u/WavingSun9

I'm still thinking about the time my MIL tried to enter my house bc she had a key for emergencies.

We are about to go on a trip.

A week Before this she tried to stay at our house with her sister and she wanted to bring along two of her friends so they could go shopping around the city.

I really don't know why she had to come to our house. She slightly visited us but really didn't pay much attention to my husband and I. It almost felt like she wanted to have a type of hotel situation and also keep an eye on us to make sure she can stay close. I was okay keeping her closeness for some time so that she would not feel alone, but then she started to have red flags pop up more and more.

She told me in advance that she wanted to stay while we were gone as a joke and that she was going to come whether I liked it or. I told her I was not comfortable, I would rather host her myself when I'm back home. I suspected she was not joking but actually serious.

So then I told my husband I wanted to change the keys bc of what she said. So later, while we were on vacation we watched her through our cameras trying to enter the home. She realized we changed the keys and had to leave. She was pissed.

I'm so furious thinking about everything she has done through the years. I'm fed up. I can't seem to let go of a lot of the constant wearing down and draining specifically this makes me feel disgusted, violated like she's some crazy person and I don't know what she's capable of.

There's more crap that she has done as far as mental/actual manipulation and abuse, passive, aggressiveness etc.

I tried so hard to balance my husband's love for her and my agency but I just can't do it anymore. I hate the harm she has done and it's hard to think of any ways to even be in the same room with her. My husband wants to have a talk with his family about it now.....

Been 20 yrs with my husband

I'm still thinking about the time my MIL tried to enter my house bc she had a key for emergencies.

We are about to go on a trip.

A week Before this she tried to stay at our house with her sister and she wanted to bring along two of her friends so they could go shopping around the city.

I really don't know why she had to come to our house. She slightly visited us but really didn't pay much attention to my husband and I. It almost felt like she wanted to have a type of hotel situation and also keep an eye on us to make sure she can stay close. I was okay keeping her closeness for some time so that she would not feel alone, but then she started to have red flags pop up more and more.

She told me in advance that she wanted to stay while we were gone as a joke and that she was going to come whether I liked it or. I told her I was not comfortable, I would rather host her myself when I'm back home. I suspected she was not joking but actually serious.

So then I told my husband I wanted to change the keys bc of what she said. So later, while we were on vacation we watched her through our cameras trying to enter the home. She realized we changed the keys and had to leave. She was pissed.

I'm so furious thinking about everything she has done through the years. I'm fed up. I can't seem to let go of a lot of the constant wearing down and draining specifically this makes me feel disgusted, violated like she's some crazy person and I don't know what she's capable of.

There's more crap that she has done as far as mental/actual manipulation and abuse, passive, aggressiveness etc.

I tried so hard to balance my husband's love for her and my agency but I just can't do it anymore. I hate the harm she has done and it's hard to think of any ways to even be in the same room with her. My husband wants to have a talk with his family about it now.....

Been 20 yrs with my husband