u/Valmyra

I am very sad I found this sub today and not months before.

In December, my cat started to lose weight. We tracked, and we did blood tests, ultrasound, and urine tests. On ultrasound, I saw her kidneys and the vet told me that would be normal if she would be 15+ years old.

She is a former street cat from another country where my husband worked. When I visited him, she was one of the cats I castrated from those street cats there. Four years later, we took her home, as my husband stopped working there, and she and another cat were not seeming to survive there but fit for a transport by airplane and no danger for my cats as not with any disease.

Fast forward, she lives 3.5 years with me , my husband, and 4 other cats (2 from the same country as she comes).

When she lost weight, the vets seemed not very impressed. One of my cats from here has a chronical disease and almost died twice. My vets reacted totally differently with him.

So I got pronefra and tried renal food with her, but her weight declined. We did another blood test, and the numbers were not super, but ok, no explanation why she is just 2.3kg (from about 3.8kg). She ate, she drank. We sent a urine sample and/or blood sample to the US as in Texas there is the only lab doing this measuring of proteine, and the results were bad.

The vets told me to give her food she likes no matter what, she needs to gain weight. And pronefra. I have another medication but was told to only give her, if she eats much. She gained and lost a few grams and was around 2.3 to 2.6 kg.

She stopped eating 10 days before today. We gave her mirtazapine, pronefra twice a day, and a lots of cheese. On Monday, we took her in, subcutaneous infusion, cerenia, and started twice a day sucralose, bupaq(morphine), and once a day this Med with on at the beginning, she started peeing on cushions and losing control of walking. But she ate Monday evening, Tuesday cheese, and a little creamy treatment.

Thursday, she got an infusion at the vet, and also cerenia. She had Monday and Thursday about 1.85 kg. Saturday we gave last bupaq and no cerenia, but the infusion at the vet. She had 1.75kg after peeing in the box. Her blood results on Monday were bad, my vets are shocked what happened in this few weeks.

I go outside with her for hours, she enjoys it very much and she has more control back on walking without bupaq. She's a bit weak as she didn't really eat since Wednesday.

She drinks a lot, we will start infusion at home today as she Is stressed from the car.

She started to vomit. As I changed litter box with a tissue she goes back on the litter box. She comes to me, she takes very little amount of soup or cream from herself. When we are outside, about 4 to 5 hrs a day, she lies in the sun, wanders around, drinks, ...

Without the vomiting and without being so incredibly thin you would not really see she is sick. But sure, she doesn't play anymore, is a bit more quiet, but far from apathetic.

I was sure my vet will tell me yesterday to put her to sleep but didn't. My husband thinks, we need to put her to sleep tomorrow. I also think this and then she jumps on my bed or eats a little tiny bit and purrs... and I'm not sure anymore.

So what would you do today and tomorrow?

I thought:

- giving her subcutaneous NaCl daily

- giving her soup by the syringe ?

- stay outside with her twice a day

- help her clean herself a bit as she does it bit it seems to be a bit exhausting

I was not ready to put her to sleep yesterday and the vet saw still life quality.

I am afraid of doing it but I will decide if I need to. But she is only about 7 or 8 years old. Every day I thought she won't survive this night and early in the morning she jumps on my face with headbumps and wakes me up. Last Saturday I screamed at her because she jumped on my laptop, everything seemed so not urgent.

She declined in a week.

I know she needs to eat and start immediately or she has no chance and no quality of life. I know this since last weekend. What would you do, force feed to see if she gets a little better? What would be your sign to bring her to the vet the last time? What shall I do or not do on her last days/hours if no miracle is happening (I know i had twice a miracle with my other cat, I am not having a third)...?

I'm stressed. I'm self paying second round ICSI, 41f.

first round with 39 we had 11 eggs, 8 fertilized, 7 stopped, 1 FET that failed.

This time, I had 10 eggs, 8 mature, 8 fertilized, and tomorrow FET. Last Info was a message on Friday that 8 of 8 were fertilized, and they expect 50% blastocyst. I will hear the latest on Wednesday how many survived and see you for transfer on Tuesday.

So I thought they mixed up Wednesday and Monday, and I will hear from them 24 hrs before the appointment. As usual.

I didn't hear from them, so I called, and I WAS 5 MINS TO LATE. They just closed landlines. OK, so as usual, working hours were still an hour. I sent an email questioning if FET will happen.

I didn't get an answer. I couldn't choose the time for FET, and it's the most difficult time all week for me. So I need to leave work hours too early and tell my boss anything and as the distances are not little, I can't go back to work after easy.

So in my mind I have this horror movie, that I need to just leave work, risk my job, to go to this FET and they tell me, o sorry, all stopped yesterday, we just forget to inform you.

Every appointment was remembered with a message 24h before, also in the first cycle, but the FET. I'm not sure if I heard from the problem that only one developed when I was there or before, I just don't see a message.

And yes, I can call them early in the morning tomorrow, but honestly, I pay around 10k out of pocket, and they don't manage to inform me the day before?

I'm very pissed off, but I hope they tell me tomorrow that more than one developed, but now I'm just pissed. All those hormones, ER, waiting, bah. And after tomorrow, it's waiting again, also in the best case.