u/Usual_Enthusiasm_396

Men and women both have preferences.

For instance, If a woman wants to marry a guy who is rich, tall with a six pack, it's totally fine.

In the same way, if a man in his 30s wants to marry a woman who is in her early 20s, that's also totally fine.

Let's not criticise and shame one another. At the end of the day, it's none of your business

People have their own preferences, reasons, struggles etc... Sometimes, Allah swt puts us in difficult tests and we need to have tawakkul, and try our best.

May Allah swt make it easy for us all

The reason you are behind in life is because you are lazy, stop blaming Allah swt for your lack of success.

I often hear people say: "Oh It's Allah's test. that's why I didnt achieve so and so..."

"I cant find a spouse just because Allah swt is testing me"

"I cant find a job, it's Allah's test"

NO! More often than not, it's because you are lazy, you have sins blocking your rizq and your prayers are lacking.

Did you actually try your best? Did you take action? Do you pray on time? Have you asked for forgiveness? Did you even bother praying Salat-ul Layl even once? for your duas to be accepted?

Quran 13:11 - For each one there are successive angels before and behind, protecting them by Allah’s command. Indeed, Allah would never change a people’s state ˹of favour˺ until they change their own state ˹of faith˺. And if it is Allah’s Will to torment a people, it can never be averted, nor can they find a protector other than Him.

Edit: Idk why people are so triggered. if this doesnt apply to you and you are trying your best, why do you care?
And I wrote 'more often than not', I didn't say "all people are lazy"? Reading is not that hard

Any divorced brothers here? Need some advice