u/VivianAeterna125

TW: A slur and some misgendering by an abusive parent

Basically, my father finally decided to get a smartphone, and he wants a printed copy of all his contacts. I had done this twice, but basically, we stopped talking after I came out in January last year. He basically sent me three messages, one insulting me more than the other, and threatened to kill me (my little brother has recordings).

Without me around, my little brother was tasked to produce this contact list. But he couldn't do it. After 3 days of trying on his own, my brother called me for help. Now, I don't wanna help this asshole, but I also didn't want my brother to get screamed at for not being able to print the damn contacts list.

For 2 hours, I tried everything. But as it turns out, using the Nokia Ovi Suite in 2026 is kinda challenging on modern hardware, and the USB passthrough in a VM wouldn't work either.

As I was venting about how I feel bad for helping my father, he basically confessed to me that my father had actually told him to "give that faggot a call, what do we have him for?" At that point my blood was boiling. So the mf misgenders me and throws slurs at me, yet also wants my help? At that point I said that he can fuck off, my brother apologized for even calling me (which he didn't need to do), and the call was over.

This man has thrown nothing but slurs at me for a year and a half, even when he needs my help. And, while I was the one with the orchiectomy, he had no balls to reach out to me and forced my brother to do so. Smh

Basically what the title says. Apparently, trying to set up e-banking in Germany is a mess. I got my user number when I set up my account, but everything else took ages. The card took ages, the card PIN was in a separate physical letter (because it's Germany, everything is letters). Then I try to activate e-banking, I need a separate PIN. I order that, and as I move forward, I am told I need yet another activation letter, which I haven't yet gotten.

And I exploded. And since the bank is very close to where I live, I basically went there to try and get some help (basically, get the activation letter printed there, so that I could do my e-banking activation). The reason why I'm so insistent is that I need to book a flight to Greece for an upcoming court date.

The employees, in all fairness, tried to help me, and it turns out the activation letter was sent out the following day after the PIN. But at the suggestion that there was nothing I could do except wait, I had a complete meltdown, screaming at how disgusting and unacceptable their service has been, and how, 2 months following my account creation, I still had no e-banking (sth I didn't experience either in Greece or in the US where I studied). In short, I was an asshole.

And now I feel horrible. I know they tried to help me. I know it's not the employees' fault. And yet I screamed at them, and gave the others in line a reason to laugh at me. And it didn't help that I fell silent at some point and the bank tellers insisted on speaking to me, that they couldn't help me and there's nothing to do and so on.

There are no excuses for my behavior, and I should have controlled myself better. But for god's sake, sometimes I just need to let everything out and get some support.

So, I had previously made a post here about being liked by a self-proclaimed hypnotist twice. I have never mentioned anywhere in my profile anything about kinks. In all fairness, I'm pretty open to kink, but damn, let's talk about that after we've established a connection! And if I wanted a kinky relationship first and foremost, I'd look elsewhere. The guy was just full-on, so, I'm in a poly relationship, and I'd like you to join us as a submissive partner, full-on in his profile. I was like, ok gross, blocked and reported him.

And today I get liked by the same fucking guy! Same name and profile pictures, but changed textual responses to make it like 5% less obvious. Wtf, how many alts will he make? Or how many times will I have to reject and report him before Hinge does sth?

Hallo, ich heiße Vivian, komme aus Griechenland, und bin in Offenbach neu umgezogen (seit rund 1 Monat). Ich studierte Informatik und öffentliche Verwaltung, aber jetzt muss ich mich mit der derzeitigen Jobmarkt beschäftigen lol.

Ich mache vorzuglich strukturierte Veranstaltungen, vielleicht ein Lesekreis, Brett- oder Video-Spiele, Musik hören, die nicht super-bekannt ist (persönlich liebe ich kayokyoku, eurobeat, breakcore, darkwave, alles mit synth- im Namen lol), oder was tolles essen. Ich liebe auch Sprachen, und ich muss noch mein Deutsch üben, also, leute, die Sprachen austauschen wollen, sind herzlich willkommen! (Ich kann am besten Griechisch und Englisch)

Ich bin eine trans Frau mit Autismus und ADHS, also finde ich das sehr schwer, Freunde "normalerweise" zu finden. Ich würde das lieben, falls Leute mit den gleichen Konditionen mit mir sprechen wollen! Aber in allen Fällen hoffe ich, dass ich Leute, die eine echte und tiefe Freudnschaft machen wollen, keine Small-Talk und in Bars zu gehen.

Ich war früher heute hier in Deutschland angemeldet. Warum können sie nicht die amerikanische Namensveränderung akzeptieren, und nur was, dass die scheiße griechische Staat mir gibt? Warum muss ich zur Standesamt gehen, und dann ist es nicht sicher, ob sie meine Veränderung akzeptieren werden? Ohne Apostille gibt es eben die Möglichkeit, dass sie dieses Dokument wahrnehmen? Und dann warum haben sie nix über das SBGG gesagt?

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Ich will nur richtige Dokumente in Deutschland haben, is it too much to ask for? Falls ich mein Reisepass in der Zukunft korrigiere, bin ich nicht dumm, das macht man in eigenem Land. Aber warum kann ich die Anmeldung hier als mich selbst machen? Ich bin auf HRT für 20 Monaten Alter!

For context, https://www.reddit.com/r/StraightTransGirls/s/p5vRq9Wrpy

My bf and I had another talk about this once he got home. I explained how conflicted I felt about this situation, and pretty much what I had already mentioned in that post. And we both came to a mutual conclusion that, given our circumstances, it would be for the best to enjoy the last few days and then call the relationship over when I leave, rather than try and force a hard LDR. And he also wants to keep in touch after my departure (as friends, ofc).

He's so sweet, I'll miss him so much... But I think we made the right choice. Lowkey weird though to be in a relationship that you know is ending in less than 2 weeks...

Also, ich bin jetzt total nervös. Ich fliege nach Frankfurt in 13 Tagen. Ich bin Griechin, studierte in den USA, und werde nach Deutschland umziehen. Meine Cousine würde mich aufnehmen, aber heute habe ich gelernt, dass es nur nicht möglich ist.

Also, wie zur Hölle kann ich nach einer WG suchen? Und kann ich auch fragen, ob ihr einige Tipps habt, die eine bald umiehende, trans, neurodivergente Frau helfen können? Vielen Dank!

Hallo Leute, ich habe eine kleine Frage. Ich komme aus Griechenland, studiere heute in den USA, und ich werde in zwei Wochen nach Deutschland umziehen. Mein Name ist in der Staat Illinois verändert, und ich habe eine ID, die mich als Frau wahrnimmt, aber diese Akte ist nicht in Griechenland erkannt (weil ich offiziell nur den Namen verändert habe, nicht das legale Geschlecht). Wissen sie, ob es möglich ist, diese Akte in Deutschland benutzen, um als Vivian und nicht als deadname anzumelden? Vielen Dank!

Ever since I remember myself I can remember people having expectations of me. That I should study more, work more, present myself this way, do this, don't do that, etc. And I am so burnt out I want to tell people to shove these expectations up you know where.

Idk, I was pretty much the school's smart kid (to the point where I, someone with a working-class background in Greece, ended up with a full-ride scholarship in a pretty decent US college, which I've now come to hate because of its own expectations). But since I have AuDHD, I will be in a position where people know enough to exploit me, but never enough to see me as a peer. I feel like I'm always too much for them, yet I'm also in a position where they always expect sth from me. And I want them to stfu, but I know I have to keep face and not burn bridges and all that bs. Does anyone else feel like this?