit going to the gym because he would make me facetime him every time I was there, even though he had my location. I had to quit my job. He would take my phone and scroll through it for 2 hours at a time, opening every single app, every single message, even the ones from before we got together. He never found anything because I never had anything to hide. I stayed loyal to a man that abused me and he's just pretending that none of that ever happened. I did everything for him. I'm handling it pretty well, my mom is out here visiting to help me take care of my son as I navigate everything, but the same question keeps coming back..the question is what the fuck? Why do these men run to easy women and how can they both live with themselves knowing the destruction they've caused? Theres zero sense of human decency.

So long story short... Yesterday my boyfriend said he was at home.

Now we have a shared YouTube account and Gmail that we specifically use for YouTube.

I was feeling suspicious and I never did this before but I used Find my Phone to see where he is and was out ... I could see him driving from the motorway to city centre and back in the span of an hour.

So it's not like the location glitched and wasn't accurate... I know he was out and he's denying now.

I confronted him and told him my brother saw him with another girl and thought of asking me...

My boyfriend is still saying no, so if someone can please help me, I will appreciate that.

I dont know to tell him how I actually found out, because it'll make me look bad ... I want to somehow be able to prove without telling him I stopped and caught him

Little backstory we broke up on Christmas and then got back together sometime mid January.
Stupid decision I know I should’ve never got back with her but just a couple days ago.
I was at a buddies house and he happens to be good friends with my ex-girlfriend’s new boyfriend. I know that’s kind of confusing.
Sorry but put simply this buddies house I was at is an old friend of mine that I’ve known since I was 10 and he lives on the same road so it’s not weird at all that I was there, but while I was there, he pulled up my current girlfriend’s Tinder and showed me that she was still on there. she was under the free tonight section which kind of hurt me more so I confronted her last night about it and she started freaking out saying I was high on pills and I was probably fucking my ex at his house. Fast forward to today and she just blocked me for absolutely no reason while she’s about two hours away with her family. Should I just end their relationship? I’m starting a new career on Monday and I just want a fresh start.
I also swear I remember we both went on Tinder and paused our accounts and she even gets notifications trying to get her to join back. Do you guys think she has a second Tinder account?

PS: she has her own apartment and will not let me come over or stay the night, and her defense it’s a pretty small apartment, but I’ve literally faced homelessness and she still hasn’t taken me in, even while I’m offering to pay her rent.

He has a wife with MS and two kids and this douche is sexting in the dms

Don’t know if his family is aware as he is very quick to block on all his and his wife’s accounts if you bring it up.

Wouldn’t want the world knowing you’re some type of deviant predator online, sexting young women who pay you a compliment.

I have photo evidence if anyone wants to see this cheater in action.

keep in mind, I treated her right, I always was there for her all the time, I never did anything wrong to her, I was always trying to be the right guy for her but that night when she came to my place, her mouth tasted off, and that’s when it clicked that I just tasted someone else’s yk.

now, I’m not kidding you, I’m not known for being violent but it took every fibre of my being to not catch a charge that night because I wanted to beat the living shit out of her for letting me taste that shit. the amount of disrespect and emotion I felt in that moment was almost uncontrollable bro, but I managed to keep a calm demeanour the whole time because I knew if I had reacted based off my emotions, I would’ve got charged.

so, I kindly just asked her to leave cause I wasn’t trying to deal with her shit no more, and she starts crying telling me she’s sorry and won’t do it again, and keep in mind I’m still fuckin fuming inside, I deadass felt like I could lift her and throw her across the fuckin galaxy, but I just said “if you’re not going to pack your things and leave right now, I will be calling the police to escort you out.” and so I acted like I was dialling the number, and that’s when she started to get a move on.

that night was seriously the angriest I’ve ever felt in my life and it took a lot to control my emotions, but I managed it.
why aren’t a lot of people genuine these days bro? after this relationship ended, I’ve been single ever since because I just hate dealing with peoples bullshit they pull expecting to get away with it.

it’s like taking a gamble when you’re letting a person into your life, especially in this day and age.