u/WaterSignBlues

Hello, I am a 28yr trans man (FTM) and my partner is a 24yr cis woman. We have not slept together yet but we’ve been communicating a lot about our desires and boundaries and curious points. One thing that was discussed was the dynamic of her giving me oral sex, because of the dynamic of our bodies and how typically with cis male partners she could do that because of the control aspect of it being taken away from her and being essentially used to get them off. Whereas with our dynamic, it wouldn’t obviously look the same. I am curious to know if anyone has navigated this before because we are both open to trying and exploring but she needs any and all control taken away and navigating that is a difficult concept for us both with my pre-surgery genitals. I have not felt comfortable up until meeting her with someone touching me and she typically hasn’t been open to exploring so i want to navigate this gently and appropriately.