u/Valuable-Step5579

Me and my fiancé are having a baby in December, im 21 weeks today, we had a blood test gender reveal and it said it was a boy. Tomorrow we have our second ultrasound and we’re gonna confirm if it’s a boy or not. My fiancé when we first found out we were pregnant told me him and his best friend that passed away maybe 4 or 5 years ago and his other friend that’s still alive all had a pack that if one of them died the other two would name their first son after them. That friend that passed was named Ethan, I have an older brother named Ethan. He told me he’s not willing to budge on it even tho I feel it’s weird, I don’t want to call my son and instinctively think of my brother or just feel weird calling our son that in general. His “compromise” was I can pick the middle name and call him that but I think that’ll be too confusing for the baby being called two different names and I honestly feel like he’s just saying f*ck my feelings because the kid is most likely gonna go by his first name so in the real world and for anything he needs his name for, it’s gonna be Ethan.
I don’t have a bad relationship with my brother I just really don’t wanna name my baby exactly after him, it’s just weird to me and at first I said ok I understand that but after thinking on it for a while I came and I tried asking for a compromise on maybe making Ethan the middle name but that conversation went bad he got quiet and said it’s about honor and about keeping promises. I tried my best to be mindful of his best friend because it’s something that still hurts him but I mentioned that it’s not really like he’ll be mad because yk he’s not here. Obviously I said it nicer but I also tried saying I don’t think it was fair of you guys to make a decision like that without including the woman who’d actually be having the child, him and his friends aren’t having the baby together yk? But pretty much I ate it and gave in because he tried saying fine wtv and “now I know to just keep my best friend away from you” like talking about it with me and I called him out saying that’s manipulative as f*ck and not what I was trying to say at all but overall I gave in but I’m still just not happy, all I can do is hope for a girl atp.
I don’t want comments saying to leave him and blah blah, this is the one area he’s not willing to compromise on and he’s not toxic, he was really close to his friend and hasn’t had anyone like it after so I think it’s just a sensitive topic, I just wanna know how I should go about this because I REALLLYY don’t wanna name him directly after my brother but I don’t wanna cause life long issues with my fiancé feeling he betrayed his friend.
(And maybe some good names with Ethan as the middle so I can give him options)
Thank you for reading.

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What do I do if I don’t like the name my fiancé choose for our baby