r/CheatersConfronted

My narc ex was a serial cheater on me and the girl after me. I tried warning her, but it only made it worse. Fast forward their engagement was off bc he got violent according to her social media. He reached out to me to try and crawl back but I was over him at that point, but he knew I was his safe space to land for so long that he unloaded in a 4 hour convo about cheating on her frequently from girls at a strip club. I cut off contact with him after that talk and occasionally would check his socials to see who else he was disappointing. We have mutual friends, and I know as of last July he wasn't with anyone, but the other day, was SHOCKED to see his IG profile pic was a wedding pic. Her Pinterest was full of "baby nursery" and post partum pins so I know he got her pregnant and they had a shotgun wedding (just like his parents did when the had him lol). This girl has been pregnant longer than she's known him not pregnant and he's dangerous but has a lot of charm. I want to tell her, but I think there is a restraining order on him from the ex-fiance after me, so he'd know it was me. I have her email and cell phone. I just hate seeing him get off the hook after all he did to the two of us and this poor unsuspecting woman has ZERO clue into the web she fell in to (who is also substance abuse counselor - he is an alcoholic! and a social worker). Anything I can do?

My girlfriend and I dated for about a year and then split for a few months and got back together. We took it very serious when we got back together and quickly started talking about future plans together like living together, getting married, finances, etc. This has been going on for 6 months. One evening I go to her place after work and we have a nice serious talk again about future plans and marriage. She tells me she loves me and signals with her finger that I should put a ring on it. She then leaves to go to a work event and leaves her Apple Watch behind. I have never trusted her and I monitored her watch while she was gone to the event. After about 3 hours, I see she initiated flirty texts with a mutual friend of ours who was at the event. The back and forth exchange was flirty and sexual. I then see the messages disappear off the watch, because she deleted them right as she walked in the door to see me. I confronted her and we had the fight. I tried to dump her, but she begged me to give her a chance and let her change her behavior. It’s been 2 months and she’s said/done all the right things but I still can’t get over it. I feel like I never will, and like I know marriage is forever off the table. We have a cruise vacation planned in a few weeks, and I just want to get through that and then evaluate and make the final decision. Whole situation sucks. Sometimes I wish I had pulled the plug that night, but I am also glad I’ve given it time to settle and put forth effort to see it through. Idk.

Live in girlfriend and I got into a heated argument, nothing physical either way, just upset. So she then ghosts me, gets dolled up and leaves, comes back around 2am (6hrs after she left) clothes/hair/makeup disheveled and acts like nothings wrong and goes to bed. I look in her phone and find she was messaging some guy I’ve never heard of to meet up the night she left, specifically asked him to pick her up in a parking lot, not from the house. Messages look incomplete like someone who erased the most incriminating ones. When confronted, she said “he’s just a friend,” “I can’t prove anything,” “I made it up in my head to create drama.” She even told me to ask him if I didn’t believe her. To me, she obviously cheated. Objective opinions appreciated.

Short story was just browsing through my partners x followers and I saw a NSFW following him but he doesn't follow back. However the account was made a couple months ago and is local to our city. Only has like 20 followers but follows 50 so I'm wondering why follow him specifically. After reading their bio and location I was sketched out a bit but I want to be smart of how to approach this. Should I request a dm asking why they chose to follow him? What do I do can someone help me

I really need some help or advice about a really crazy situation. I've been in a relationship for a year with a foreign man. A lot of things didn't sit right, but I knocked down all of the red flags because I stupidly let myself fall in love.

I'd had suspicions about a woman he would spend time with. After bringing her up again last week, literally the day after our anniversary, he suddenly announced he was moving away. It didn't sit right with me and I made a comment about speaking to this woman. When I said this, I was blocked. I then realized I was also blocked from her page. A friend tried to contact her for me, but was then also blocked.

Next thing I know, I'm getting messages from him laughing at me, saying he told her to block me, etc. Then I started getting messages from an account on Instagram claiming to be his wife. When I finally told him that I was going to send her all the proof of our relationship, he started laughing at me again and said the account was actually him. I have a strange feeling the wife thing was all a smokescreen to divert my attention away from the woman I think he's actually in a relationship with.

I've discovered he's told her and a number of other people I'm just some crazy person who took a photograph with him one day and made up this entire relationship. But I have a year's worth of messages and photographs of us together to prove everything.
But I don't know what to do. I know most people would say I should let this go, but I don't feel it's fair that he's getting away with it and she has a right to know what he's been up to. It's really messing with my head. Can anyone please give me some advice on what to do here?

I keep getting mixed opinions. I received a dm from a girl saying this man is dming her and she found my sisters wedding website. She immediately knew he was married and she wanted to tell her but couldn’t reach her so she told me. Do I go and blow up her life now? I know that this is in no way my fault but I would be responsible for completing ruining this brand new marriage.

This man was NOT wearing a wedding ring when I met him in a very normal work, not like a club or anywhere where you’d take off your wedding ring if you were trying to cheat. At least I would think…but according to any social media my bestie found he’s married with one year old twins 🙃 but per me confronting him about if he’s single or not he said he’s not single but in a poly relationship and has proceeded to be very sexual with me via text ever since. and mentioning visiting me as well. Not just that but he is my vibe 100000%.

I should probably cut it off but part of me has this weird attachment to him. I know it sounds crazy and I’ve never been “another woman” type of person AT all. Actually super strong in my faith and the kicker is apparently he is as well. If he’s married, she seems so sweet and I don’t want this for her but per him he is not.

Anyway I almost don’t know what I’m getting at right now other than just advice or similar stories about feeling SO connected to someone who is possibly taken. I tried to stop talking to him even though I didn’t want to but he’s kept up convo and it’s so hard for me to resist him. 🫠

I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.

Tldr: he opened his phone and i saw the woman's name he called me while being intimate at the top of his texts threads. And more! I got what I deserved.

So I 34f have been dating a guy 42m for a about a year. Our relationship started out as an affair. I was in a marriage I hated so much I wasnt eating, getting drunk every night, the whole thing. He was single.

Anyway things started out fine, just hitting it, planned on quitting it, but if course caught feelings.

He helped me get out of my marriage by just being there and answering questions I had. I needed support and he was there. After I was officially divorced he asked me to date him. I said yes, happily ever after right? We started making plans to live together. Yada Yada.

He started coming to my place after i was officially divorced and while we were right in the middle of some adult fun time, he called out this woman's name who happens to be an ex. I was like excuse the absolute f out of me sir WHAT?! He apologized, very remorseful all that jazz. I chose to let it go. It happens right? Mistakes were made but I thought I'm gonna let this go and just keep it in mind. He told me he didnt talk to his exs and that when hes done hes done. That was a lie.

Anyway one night a few months later, I was at his place helping get it fixed up to sell and forgot my phone in my car. Asked him to use his he said sure and opened it and scrolled to the text thread I needed for me. How kind. Little did he know I saw his texts. I saw her name at the freaking top of his most recent. I was seeing red. Standing there holding a phone in my hands shaking so badly heart pounding like i was doing cardio at the gym. I sent off my text and backed out and looked at hers. Let me tell ya. I only saw a small amount but I quickly left and told him id see him back at my place.

When he got home I was mad. Asked to see his phone. He did let me. And got in the shower. I went through all of the messages in that text thread in less than 30 minutes, I looked at his Google maps, I looked at his call logs. He was calling and texting this woman every day. Told her he loved seeing her. Told her how seeing her brought up old memories. Told her he liked her jiggly booty. Let her talk bad about me. Told her how beautiful she was. BOUGHT THIS WOMAN A CHRISTMAS GIFT. He was going to her house. He invited me to Thanksgiving at his parents and took food home for leftovers but it was really for her. The stuff I saw. He defended it as just friends. LMAOOOOO NOPE. Needless to say I went right back to old habits. Got absolutely black out drunk on a Tuesday night because I couldn't handle it. He also lied to me about meeting her and all this stuff. I already knew but he just kept trying to lie to me and deny he ever met up with her outside work. Yep they work together. Anyway its been an ongoing thing for us over the last few months.

Tonight I asked him about another woman. He had gone out of town the first few months of dating and called her his coworker but always called the men coworkers by name so I hit on that right away and was like wtf. Anyway... tonight I asked him outright if she had gone to his hotel room while he was there. This dude yall... again looked me right in my face and told me she didnt but I ALREADY KNEW SHE DID. I skimmed her messages the same freaking night I looked at the other woman's. I like to move in the shadows after all. I then asked to see his phone again and it instantly turned into a privacy thing, how it was ridiculous, he scrolled through the messages to read them to make sure what was said. Didnt want to give me his phone. When I finally got it he hovered and was bombarding me with questions so I couldn't focus.

If hes gonna cheat WITH YOU, hes gonna cheat on you. Ive never cheated before this. I was miserable and needed out before I wasnt around anymore and I made poor choices. I shouldn't have ever done what I did. But I guess this is the karma for it slapping me in the face over and over.

I hope this sorry gives yall who are hurting because they have been cheated on a little hope that what goes around comes around. Im back to being miserable. Only now its because im worried about being cheated on and lied to.

Lesson learned. Got exactly what I deserved. Heartache and pain. The same I did to someone else.

I had an ex boyfriend that was one of my longtime friends before we dated. We dated for almost 2 years, we broke up, he killed himself and I had pictures from when we were dating to give to give to his mother. I never was able to find the time to get them to her. They were just packed away in an envelope in some boxes. Fast forward 3 years, I met someone, we ended up having a child together, and I confronted him because I found videos and messages from him to another woman saying good morning my Love and things like that all the while saving her pictures of her in a dress and things like that. I found these barely after our child turned 7 months old. I confronted him, asked for space and now he is telling me the pictures are cheating. While I was in the hospital recovering from my C section he went through all of my things, and threw away those pictures so they dont even exist anymore but he still says I'm cheating and this was after I found his messages to the other woman ans confronted him. This is my first Mothers Day and he has told me to go spend it with my ex who is dead. I tried to walk around a flower shop today with my Baby but I had to leave after seeing all the bouquets. I went to church alone with my Baby and I had to stop and sit to catch my breath and try to stop myself from crying because so many kind people were telling me Happy Mothers day.

My husband of 12 years had been going to sex workers (3 that he admits to.. but claims no sex just bj) and a dozen times to massage parlor.

I left. It’s been 8 months. But I am still struggling so hard. I’m a smart, capable woman with my own business. I look after myself and have confidence in almost everything I do…. But I still can’t seem to shake this.

Now (learned through friends) he’s talking about “testing the waters” and putting himself out there to see what’s there (dating wise) .

I feel like I should be good. Clearly not my guy. I dodged a bullet… I get it.

But I still miss him and it’s still so painful. I couldn’t even imagine being with anyone else.

Anyone else ever experience this? Tips?

She has cheated on me in the past multiple times and I have left and been convinced to come back. The last time I left, I was just like this and ready to leave for good and my stepdaughter ran to me, hugged me(the only time she has given me an unprompted hug) and crying asked me not to go. I caved because I love my kids and I thought we could fix things and things would get better. Things have not gotten better. I CANNOT take the cheating anymore. I don't deserve it. And I gave you $300 to get your hair done for mother's day......and the morning of you are fucking another man!!!

Sorry. It all just happened. And I'm sitting here thinking that my stepdaughter who has lived with me for 11 years, since she was 2, I won't get to see again. My "A....was cheating on me" Google photo album now includes 75 pictures.

I knew last night when she left she was going to meet another man. I let it play out. She came home, we went to sleep, and I checked her phone. Every single time she's done this she has used the same "I need to see my friends" line. After reading the messages, I woke her up on Mothers Day morning and told her it's over for good.

Who cheats on Mothers Day??? Who breaks up on Mother's Day?

R.I.P. relationship

12-10-2015 - 06-10-2026

From the beginning he said that he had crazy exs, while a month after moving tot he same town as him we went out to a street dance and he left me by myself with random people all night and the we got to his home and I noticed a girl had added me as a friend from his hometown and I asked if he knew her he said that it was his crazy ex.

I ended up going home to my house because I was mad about him leaving me alone with random people all night. I woke up at 5 that morning and he had texted me good morning and that he was sorry but he was going back to sleep.

I went to go check instagram and noticed I had a message request, I open it and it’s the girl who had added me on Facebook, she said that he had been messaging her that he missed and loved her the night before.

I drove with sad girl music and sobbed all the way to his house and I got there and I walked upstairs and I sat and I waited for him to wake up and silently cried. He wakes up and says what’s wrong to which my response was who were you messaging last night. He lied and he said no one. I said I have physically proof that you were texting your ex.
He said his friend had texted her ( I now know this is a lie)

A couple months go by and I am at his moms we had just been out with his friends and he falls asleep but his phone keeps going off over and over again. I open it and realize most of the conversation has been deleted. So I recover it, it is him messaging someone saying that he loves them and the person responds with leave your girlfriend and come be with me. He then said come pick me up and we can talk.

I immediately was like wtf. So I grab my keys to leave and his mom wakes up. She tells me to sleep on the couch and she will go talk to him. He then comes out and begs me to talk to him. So I go into the room and I ask who he’s messaging. He lies and tries to show me a different number and claim it’s one of his friends. I tell him I’m not stupid who were you messaging.

He then repeatedly keeps saying he can’t tell me over and over and over again. So I say let’s go out to my car then because either you’re telling me or I’m driving home. We get in the car and he immediately starts crying that he’s not gay over and over again ( mind you I am bisexual I don’t care what you like just don’t cheat)

Come to find out this is a guy who’s he’s been messaging for the last couple of months and the guy has sent him text of telling he wants to have sex with him and videos of him self.

We ended up driving back to where we live and he begs me not to leave him and say he will delete all his social media. My social media was deleted for 4+ months and then I came to find out that his never was.

A couple months pass and I saw a tik tok someone had posted and liked it. Then about 3 hours later I start getting comments on tik tok from a video I had posted of him. That say girl that’s sad he’s playing you. I then go to her profile and she has uploaded tik toks explaining that he has been being her lunch and ubering over to see her.

I confront him, he claims that she’s crazy. (Insert eye roll)

A few months go by he is on a bachelor trip with some of his buddies and I get a message request from the first girl his “ crazy ex” saying that he’s been messaging her and following and unfollowing her.
I then calm him because we are supposed to get married a month after this.

He claims she is just trying to sabotage our marriage.

Well long story short we got married and are getting a divorce and him and the crazy ex are already back together.