Has anyone broken up with their partner because you can’t/wont have kids?
I’ve always wanted to be a mom. I love kids and have always found myself babysitting or volunteering with them and I have always been naturally so good with kids. My diagnosis is not researched enough but some research has found that it can be hereditary. I could not live with myself if I passed my illness down to my child so I have decided I won’t have any biological children. As of now I don’t even know if I could adopt but that is something I would consider down the line if I were to get better. This brings me to my big question. I have been with my bf for 3 years now. We are both 23 and have talked a little bit about marriage and kids here and there but I haven’t opened up to him about not wanting to have biological children since is a newer thing I realized I will not be able to do. Even if he did want to stay with me after telling him, I don’t know if that would be fair of me to stay with him. I feel like I would be robbing him of one of the most beautiful parts of life and I love him so much I don’t think I could do that to him. I see him with kids or just interact with kids and general and just wanna sob at the fact that I may not get my own to love and take care of one day (biological or not). So anyways, what would you guys do? Have you found partners that don’t want kinds at all? Have you both chosen not to have kids and been happy with the decision? Does anyone’s partner resent them for not being able to have kids? I don’t know I’ve talked about this in therapy a million times but it doesn’t seem to help sooo maybe advice or real life experience can help on here.