u/WaterproofMike

My Band - singer, guitar(me), synth - wants to join another band - drummer, guitar, I think they also have a bass player.

I guess the best way to describe our style is melodic metal. I use a lot of melodies in my riffs and also make groovy rhythms. Our singer screams mostly, sometimes clean. We have a lot of acoustic parts in our songs as well. Synth does atmosphere at the moment, maybe some riffs later.

The other band describes their style as modern metal. And honestly what they do is very impressive. Their guitar player is definitely mechanically better than me, I have to admit that. But I personally just don't like their style. I don't think his way of playing goes together with my playing at all. I listened to their 2 songs for 4 days now but I still don't like it.

I have already communicated to everyone that I have mixed feelings about the merger but I won't hold my singer and synth player hostage, in case they want to join them. The other bands drummer is also offering to come our way somewhat. The first joined practice won't be until September. But still I don't see my opinion change until then.

So all in all I am sad about this because I only see three scenarios.
A: I block the merger, and then my two band members are upset at me for letting go of the perfect opportunity. I have another drummer lined up, that is mechanically worse but a very good musician in general.
B: I let my people leave and then I don't have a band anymore. I don't really see myself joining another band if this one breaks apart. So I would be loosing this entirely.
C: I compromise on my personal playing style, which would just frustrate me. This to me would feel like I would be playing in a cover band, playing music I don't like, for the sake of being in a band.

What would you do?

Edit: Thank you for the many responses and different view points, it has been very helpful.
I will definitely give the other guys a fair shot and play with them. Also I don't have a fair way to stop it, like many people pointed out correctly.
A little bit of context, this band project is entirely for fun. We did have previous drummers and second guitarists of course. This merger came about because the other bands drummer wanted to try out our band for over a month. Just a few days ago he said that their singer left and then he offered the idea of the merger.

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