u/Valuable_Paint_2568

(24M) and my girlfriend (24F) have been together for the last 8 years About two months ago her mum passed away. Before that she'd already lost her grandma a few years ago. Those two basically raised her. She was an only child and got parents divorced when she was like 2 and then she moved to the uk from Australia w her mum and started living w her grandparents here and they were literally her whole world. Ever since her mum died, it's like she's just... gone. Every time I go see her, she hugs me and just cries. Sometimes she won't even say anything. We can sit there for an hour in complete silence while shes crying in my arms. She barely eats. She's stopped going to university. The family business that she used to run with her mum has pretty much stopped as well. She still gets out of bed and showers, but that's about it. What scares me the most is that she's said things like, "My whole world is gone," and, "I don't think I have a reason to live anymore."

I honestly can't remember her exact words, but it was smth along those lines.

I love this girl more than anything but I feel completely helpless. I keep wondering if I'm doing enough or if I'm somehow making things worse. One of my cousins even told me to break up with her and give her space, but I honestly can't imagine leaving her when she's already lost so much.

She has relatives staying with her right now, but I'm terrified they'll eventually go back to their own lives and she'll be left alone. She depended on her mum for so many everyday things. She doesn't even really know how to cook because her mum always took care of stuff like that. Now she's expected to figure out life on her own overnight.

Another thing thats been bothering me is my own family. My girlfriend's mum knew me well and genuinely wanted me to be her son-in-law one day. She even spoke to my parents about us once. My mum rejected the idea because she judged my girlfriend's mum for being a single parent and assumed things about her that weren't true.

When I told my mum and grandma that my girlfriend's mum had passed away, they barely reacted. They didn't seem to care at all, I hate em so much their ego is too high and hearing that while watching my gf suffer honestly hurt me.

I felt like I was dealing with this alone

I've never dealt with grief like this before, so I don't know what I'm supposed to do. Do I keep visiting her? Do I just sit with her even if she doesn't talk? Should I encourage therapy now, or is it too soon? Has anyone here been through something similar?

I know I can't fix what happened, and I'm not trying to. I just don't want to fail her when she needs someone the most.

(24M) and my girlfriend (24F) have been together for the last 8 years About two months ago her mum passed away. Before that she'd already lost her grandma a few years ago. Those two basically raised her. She was an only child and got parents divorced when she was like 2 and then she moved to the uk from Australia w her mum and started living w her grandparents here and they were literally her whole world. Ever since her mum died, it's like she's just... gone. Every time I go see her, she hugs me and just cries. Sometimes she won't even say anything. We can sit there for an hour in complete silence while shes crying in my arms. She barely eats. She's stopped going to university. The family business that she used to run with her mum has pretty much stopped as well. She still gets out of bed and showers, but that's about it. What scares me the most is that she's said things like, "My whole world is gone," and, "I don't think I have a reason to live anymore."

I honestly can't remember her exact words, but it was smth along those lines.

I love this girl more than anything but I feel completely helpless. I keep wondering if I'm doing enough or if I'm somehow making things worse. One of my cousins even told me to break up with her and give her space, but I honestly can't imagine leaving her when she's already lost so much.

She has relatives staying with her right now, but I'm terrified they'll eventually go back to their own lives and she'll be left alone. She depended on her mum for so many everyday things. She doesn't even really know how to cook because her mum always took care of stuff like that. Now she's expected to figure out life on her own overnight.

Another thing thats been bothering me is my own family. My girlfriend's mum knew me well and genuinely wanted me to be her son-in-law one day. She even spoke to my parents about us once. My mum rejected the idea because she judged my girlfriend's mum for being a single parent and assumed things about her that weren't true.

When I told my mum and grandma that my girlfriend's mum had passed away, they barely reacted. They didn't seem to care at all, I hate em so much their ego is too high and hearing that while watching my gf suffer honestly hurt me.

I felt like I was dealing with this alone

I've never dealt with grief like this before, so I don't know what I'm supposed to do. Do I keep visiting her? Do I just sit with her even if she doesn't talk? Should I encourage therapy now, or is it too soon? Has anyone here been through something similar?

I know I can't fix what happened, and I'm not trying to. I just don't want to fail her when she needs someone the most.