u/WayAutomatic4195

You’re probably thinking I’m a real chicken shit for coming here to ask this, and you would be right. My dad is a chronic cheater and has had several marriages. He is currently married to the most horrid woman who has obviously married him for his money. She treats all of us like shit and I’ve just had it.

A few years ago, he made out with another woman at a wedding and continues to see her. All of us (his kids) know about it. I have thought about telling my stepmom directly, but the irreparable harm this would do to my dad and I’s relationship is not worth it. Plus, I just don’t feel very “girls girl” towards someone who has treated me so poorly.

I am looking for someone to text her that he’s cheated on her. Preferably a California number since that is where the wedding was. I want no ties back to me, hence why I’m asking on Reddit.

Save your negative comments. Just looking for anyone willing to do me this solid.

Some background. I am a clinical social worker and trained therapist who got very burnt out and left the field. I’m sharing my background because I know the ethical code and do’s and dont’s with clients in this field. I went through a debilitating depression two years ago and found my therapist, who genuinely helped to save my life.

We are the same age. I actually became licensed before her but she was incredibly helpful when I was at my absolute lowest, so I stuck with her.

Recently, she began making statements about places she goes with her friends, one of them being a bar. She said I should check it out and I kind of blew it off. Once or twice she’s made statements that our relationship is “different,” and that we “get each other.” Again, I thought she just meant that we were on the same page about things and didn’t think anything of it.

The next session, she shared that she had found my dating profile. She said she looked at it and “it made her wonder how I was doing.” Still, I didn’t find this THAT weird.

Then, I got a text from her outside of session asking if her and I could meet at a rescue farm I volunteer at (and a place that is very sacred and special to me), and said it wouldn’t be a session, “free of charge” and that she’d, “love to experience that with me.”

Had I not been a clinical therapist myself, I wouldn’t know that there are strict rules for not seeing your client outside of therapy. It’s a major boundary issue and can get messy-fast. I’m even pretty sure that you could potentially lose your license if a client ever decides to report you to the board. They have these rules for a reason and the clinician in me is saying, “whoa! Not appropriate!”

I haven’t contacted her or written her back. I guess I lost my therapist because she borderline hit on me? I’m bummed because therapy has really helped me, but now I just feel weird seeing her again.

What do you guys think?