u/Wander_Boy10

Okay so i booked a vacation to visit my friend out of state this summer for the last week of august and it completely slipped my mind that school starts up august 19th and not in September (I’ve been used to school starting in September)

Anyways I really don’t want to cancel or re schedule this trip since I’ve already had to re schedule it once and there’s just not another time soon I can make it because I also work full time. So anyone who’s taken basic chemistry give me you’re honest advice will I make it if I skip the first week or am I cooked

I have to get this off my chest and I figured an anonymous Reddit board would be best to explain and vent. I used to love dogs. I love hanging out with friends dogs and family dogs. Then I started working with them. I used to work at a dog daycare and boarding facility and that’s where my resentment started and grew. It may absolutely be the atrocious corporate setting that had one person working with up to 35 dogs at once, but overall dogs have no respect, are extremely overstimulating, constantly shit themselves and have diarrhea everywhere and owners care more about their dogs than the actual lives of human beings and I’m fucking sick of that. Yeah, not all people are good people but NOT ALL DOGS ARE GOOD DOGS.

If nothing else, let this be a lesson to not meet your hero’s because what once was a dream turned into a nightmare and now dogs don’t make me happy they make me sick. And I feel like a disgusting person because of that and can’t tell anyone because everyone loves dogs.

I understand avoidants fear intimacy and closeness, but why do I see them (at least mine specifically) have no problem maintaining intimate friendships for many years and then immediately run from a romantic relationship even if it didn’t last very long at all. She even told me she wanted to go slow and I happily agreed that was no problem. We didn’t have near as much closeness as she does with friends. I’m assuming it’s a commitment thing associated with romantic relationships but in my head that doesn’t make sense. Yeah we’re dating but we’re not married. How is it that different from an intimate friendship especially in the first stages? What makes it so scary?

I appreciate any advice or insight, I genuinely want to understand

It’s been 13 months no contact for me from my avoidant ex. I absolutely know it is not healthy for me to reach out and I’m not planning to do so however I will admit it bothers me that SHE hasn’t reached out especially considering our last conversation was not “conclusive” so to speak.

It was about how I caught her on tinder talking to other guys and her claiming it was nothing serious. After that I just didn’t reply and we’ve never spoken or seen each other since.

I admit I expected her to say something by this point or try to come back like I see can be a common occurrence for them and it makes me feel like maybe I really didn’t matter at all. I’m just wondering if anyone else has experience where their avoidant ex kept up no contact on their side forever. I know I shouldn’t reach out whether it be myself or a response to her but still dang that hurts you know.

I guess part of it is my ego wanting her to want me back and me saying no 😅😅😅