u/UpInTheClouds_789

My LO has always contact napped and bed shared, feeding to sleep with me or needing motion like in a sling or pram. We've never been able to consistently put her down when asleep. The only times I've been able to have been when she is very very tired. After accepting this is how she sleeps, I've not had any concerns (for a few months).

She started nursery recently (now 13 months) and they have been great, holding her to sleep and being able to put her down a few times. However, they called me in to a meeting to discuss LO's sleep, essentially (but more kindly) saying that they couldn't carry on getting her to sleep like this because (1) it's labour intensive and (2) the rules around baby sleep at nurseries are changing in my country so they have to be put down on their backs in a cot or mat (this is true, I read up on it and no prams or holding to sleep allowed any more). They said to try putting her down in a cot at home to get her used to it. But she will not sleep like that, she needs assistance. I know from experience it's very hard to transfer her too - she wakes if I move a muscle in contact naps for example.

Now I'm spiralling a little bit. I'd accepted that my LO's sleep was not wrong. But it sounds like it's really unusual? I really don't know what to do and I'm worried I'm doing it all wrong now. And it is all on me as am getting her to sleep at home for most naps and all nights. Should I be trying harder to get her to cot sleep?

Not sure if this is the right sub. Has anybody had a schwannoma on their mandibular nerve? I have one and don't have many symptoms at the moment (essentially just hearing loss as it's squashing hearing apparatus because it's quite large). I'm due to have an op but I'm really worried I'll end up worse off with symptoms. I think the nerve will end up majorly damaged or non functional. I've been told I'll likely have loss of sensation in the lower face, issues with chewing and jaw pain but I don't know what that looks like - will I be able to chew at all, will my face look different, will there be dental problems as a result. I'm just really anxious about it all. It just feels like my life might change forever all of a sudden with the op and I don't know how drastic it will be. I'm struggling as I've not come across anyone who has similar to me (there's lots out there on ANs for example) so I have no idea what to expect.