Hi,
ich bin derzeit noch angestellt, habe mir aber ein klein wenig angespart und würde jetzt gerne selbstständig werden. Gibt es hier Leute mit denen ich mich connecten kann :)? Dann ist man unter Leuten die einen verstehen (Autismus+Unternehmersein)
I already felt bad today, like I had no energy but still I decided to go out again. It was rather overwhelming and I went home early. I think in some kind of autistic burnout (small version). I am really frustrated with myself and feel like I am not able to achieving anything.
Summary: Big Win for me, but I see much potential
First location: A local pub, I just ordered a beer, wasn't feeling too comfortable. Went to some distant table where I sat alone and just drank my beer within 30mins.
Second location: a club with a bunch of young people (18-20, I'm Mid 20), I tried talking to two groups of girls which didn't go too well. I was probably too formal, with no smiling etc, so I felt that the girls didn't feel comfortable with me especially since I tried talking to one girl again but she ignored. Then I just sat or stood around and looked around the club. I was probably looking weird because I got some weird looks I think. Also two guys tried to make me dance but I said its not for me and one guy even said "what are you doing here" because I just sat around.
After some time I left but still I wasn't too pissed about myself since I thought that making some interactions with people was a great achievement!
Third location: there was not much to do there, just some bar, I thought there would be more going on
Fourth location: Some small club with mostly people between 18-30. It was very similar to the second location but I tried to dance at some point which was rather cool. I didn't manage to feel completely "free" in my dancing but still it was a good feeling. Also I made many Interactions. I approached some guys, they all were cool and also many girls. With the girls it was a bit more mixed, many were not interested unfortunately and ignored me pretty soon. With one girl I had a better interaction but still I could not really flirt with her. I think mostly I lacked the body language... I'm pretty overwhelmed now from all the impressions and noise but still I am happy about what I achieved. I feel a bit lost because of my difficulties with flirting but I think I will be able to get better in the future.
It would be cool to get more relaxed and to get better with interacting with girls.
Thanks for reading
Should I post a third post on my third try for night life or I annoyed the shit out of you already xD?
Hey, I wrote some days ago about my first try. In short: I was trying to go to a club but didn't manage, so i stood outside and then went home.
This time I tried going in a club. It actually worked! I didn't know what to do and just walked "through" the crowd, which was rather difficult. Then I got a drink, tried to find a calm corner and sat there. It was actually not so bad. I just wished I could have engaged more with people. One guy came to me and we had some very short smalltalk. I tried to look at people (get eye contact) and thought about talking to people but didn't manage. Then I went outside of the club, sat some time there and went home. I also talked to some guy on the street because I needed some exchange money. Such behavior (talking to strangers) is rather untypical to me but I liked it. Sooo i think overall this was a big win for me. But what are the next steps if I want to interact better with people? I don't really drink alcohol and dance so I don't know xD. As I said I thought it was quite cool there but don't know how to use this place.
Thanks in advance again for any advice
Hey guys!
To avoid confusion I am European so it's around 4 am right now. I just came home from my first try going into night life and wanted to share my impressions and maybe get some advice.
Soo the main reason going into night life is to get better with women and maybe even get some romantic experiences. I know there will be some who don't like this goals or would recommend to do this in a relationship but whatever. So me as a autistic person who struggles with social contact and noise went out. I started walking through some night life streets here in my city and got some eye contacts to women but I can't say if it was just neutral or if it was flirting 😭. I wanted to say Hi once but I didn't do it unfortunately. Well whatever then I went to the street where the club is I wanted to go. I stood outside of the club and looked around, looked at my phone, looked around and so on. The scenery (there were many people outside the club) didn't seem "unpleasant" to me, but I did not know what to do next. I felt people were looking at me, but they didn't look too ... Creeped out ... Luckily. Probably they were just thinking what I was doing here 😂. I was too anxious going inside the club so i stood there for a short time and then went home.
Well many will say this story is boring but maybe some people have some advice for me or give me instructions how to "use" a club? Like what to do there and how to interact with people and especially women? My plan is next time to get inside and get a drink and then leave again but yeah that is still not where I want to go. I am happy with my achievement of today but maybe someone can give me some insights or ideas what to do next.
Hab aufgrund meines Autismus bzw psychischer Krankheiten Schwierigkeiten mit so täglichen Aufgaben neben meinem Job. Würdet ihr sagen ich bin ein Messie? Beispiel:
-ich putze nie den Boden außer es fällt was grobes runter. Das heißt überall ist Staub zb
-Überall stehen Gläser und Geschirr außer das Geschirr ist dreckig dann räume ich es weg. Oder nach einer Zeit räume ich auch einiges wieder weg
-Ich lege meine Wäsche nicht zusammen sondern haue sie ungeordnet in den Kleiderschrank
-ich hab mehrere große Wäschehaufen die ich nur ganz selten wieder ein bisschen reduziere
Was gegen Messie spricht: der Zustand hat sich eingependelt und wird eigentlich nicht wirklich schlimmer. Und wenn Mal was gröberes is dann regel ich es.
Suche nicht unbedingt Tipps sondern nur reality check
Ich schaff es nicht mal ordentlich zu lächeln und man kann ja nicht einfach so Fremde anquatschen oder? Habt ihr Tipps?
M27 falls relevant
Hi,
ich suche eine Wohnung in der Nähe meines Arbeitsplatzes für 1 Person. Bin Nichtraucher, besitze keine Haustiere und kann ein Vollzeit-Gehalt nachweisen
Preis: bis 750€
Bezirk: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 10, 11
Sonstiges: Kein WC am Gang, keine offensichtlichen Lärmquellen (Fenster zu Hauptstrasse im Erdgeschoss, Fenster direkt an befahrener Bahnstrecke oder Ähnliches)
Einzugstermin: Ideal wäre 1.6. danach aber auch möglich.
Vielen Dank für jede Unterstützung, ihr könnt mir gerne auch privat anschreiben
Bin regelmäßig Gast bei Billa und Spar und treffe hier oft auf zwei sehr unterschiedliche Kassierer-Typen:
Besteht darauf dass ich die Pickerl drauf picke, nicht nur lege und malt dann mit Edding fett drüber
Ist es komplett wurscht, gibt mir vielleicht sogar extra 25% Pickerl mit
wie kommt's?
Hat jemand Lust einander kennenzulernen? M26, berufstätig