u/Urbitchassmum

I manage a very busy restaurant.

I am the only manager.

I manage the kitchen, the front of house, I do inventory, scheduling, ordering for front of house and back of house, catering orders, and private events

I have been in this position for 6 years. I am finally leaving with a 4 month notice. Crazy right?

I am just now waking up to how embarrassing some of my job is while I train the new manager.

I feel bad he was mislead to think there was more support from a key hourly or a misguided “lead server”

The team is overworked and no one wants to help close.

My shifts are typically a 13-14 hour day. I work 5 days a week. I get to leave early one night which my boss said is a luxury and privilege.
I honestly had a panic attack on Saturday realizing how toxic my work environment has been.

My boss also employees his wife who refuses to work Sundays and works about 20 hours a week. She’s supposed to help manage but doesn’t.

How can I have a constructive conversation with me boss? He seems to live and be totally unaware of the ongoing issues

I have been a general manager for 8.5 years. general manager of a high end cocktail bar for 5. I let my boss know this would be my last year in February.

I am giving a three month notice - I work in the hospitality industry- I’m leaving a high end cocktail bar to work at an established high end fine dining seafood restaurant.

I just want advice on how to convey this to my staff and uphold the culture

We are locally owned and operated and I worked my ass off the last five years to create a very healthy work environment

I don’t want my current staff to want to leave just because I am in my late 30s - want to start a family - and don’t want to work til 3am anymore.

It’s heartbreaking for me because most of my staff has been with me for minimum 8 months to even four years.

I want our bar to continue to succeed and have strong healthy leadership.

At the end of the day I have to do what’s right for my future and I didn’t apply for this job- I was recruited in person- no indeed.

It also means I can eventually move states which is something I crave because I have lived in Arizona my whole life but have visited all over

The new company has the same ideals I do and it will be nice to follow their procedures and not have to build all the training from the ground up like I have done.

It’s bittersweet and I plan to help make the transition as seamless as possible.

I just hope my team doesn’t feel the need to jump ship just because I leave. I’m hoping to find a good replacement and fill them in on all the details

Curious if anyone else has any yearly traditions for Kilby?

This is my third year and my fiancée and I have three or four things we do every single year that we enjoy that center around the festival.