This is definitely mild, but quite annoying.

I have a scheduled c-section because my baby is breech. I’m literally 3 days away from giving birth. My MIL has asked on at least 5+ occasions if I would reconsider scheduling the c-section so that it will land on my SIL’s (her daughter) birthday. I intentionally requested to my doctor that my surgery NOT be scheduled on SIL’s birthday because I don’t feel like my son should have to share a birthday with such a close family member. SIL hasn’t said a word on the topic, and I’m pretty sure she doesn’t care at all. Today is her birthday and my MIL has texted twice in the last 24 hours asking me to reconsider and just go check into the hospital now. I have explained several times that I don’t want them to share a birthday, and most importantly- I don’t want to switch to an unscheduled c-section as more risks can arise. Additionally, the MIL and SIL aren’t even in the area, because they prioritized celebrating SIL’s birthday across the country… I think she thinks she’s being cute or funny, but I’m so irritated. My husband has always been so supportive and defended me when necessary, but in this case he keeps assuring me that she’s “just kidding”. It’s so hard to tell when she mostly texts about it. What a dumb thing to kid about… especially this many times. Just needed to vent about how annoying and stupid this is.

TLDR: I know a lot about being in the military, but not much about being a spouse. Looking to connect with experienced spouses who have been doing this for a while to assist me in this transition from sponsor to spouse.

MEDICAL

I’m (35f) a medically separated Navy Chief. I just got married to my husband who is an active duty Navy Chief. We did things a little backwards lol: got pregnant, then got married. I’m due in 3 weeks. Since I am medically separated (vice retired), I didn’t get Tricare automatically from my separation. So I just dealt with VA healthcare and my employer’s healthcare (Sentara) for the past 3 years, and it has been nothing but a headache. So when we got married, I decided to get Tricare Select because my friends said they had a better experience getting appointments through Select. I didn’t mind paying a little more if it meant better availability. Especially because I have a lot of medical needs that the VA is failing to see me for (6+ month wait for appointments). Switching from my employer’s insurance to Tricare Select is already going to save me a ton in medical bills, so I don’t mind paying for the occasional fees. Is there anything I should know about hidden fees with Tricare Select? Do you have any good advice about using Select? Should I put my baby on Select? (I’m not even sure how that works for the baby’s coverage)

EMPLOYMENT

I’m currently a NAF employee for the Navy, but I hate it. I want to be fully remote for several reasons (including medical). I currently have a reasonable accommodation for telework, but it won’t last forever. I’m interested in finding a job with a Fortune 500 (corporate) company. I have plenty of experience and a good resume. Do you have any recommendations for websites that specialize in finding military spouses non-federal work?

CONNECTING WITH SPOUSES

I’m very familiar with using Reddit, Discord, and Instagram. I don’t have a Facebook anymore because I was hacked and just formally decided to never go back. Are there any recommendations of spouse groups that are not on FB? Or am I going to be forced to make a FB again?