u/Vegetable_Weird413

i was arguing with someone in a comment section and looked through her reposts, she’s about to be a nurse apparently and what do you know, she hates trans people and immigrants. like every single repost is about hating them and sure, freedom of speech and opinion i get it, but why do these types of people specifically go into the field of helping all types of people? she already has hate and prejudice against these groups of people, i can just hope she never treats them unfairly :/ it just sucks to see

I’m sorry but I fucking HATE this narrative that if the exam doesn’t hurt, then it doesn’t count as violation/abuse. If random people and doctors are pushing you to get one even if you don’t feel comfortable then that is coercion *which is an abusive tactic.* If a doctor won’t treat you or with holds meds until you do one, it’s abusive. Others shitting on you and telling you it’s no big deal and minimizing how you feel is abusive. It’s no different than a woman saying yes to her boyfriend who’s been pestering her for sex even though she doesn’t want to. It’s coercion. Most of my exams didn’t hurt, but they were violating because I felt like I had to and didn’t have a choice because that’s exactly how they present it to you. Sexual assaults aren’t all painful and aren’t all done by someone you don’t know. I’m just tired of this fucking narrative being pushed so hard to make us feel more comfortable about giving up your autonomy.

edit: guys I know they aren't literally rape. they feel like it to ME. lets chill with language policing on​ a vent post thanks​

The last and only time i had a pap smear was when I was 9 years old due to a sexual assault case. It hurt, it felt so violating, and my sexual assault wasnt penetrative so it was my first experience with penetration. I bled everywhere and they made me watch on a camera what they were doing

Then when I was 17 there was another case​​​​​​​​, and they tried to give me a pap smear but I had a full blown panic attack in the waiting room about it and ran away from the nurse when she came to get me that they cancelled it

I'm 29 now and havent had one since I was 9. People say one ​​should​​ get one​​​​​​ but I can't. Pap smears are like rape to me and I don't want it.​​

I can't do it. I would rather die from whatever disease I might develop than be raped. ​​​