u/Waste-Reindeer6922

My only little brother who was 28, committed suicide on Sunday, (which was Father’s Day). His two other roommates were the ones to come in his room to take my brother to work that morning when they noticed that he had a cord around his neck that was tied to the post of his bed and his lifeless body laid limp on the floor. They both are extremely traumatized and I feel so bad for them and my mom. My mom was so close to my little brother and he was against suicide but did struggle like me with severe depression and anxiety. We both had suicidal ideations before but we promised each other that we would never commit suicide. He was the one who told me he would hate me if I was to ever end my life because of the pain that my mom would have to endure.

He was such an intelligent, bright, young man, who just graduated from University of Houston with his bachelor’s degree in engineering. He had been struggling to find a job in his field but had only graduated from college back in May. He managed to find a job with both of his roommates at a local fish store which didn’t pay much but it was something. He did have two other interviews lined up for the end of the month and it was related to his career. I just had to go to the house where he committed suicide with my husband to get all of his belongings and stuff out. Mind you he ended his life in his bedroom and my husband and I are both still shaken from going in there and collecting everything. It still feels like a nightmare. Please any advice on what to do next or what I should expect from all of this? My mom is not doing good at all and I am afraid she might end up in the hospital from all of this. My aunt and I have been trying our best to stay with her but she is very broken. I don’t know what to do and it looks like I will be the one making the hard funeral arrangements for my little brother. When will the pain get better and how does someone cope with all of this? Thanks

My little brother committed suicide on June 21, 2026 (Fathers Day) and since then she has been to overwhelmed and grieving and so have I. I drove her to the funeral home and she made his arrangements and that’s about it. I went ahead and stepped up since my brothers funeral is tomorrow and she hadn’t been responding to the pastor’s call, she didn’t pick out his clothes or anything, she couldn’t go to his house and clean the room out because it was hard. I get it, but I am his only sister and I went ahead and set my grief to the side and started moving forward with everything. My husband and I had to clean out that same room where he passed away at, make his obituary, pick out his clothes for the funeral, ect. Then she decided on Monday she would start to make the funeral arrangements and I was fine with that. I was asked to come by and drop off his service clothes and when doing so, she started to make little unnecessary comments to be and being very rude. I tried my best to not speak my mind since she was going through a lot and I spoke out against her which then mad her yell and swear at me. She then went and texted my husband threatening to call the cops if I was to show up tomorrow for my little brother’s funeral. Since are argument, I went ahead and apologized but she hasn’t responded or reached out to me. What do I do? Do I go ahead and attend his funeral anyway? He will be cremated so I can’t go visit his grave or anything. (My mom and I have always had a horrible, toxic relationship and I have always tried my best to be there for her but she is a narcissist and doesn’t understand how much pain my brother was in before he committed it is only about her pain and family members are sympathetic to her without realizing that is my little brother and I am grieving too.

My only little brother who was 28, committed suicide on Sunday, (which was Father’s Day). His two other roommates were the ones to come in his room to take my brother to work that morning when they noticed that he had a cord around his neck that was tied to the post of his bed and his lifeless body laid limp on the floor. They both are extremely traumatized and I feel so bad for them and my mom. My mom was so close to my little brother and he was against suicide but did struggle like me with severe depression and anxiety. We both had suicidal ideations before but we promised each other that we would never commit suicide. He was the one who told me he would hate me if I was to ever end my life because of the pain that my mom would have to endure.

He was such an intelligent, bright, young man, who just graduated from University of Houston with his bachelor’s degree in engineering. He had been struggling to find a job in his field but had only graduated from college back in May. He managed to find a job with both of his roommates at a local fish store which didn’t pay much but it was something. He did have two other interviews lined up for the end of the month and it was related to his career. I just had to go to the house where he committed suicide with my husband to get all of his belongings and stuff out. Mind you he ended his life in his bedroom and my husband and I are both still shaken from going in there and collecting everything. It still feels like a nightmare. Please any advice on what to do next or what I should expect from all of this? My mom is not doing good at all and I am afraid she might end up in the hospital from all of this. My aunt and I have been trying our best to stay with her but she is very broken. I don’t know what to do and it looks like I will be the one making the hard funeral arrangements for my little brother. When will the pain get better and how does someone cope with all of this? Thanks