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I was looking at the back of my pretty penny tour shirt, and some of the letters are in grey. I put them together and it spells thisisnotaprettypenny.com, can someone smarter than me help me figure out what this means? I cant take a picture of my shirt because I'm on my laptop, but if anyone else also got the shirt, please take a picture and post it here. Apologies if this is already common knowlege, I live under a rock.

I’m styling a synthetic wig soon, but I’d like to know what kind of wig head/stand I should get. Canvas? Styrofoam? The stands that mount to your table? The stands that stand on their own? It’s very confusing to me. I’d also like to know how to minimize crimp marks and how to best curl a wig. I will happily take any other tips, I will make sure to keep all advice in mind. I REALLY don’t wanna mess this up.

Me, 16 and still in my mom’s care, and my older sister, 22 who lives across the country, were talking about my mom yesterday. I realized a lot of things about her. One big thing I realized was that she makes herself out to be a victim every time there is a conflict. I mentioned her obsession with labeling herself as a survivor in every scenario.

For context, her late husband, my stepdad, I hate using that term because he was everything but a father to me, was very abusive to all of us, but especially to me and my sister. My sister mentioned how my mom twists every story. We got to talking, and I realized that she also abused us in a way. She would always side with him and lie to him about things that she said or did to throw us under the bus.

A good example is when I was 10 or 11, I do not remember exactly. My grandma got me a smartwatch for kids so I could call and text her. My stepdad did not know, but my mom told me to keep it a secret from him. I got home from school and left my backpack upstairs like I was expected to, but I forgot my watch in the side pocket. The watch had a feature that allowed your guardian to pick up the phone for you if you were not answering, and my grandma did that to ask if I made it home. My stepdad heard it before me.

I do not remember what happened exactly, but he freaked out. He made me sit at the table until my mom got home. They both took me outside to discuss it. Their discussions always consisted of him debasing every aspect of my being, and her sitting by his side. I immediately told him that she knew. She denied it to protect herself from nothing at all. She was scared of his disapproval, and I was scared of being grounded for half a year. His punishments for me consisted of sitting me at a table 24 hours a day for months. Sometimes I had to write the alphabet, upper and lowercase, or count to 500 on paper over and over. I would fill entire notebooks before he would unground me. I was so scared, and she chose herself.

That happened with my sister as well, except he made sexual advances toward her and my mom would say it was a joke or that he did not mean it. I do not think she deserves to title our family as victims when she contributed to the abuse.

The other day, we were talking about my depression, and she said that she understands because she considered suicide once because of him. I wanted to tell her so badly that I felt the same way at ten years old because of her ignorance.

Would it be valid for me to shut that down? She was abused as well, but she put all of us in that situation too. How do I respectfully tell her to stop? Has anyone been through something similar? I am stuck.